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What to Do About Your Little Boy Husband
By Matt W. Sandford, LMHCI don’t mean to stereotype (too much), but do you think that husbands or boyfriends come in &l...
Feeling Behind in Life: The Myth of the Self Made Man(Person)
By Matt W. Sandford, LMHCI often talk with people who are struggling because they feel that they are behind in life in some w...
Sexual Trauma and Men - A Path to Thriving
Talking about sexual assault, sexual abuse, and rape is difficult for anyone. For men, it has it’s own unique challenge...
3 Ways to Tackle Anxiety
Matt W. Sandford, LMHC Everyone worries, but not everyone worries the same way. Everyone worries but not everyone is affecte...
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An ever increasing number of people suffer from depression in 2014. Generally, doctors believe that depression is mostly biol...
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Cognitive behavior therapy. Not an old adage, not archaic, nor narrow. In
order to understand an individual and their choices and the behaviors that
follow, you must recognize their behaviors or choices involve all aspects
of the brain, the individual’s interaction with their environment, and
the various components of their life from birth to the current age of the
person. Specifically, drug and sex offenders, develop their behaviors based on numerous
factors. It all begins from their first experiences in life. As they grow
and interact with their environment (people, places, situations, parents,
schools, church etc) their behaviors or choices are made based upon how
they perceive their behaviors, other people’s behaviors and the results
of their choices. Many things interact during choices such as brain
chemistry, the pleasure, displeasure, and how each person perceives good or
bad feelings, choices, etc.
A therapeutic alliance is formed with the client first and foremost before
I had been experiencing chronic pain for many years. So in order to "walk the healer's walk," I decided to try a new method of pain relief: Acupuncture. In a word, "wow!" It was practically painless, incredibly relaxing and, best of all, I feel so good. Now don't misunderstand me, I still will continue to do meditation and Reiki on myself. But I am so impressed with Acupuncture. The really neat part is that I opened my mind to trying it (and the idea that it would work once I did try it). What about you, are you in physical or emotional pain? Have you ever considered trying something different to alleviate the pain (other than Alleve that is)? Trying something different can be an alternative therapy like EFT, Reiki, Hypnosis, Yoga, Acupuncture, Thai Chi or meditation. A different approach could just a different approach by you to the way that you are doing things right now. Or it could be a combination of both ideas. Once we open our minds up to new possibilities, really anything is po...
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There is still a stigma attached to getting counseling; so many couples put it off way too long. Either they don’t want to acknowledge there’s a problem or they think it will eventually go away on its own. Women have a tendency to tolerate a bad marriage, then “fall out of love” with their partner. By the time the couple decides to face the important issues, it’s too late. The woman has moved on emotionally, stating that she’s been telling her husband her concerns for years, but he wasn’t hearing her. Though I am stereotyping here, this is a common scenario. Of course, the roles can be reversed.
This leads to the question, “When should you get marriage counseling?” What is a normal disagreement? When are your issues pressing enough to seek out help from a therapist? Here are some guidelines.
- When negative exchange outweighs positive exchange and communication has become increasingly hostile. This could also include avoidance. Ar...
Have you experienced Dating Violence? Has your Teen experienced Dating Violence? Teens and parents are often unaware that teens do experience dating violence. It's not talked about and difficult to bring up.
Unfortuantley about 1 in 5 women and nearly 1 in 7 men have experienced rape, physical violence, and or stalking by an intimate partner. Even even sadder to imagine that some youth have experienced dating violence as young as 11 years of age.
Teens who are psychologically or physically assaulted can experience long term mental health and physically risks. Teens who experience a partner who insulted or disrespected the them in front of others, cursed at them, threatened them with violence, shoved them, or threw objects at them are more likely to exhibit antisocial behaviours, have suicidal ideation, binge drink, be depressed, think about suicide, smoke or smoke marijuana at the 5-year follow-up mark.
Both female and male participants who experienced some form of dating violence f...
There are three things that make up our state of being: What we do, what we feel and what we say. I'd like to focus on the latter. Many people will tell their story, good or bad, over and over, until that "story" becomes their life. If it's a good story, then this is wonderful! But what if it's a sad or painful story; Something that makes them unhappy? A better way to tell your "story" is while doing Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). EFT is a form of energy work that eliminates any blockages in our system. These blockages cause emotional or physical pain. Telling your "story" during EFT is different. It allows you to work through any issues in your story; to see your story in a new light and to reveal the truth about it. Telling your story while doing EFT is about being productive and making your story count!
As a therapist, I have come to provide counseling services to men, women and children for at least 12 years. In that time, I have served the inner city population, military population, incarcerated population, affluent and military populations. You name it, I have worked with each social class, culture race, age etc. I do not claim to know everything there is to know about Domestic Violence and what it does to the human psyche. What I do know is that Violence is the second word that often gets forgotten in the description of Domestic Violence. What some people dont understand is that the pain of Violence in the home is often the most destructive cancer that plagues many people. Whether people observe it as a child or are abused themselves as a child or adult, the result is the same. The Violence warrants the act of secrecy and shame. If you talk about it, you may be threatened by death or the fear that you are responsible for the destruction of your family.
What goes on in the ho...
True needs are permanent throughout the life cycle. If a child’s needs are never met, what are the implications for the adult phases of life?
It is without question that identity crisis, emotionally deprived individuals and those with personality disorders will exhibit many difficult obstacles that will be challenging in the progression from the varied life stages. This is the internal outcome of a confused and vulnerable person scarred by invisible wounds covered by his or her work. Even isolation is a reaction of the fear of being rejected. If challenged by anyone other than a skilled practitioner, violence is more than likely to be the reaction of limited choices. Even worst is the self-medicating remedy to hide the external torment, and denial or self-assurance leading to a false sense of confidence and control, now relying on an imaginary power that have not experience any real sense of maturation.
Socially unacceptable behavior as a normalcy of ones means of coping is the...
October is Domestic Violence Awareness month. This awareness works in combination with breast cancer awareness (also this month), as both are significant issues affecting women. Check out the events in your community and see what you can learn about intimate partner abuse, historically referred to Domestic Violence. Avon, Mary Kay Cosmetics are two companies working actively to eradicate partner abuse. Purchases with either or both companies this month are offering options for a portion of proceeds to go toward prevention and healing of women harmed by partner abuse. Do something positive for yourself and your community today!
Life is full of circumstances where one person takes advantage of other, hurts another, or falls prey to random accidents. That doesn’t make one a victim. The dictionary defines “victim” as “a person who suffers from a destructive or injurious action or agency.” The key word in that definition is suffers. Being subject to unwanted actions is just part of living. Suffering is optional.
We all experience negative things that we wish never happened. That’s just part of life. But some of us pick ourselves up, learn from the moment and see it as a moment rather than an event that defines us as weak, unworthy, or somehow broken. Since we have a choice on how we choose to define our life events, why choose to see them as defeating? Why not focus on the survival rather than the tragedy?
While you may not have had any control over the past, you do have control over the present. Today, you are not suffering from whatever happened in the past. Today is a new ...
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