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Serenity Prayer: Tool for Emotional Health
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The flow of our life is a lot like that of a river. It ebbs and flows. It can be icy and rigid or smooth and flowing. Sometimes it is wild and windy, other times it is clear and calm. When the latter happens, that river must have had a sense of equilibrium. By definition, equilibrium means "the condition of a system in which all competing influences are balanced, in a wide variety of contexts." The key word here is balanced! Similar to a river, A person's life must be balanced to achieve equilibrium or what the Chinese call Yin and Yang. It is no coincidence that we are so much like water as our bodies are made up of 70% water (and the earth's surface is the same). Water and electricity are also very similar. Both are made up of currents (energy) and both seek the easiest route -this is why rivers flood and why people get shocks (I was going to say electrocuted but I want to keep this blog positive). Just like water what we are always seeking is that perfect equilibrium or balance in o...
Are you a person who lives a stressed out life? Do you just seem to drown in your own misery-and enjoy doing it? Like the old expression says, “Your attitude is the only card you have to play." The beauty of it is that your attitude is controlled by your subconscious mind. So if you are choosing to be 'stressed,' then your subconscious mind must get some benefit from this. Or else you would not do it (habits work the same way btw). So if you choose to see life as a “high stress,” you can easily get stuck in this vicious cycle. The question is how do you get out of it? It is really easy. Go out the exact way that you came in-through the power of your mind (thoughts). To really succeed at this, it is so important to utilize healing therapies like EFT, Reiki and Hypnosis-the latter especially works on opening up your mind to the possibility of a harmonious (stress free) life. And once your subconscious mind is opened up to the possibility of this, then what follows is, n...
I get contacted by people who ask me to help them with habits like smoking, overeating, stress and pain. It is so important to realize that these habits are merely symptoms of a larger issue. While the client and I may recognize the symptoms (habits), we do not really spend a lot of time or energy on them. There is something causing the "symptoms" to manifest -that is the real issue that we work on. For example, the bad habits that are associated with overeating may be caused by the stress of a bad relationship (for example a job, a place they live or another person). If this is the case, then we work together to change the "bad" relationship.-This can mean changing the way the client perceives the relationship to potentially eliminating that relationship from their life or anything in between! And, need I say it? We use EFT Hypnosis and Reiki to work on the real issue. Focusing not on symptoms, but on what is causing them (the real issue) is truly the only way to rid anyone of habits ...
What is the secret to any good relationship? I'll give you a hint, it starts with a "C" and ends with "ompromise." Yes compromise. No good relationship can exist without it! Compromise, by definition, is "an agreement or a settlement of a dispute that is reached by each side making concessions." Each side must give up something before either side gets anything. While some people struggle with this, it is truly easy. One of the best (and easiest) ways to accomplish compromise is to empathize with the other person. By definition, to empathize is to, "understand and share the feelings of another." To do this , we must pretend we are that person in any way that we can do so-talking, acting like, imagining (hmmm-sounds like, a job for ...hypnosis!). Once we empathize only then can we truly understand what the other person might want and why. And that's what they call compromise-the key to success in All relationships.
Along with talking about what is wrong with you, one of the common mistakes people make is giving their "vices" a name. Giving a name to something gives that "something" power. The "something" then becomes real in your subconscious mind. And this is the worst thing that can happen. It is certainly better to spend less time talking about our emotional or physical issues (unless doing so with EFT). It is better for us to meditatively ask for what is causing the issue to resolve (EFT, hypnosis , Reiki). Keep in mind, the minute we name the issue, it grows from a potentially small thing to a large issue. A good analogy would be the way that Hurricanes are named. While they are smaller tropical storms, they are never named. But once they are large enough, they are named and that is when all the damage happens. Same thing happens inside our minds-all the damage happens once we give something a name.
Balance is certainly tough to find in our hectic modern lifestyle. Balance in our lives is divided into 3 areas: Mental Balance, Physical balance and Spiritual Balance. Mental Balance is the idea of challenging your mind. Many people get this at work. For those of us who don’t there’s sudoku, crossword puzzles, reading and games-fun things like board games, cards, puzzles and challenges. The best part is-because its fun, we are getting smarter just by doing it. Physical Balance is challenging yourself physically everyday with activity. You don’t have to run a marathon-just get moving-walk, jog, carry groceries a few extra feet. Spiritual balance is basically your guiding force. This could be God or gods, the universe or a totem pole (my personal favorite). You need to pay attention to them (or it). to be spiritually balanced
remember that you need to work your way up slowly to achieve your goals. When I started doing pushups at age 14, I could do 5. Now I can do 500. R...
If there is anything that this winter has taught us, it is patience. It seems it has either been really cold or really snowy all winter long. For some of us, this is fine. I am not one of those people! And I do not love the extreme heat either. However, a bit of warmth and clear ground never hurt anyone, right? The type of winter we've had has really tried the patience of many people. But what really is the definition of 'patience?' According to Wikipedia, this is it: 'the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.' But how do we do this? The best answer that I know is diversion! Yes, diversion! The computer is a great example. You can have multiple windows open, work on each one just a bit at a time and get a lot done (or you can open one window and get "angry or upset." while waiting for the website to process). Other examples might be doing indoor projects while waiting for warmer weather. Reading a good book while waiting for a bus o...
We have an expression at my house and it is "let it sit." What it means is, when there is a decision to be made, just wait for a while. Weigh your options, think it through, talk to people about it (especially with experts in the issue), then make your move! Throughout my nearly 53 years on earth, I have found this mode of thinking to work for me (and my family) countless times. Conversely, when I have made a snap decision, I have almost always regretted it. Of course there are times when a snap decision is necessary: Like our recent run in with a frozen water pipe-but 99% of the time things can wait. What about you? Are you a patient person? Have you applied the "let it sit" mentality in your own life? If so, I'll bet it worked for you too! In our fast paced culture, it may be a bit more challenging to "let it sit" but it is always the best way way to go.
One of the first questions that I ask my clients is, what do you want? Almost always the immediate answer is "well, I know what I DO NOT want." At which point I redirect the client and again ask, “but, what it is you really WANT?" This is a question that many people do not ever think about. In fact most people think about, act and speak about what they DO NOT want. Remember, we are made up of those three things: what we think, what we do and what we say. And they are all interconnected. Let’s tackle them one at a time-We are what we think. For example our lives, good, bad or in between are made up of our thoughts -good, bad or in between. If we focus on the positive, then that is what we get it in our lives! The same holds try for our actions, which of course follow the course of our thoughts exactly-another area I focus on with my clients (with hypnosis, reiki, eft). And last but not least, we are what we say. For example, if we spend all our time complaining about an issu...
Your mind is made up of two parts: the conscious and subconscious. The conscious part is very, very small and is basically the few seconds of time that are in front of you. The subconscious part of your mind is infinitely larger. It seamlessly controls all of your body systems (heart, lungs, organs, etc) and remembers everything we have ever done (since conception). Comparing the two parts of your mind is like comparing your kitchen to the universe. Another important part of the subconscious mind to think about is the fact that it controls all of our actions. Let us use weight loss as an example. You may consciously think about losing weight but this has very little do do with actual weight loss. Your subconscious mind must BELIEVE that you really want to change your eating and exercise habits. Once the subconscious mind believes this, then it is so easy. All action that follows this "thinking" is automatic-very similar to the idea that we don't have to consciously "think" about our bo...
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