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Alcohol and Drug Addiction Stage One
Alcohol and Drug Addiction- Stage One During the initial stage of addiction the addicts' character is permanently altered. T...
Sometimes, something new happens, like a sought after job, relationship, or a new living space. It can feel so exciting.....l...
Alcohol and Drug Addiction Stage Two
At this particular stage, the addict's life is breaking down emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally. this situatio...
350 People Die Of Addiction Each Day- Is It Time To Rethink Rehab?
Every year in the U.S., 120,000 people die of addiction. That’s 350 a day. Desperate to save the life of an addict, a ...
NAVIGATING THE STRESS OF THE HIGH SCHOOL YEARS
NAVIGATING THE STRESS OF THE HIGH SCHOOL YEARS by Carol Sampson, LCSW As the parent of a high school student and a therapis...
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I am always amazed when I read my Bible, how different God’s perspective is from ours. The things that God values are not our natural values. We value comfort, peace and happiness. God values the things that discomfort, distress and suffering accomplish in us.
Now, I’m a Marriage and Family Therapist. People come to me for help with the many difficulties in their lives they can’t seem to fix. And I believe God can use therapy to bring hope and healing to our hearts and our relationships. Many people ask me, “Doesn’t God want me to have a good marriage, obedient children and a balanced budget?” I believe God does want these blessings for us, but He has something far greater in mind for us than these earthly blessings.
The New Testament repeatedly emphasizes the concepts of suffering, trials and testing. Who in their right mind would want to suffer? Not me! I want only the good things God has to offer. But if we are satisfied with these earthly blessings...
Insights from Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend
Summarized by Molly Pierce, MA, LPC, NCC
What are boundaries?
What does a boundary look like?
Boundaries help us to define what is NOT on our property and what we are NOT responsible for. We are not, for example, responsible for other people. Nowhere are we commanded to have “other-control,” although we spend a lot of time and energy trying to get it!
People with poor boundaries struggle with saying no to the control, pressure, demands, and sometimes the real needs of others. They feel that if they say no to someone, they will endanger their relationship with that person, so they passively comply but inwardly resent. Sometimes a person is pressuring you to do something; other times the pressure comes from your own sense of what you ‘should’ do. If you cannot say no to this external or internal pressure, you have lost control of your property and are not enjoying the fruit of ‘self-control.’
Ever feel that you aren't complete unless you are in a relationship with someone? Ever find yourself in an endless pursuit of "the perfect person," the one who will bring a greater sense of "okayness" to yourself? Share
In today’s fast-paced world where a minute lost is a dollar spent it is becoming harder and harder for modern day Christians to separate their beliefs from their everyday actions and activities. Nowhere is this more apparent than in the workplace, where everything is subject to collective scrutiny.
Many practicing Christians in positions of authority or those whose roles require guiding and managing others are constantly realizing that it is much harder to actually “Practice what you Preach.” For those whose everyday activity involves the manipulation and fabrication of capital, this can be an even greater challenge. The term “greed is the route of all-evil” can be a bidirectional emotional conflict. It’s hard to be a Samaritan when all through the year your primary focus is on ensuring you attract the highest bonus.
Karina Cole, a counselor at Emotional Care Associates has hands-on experience with working in the world of business and finance, whil...
In today’s society everyone is looking for a way to ‘fix’ their problems. However, the role of the therapist isn’t like that of a surgeon, who carries out a routine procedure to correct a problem. The active ingredient in successful therapy is the relationship you develop with your therapist. The better this relationship is, the more effective your therapy will be. That said, it might be easier to develop a strong connection with a therapist who shares some of the beliefs and values that you do.
A common reality is that many therapists have been taught to keep an objective distance or to show a neutral face. This is often taught for the betterment of the client, so that they never impose their own thoughts, beliefs, views or intentions on the client.
Another possible reality is that the therapist’s views may clash with the client’s. For example, a counselor may not believe in monogamy or accept the teachings of the Bible, whereas the client is a Ch...
Pornography addiction usually starts out with casual viewing and progresses to an out-of-control addiction that destroys relationships, careers, families, and leads to extreme despair for the addict. The addict needs more frequent and intense pornography to achieve the same level of satisfaction as before. Even though the addict desires to stop, there are recurrent failures to curb and resist the impulses. The addict finds him/herself limiting social, occupational or recreational activities in order to engage in the addiction. Stopping pornography use will cause irritability, restlessness, depression, anxiety, headaches, and possible body aches.Women who suspect their husband’s porn addiction report a feeling of loneliness and a lack of emotional connection with their spouse. These women may feel they are not sexy or pretty enough and go to extremes to make themselves more sexually attractive or available. Many times this will include engaging in sexual acts they find degrading an...
True needs are permanent throughout the life cycle. If a child’s needs are never met, what are the implications for the adult phases of life?
It is without question that identity crisis, emotionally deprived individuals and those with personality disorders will exhibit many difficult obstacles that will be challenging in the progression from the varied life stages. This is the internal outcome of a confused and vulnerable person scarred by invisible wounds covered by his or her work. Even isolation is a reaction of the fear of being rejected. If challenged by anyone other than a skilled practitioner, violence is more than likely to be the reaction of limited choices. Even worst is the self-medicating remedy to hide the external torment, and denial or self-assurance leading to a false sense of confidence and control, now relying on an imaginary power that have not experience any real sense of maturation.
Socially unacceptable behavior as a normalcy of ones means of coping is the...
“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!” (2 Corinthians 5:17)
Many of us know this beautiful scripture, but who among us truly lives it? Where do we learn who we are and what is our value to the world? Is it possible that these answers evolve over time?
Growing up in a dysfunctional, possibly abusive family has become so common today that it challenges the very definition of “normal.” Divorce rates have maintained a rate above 50 percent for more than a decade. Regardless of the family structure, the reality is that many of us were not raised to be mentally healthy, securely attached children and in fact, many times were being raised by parents whom themselves were not mentally healthy as a result of their own up bringing.
Given this intergenerational pattern of “bad programming,” it is not surprising that so many of us grow up with a less than stellar view of ourselves. Perhaps you learned as ...
Christmas, Hanukkah, New Years, Winter Solstice, we refer to them all as the holidays.
Although we wish each other Happy... Holidays, there appear to be many folks who don't feel too happy during December. There are better ways to celebrate this year so you don't feel crunched by Christmas.
Consider what you are really celebrating and say "no" to events and stresses that clutter what's important.
Many people say what is really important to them at this time of year is family and spending time with the people who really matter to them. However, they find themselves so busy with holiday events that the special time they'd really like to spend with their loved ones eludes them year after year. This year instead of a gift exchange among adults, consider sharing a special event or just time together.
In recent years, I have received several greeting cards from friends and family who have placed in their card a picture of a gift give...
This Thanksgiving I want to pass on a little wisdom that guides my life. I believe that every single thing that happens to us in our lives is a blessing, and I mean everything. I can now look back on my life and explain every trauma, every horrible thing that once cast me as a victim, as a beautiful blessing that caused me to grow and strengthened me in some way. Each thing has increased my knowledge and has given me the experience and wisdom that I pass onto other people who are stuck or suffering.
It was not always like this. I used to be angry and felt victimized by my very abusive childhood. Or later on by a very unjust situation that landed me in jail for 16 months. Talk about angry and confused, feeling I was a victim! By human standards I was a victim, though by a more expanded, enlightened view I came to be grateful and even happy I had these experiences.
When I go to bed each night and when I awake each morning I always find myself thanking God for EVERYTHING in my life, all...
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