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Daddy's Home -- Adjusting to Life After Deployment (Webinar)
Wednesday, June 13, 2012 from 1:00 PM to 2:00 PM (PT)
Couples who have been separated by military deployment often look forward to a service member's return as a time of happiness, a chance to get back to "normal" life. Children look forward to having a missing parent back at home. The absent service member looks forward to a joyful reunion and the comforts of home. After a dangerous deployment, families are relieved that the service member is returning home safely.
When you’ve been away from each other for a period of time because a spouse has been deployed, it’s difficult to imagine that the reunion and the time you will have after the return home will be anything but wonderful, but that’s not always (and usually isn’t) the case.
Reunions are wonderful, but you can also find a different war zone that can begin between you if you don’t do what it takes to make your transition time together easier than just coming together and working things out on a “wing and a prayer.”
Husbands and wives worry that their spouse has changed, that there will be new strains in the relationship. Both partners may dread giving up the independence that being apart has allowed them, and may resent what they imagine as the freedom the other has enjoyed during deployment. While everyone looks forward happily to getting back together, they may also feel some anger at having been separated in the first place (a feeling that children sometimes express very openly).
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