Communication Category

Authenticity in my practice

Starting my own hypnotherapy practice has been anything but straightforward. As with anything new, I'm struggling to find my own voice and a clear path. It seemed so simple at first.

Authenticity and transparency are qualities that I have struggled to embody in my life and my relationships. I'm a child of the 60s and, as an impressionable teenager, I assimilated many of the core beliefs of the hippy generation: An anti-establishment, anti-capitalistic, almost anarchic philosophical and political stance; a strong belief in the goodness and power of people; respect of people's freedom and the reality of their experience. My spiritual life has been a patchwork of Buddhist, Hindu, Taoist beliefs and, at this point, I'm pragmatic with no religious affiliations. The Universe is impersonal and is ruled by certain laws. If I allow negativity to rule my life, I will attract more of the same. If I allow positivity to guide me, like attracts like.

As an entrepreneur, how can I reconcile being s...

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Relationships: Start Strong and Stay Strong

Relationships – Start Strong and Stay Strong Relationships can be resilient and enduring. It’s important to go in with your eyes wide open and to do ‘your part’ to nurture the relationship. Know yourself and what you want out of the relationship. When you get right with yourself, it opens up the door to opportunities that directly relate to developing a strong union. Contentment and happiness come from inside and are major contributions to ‘doing your part’ in your relationship. Enter a relationship with realistic expectations. Don’t expect your spouse to support his/her needs and all of yours too. You are ultimately responsible to support yourself emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually. Work on thinking positively. Search for the meaning in your life. Continue to learn. These are opportunities to develop your self for a richer, more satisfying life. ***

While complete independence is neither possible nor desirable, by standing on your ow...

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Questions from an Aspiring Therapist (And Useful Information for a Better Awareness)

Questions from an Aspiring Therapist (And Useful Information for a Better Awareness)

Why did you become a Mental Health counselor? All my experiences, including other careers, friends and travels have convinced me that I should be in this field. Teachers and professors have proven to me that one person can change another person’s life. Community, normalization and empathy are possible when people have similar experiences. My pains will and have served as awareness, relief and understanding and most of all HOPE. Holding Onto Positive Expectations – Even the most tragic experience can turn out to be a blessing e.g. organ donating. Someone must die for someone else to live. In the case of a therapist, we offer relief to people through our education and experiences. I have come to understand that reasons exist and experiences are not necessarily random. If something sticks out to you (in any situation) pay attention to it. ***

2. Explain your experiences with taking the exam ...

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On Marriage

Have you ever wondered why people get married? It’s no longer a necessity in modern day, so why is that piece of paper still so important to some of us? Why do people get married in the first place? There are a number of different reasons that people marry. Only you can decide if it’s right for you. It is certainly beneficial and respectful to the commitment of marriage that two people enter the union with their eyes open. Marriages that are born on faulty ground can be doomed before the ceremony. The following reasons to get married are in themselves, not enough to ensure the best beginning in planting the seed that we all hope will grow into a lasting relationship. If that’s what you’re working toward, the following list may be warning signs that that readiness and rightness are not adequate and that you might not be quite prepared to have a relationship built on a solid foundation.

On Marriage - Have you ever wondered why people get married? It’s no lo...

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When Bitterness Invades

No one wants to be bitter. It creeps up on us. Bitterness is unforgiveness on steroids. The more we hold onto past hurts the more we become tanked-up on our pain; robbing us of happiness.

Bitterness happens when we hold on to the hurt in an attempt to remind ourselves of the unfairness we’ve experienced with an expectation that someone will save us and return what we’ve lost.

So what can we do to avoid bitterness in the first place or get out from under it if we’re already there?


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Teaching Kids: To Pray

Teaching children to pray is a vital part of familiarizing them to Jesus and strengthening their relationship with God. Christ gave us prayer so we could connect with him directly. Making children comfortable with prayer helps them to understand that God is always close and available.

Part Two in our series on Teaching Kids: To.... Part One featured Teaching Kids: To Know God.

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Six Key Factors To Assess in Yourself and Others

Assess Six Factors in Others and Yourself

Whether you are learning about a prospective mate, deciding on a new business partner, or resolving a current problem with a friend or family member, here are six factors to consider.

First and Foremost: a well-developed sense of responsibility

  • Words and actions match;
  • agreed-upon division of labor
  • No withdrawing from difficult situations or blaming another and venting and ranting

Second: Self-Awareness: how well you know yourself

  • and how well someone knows him or herself.
  • Knowing oneself requires you think clearly about your desires and values. 
  • Until you see someone in a variety of situations you won’t know if he can be respectful when angry or communicative when stressed
  • Most people do not lie; they may however employ self-deceptive thinking telling you what they believe to be true about themselves

Third: know what someone values

  • If you know what matters to someone you will be able to adjust your expecta...

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The 5 C's to Resolving Parent-Teen Conflict

Ahh... The good old summer time; the time of summer vacations, summer movies, summer camps, summer jobs, and for some kids, the dreaded summer school! Indeed, for most kids and teens, summer is filled with staying up late and sleeping in even later. For parents, however, summertime can be a time when conflict with one's teen is magnified.

Ever had a teen that not only sleeps all day and eats you out of house and home, but in today's technologically driven world, seems to have grown an extra appendage...a cell phone. Teens these days can't seem to put it down. It’s with them when they awaken and when they go to sleep; it’s with them at the breakfast table and the dinner table; it’s even with them when they go to the restroom. Yes, today's teens seem to believe that putting their cell phone down for just one minute would be akin to chopping of an appendage such as their hand, or foot. Does the following vignette sound familiar to you?

Parent: "Hello (insert name of te...

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Cell Phones and Relationships

Cell Phones and Relationships

Time Together & Apart

Both the quantity and quality of time we spend together influence the well being of our friendships, family interactions and intimate relationships. Spending time apart, participating in other activities is also of great value and influences a relationship, especially a romantic one. A healthy relationship needs balance: time to interact with family, friends, colleagues, self and definitely quality time with your significant other. Balance in the relationship is a necessary rung toward success.

Researchers from the University of Essex found that people who engaged in personal discussions when a cell phone was nearby, even if neither was actually using it, reported lower relationship quality and less trust for their partner. They also felt that their partner was less empathic to their concerns (Kerner, 2013). Among the complaints: “he doesn’t look at me when I’m talking;“ “she’s always nagging...

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Acceptance and Appreciation of Differences

Imagine for a moment how much healthier, happier, and safe our world would/could be if we all had a true and deep appreciation, respect, and acceptance of one another and our differences….

When people think of differences, the more obvious ones immediately come to mind, including race, ethnicity, religion, physical ability, or economic status. Then there are those differences not so obvious to the naked eye, such as sexual orientation, cultural beliefs, lessons learned early on in life, developmental differences, and communication styles. I once worked with a couple who initially presented with issues around communicating. They stated they were “fighting a lot about just about anything” and “we got along great at the beginning of our relationship but now everything seems to be a power and control struggle.” Over the course of three or four sessions, it became more clear to me (as the therapist) just how much of this couple’s initial attraction to ea...

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