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Wait. Now that you are a grown up person, who is making the rules for your life? Who is telling you what to do?&n...
Healing Grief: Help For Grief Online
Grief is an overwhelmingly painful experience when you've lost someone you love through separation or death. The bond of love...
What to Do About Your Little Boy Husband
By Matt W. Sandford, LMHCI don’t mean to stereotype (too much), but do you think that husbands or boyfriends come in &l...
Feeling Behind in Life: The Myth of the Self Made Man(Person)
By Matt W. Sandford, LMHCI often talk with people who are struggling because they feel that they are behind in life in some w...
3 Ways to Tackle Anxiety
Matt W. Sandford, LMHC Everyone worries, but not everyone worries the same way. Everyone worries but not everyone is affecte...
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An ever increasing number of people suffer from depression in 2014. Generally, doctors believe that depression is mostly biological and they treat the condition with prescribed medication. Unfortunately, medication has side effects that alter your body and your brain in more ways than you can imagine.
Depression can cause you to feel hopeless, pessimistic, tired and low in energy. When you’re depressed you feel like you’re in a dark hole and you can’t see the light outside. This hellish state of being may motivate you to seek relief in any form. Medication is the quickest way and doesn’t involve delving deep within your psyche to uncover the possible source of the darkness.
There are a few studies that show the effectiveness of hypnosis in treating depression by changing the quality of your perspective on life on a subconscious level . Research demonstrates that suggestions to the subconscious mind can transform a negative point of view into a more optimistic,...
Our Beliefs and Our Dreams
We tell ourselves stories and convince ourselves of beliefs daily. We believe that life is difficult, that we must work hard to be successful and financially stable, that if we stop worrying about bad things, they will actually happen to us, and a variety of other beliefs. Why? You picked up these beliefs from other people, your parents, your friends, the media. A belief is just a thought you keep thinking and part of growing up is determining which of these beliefs are your own and which were passed on to you from someone else. In developing a sense of critical thinking, as a free human being you can decide which ones serve you and which to discard.
For any change or transformation that you want to make in your life, you must first visualize yourself doing or thinking or living that life you imagine. Any change that is not first visualized and believed will not stick. How can you change your life if you don’t believe that you can?
You must first dis...
Self-esteem and resiliency
Recently, I was thinking about self-esteem and how it has been reviled and misused since its implementation in U.S. schools, beginning in the late 1980s until 2002. Well-intentioned lawmakers declared that people who had high self-esteem would be immune to drug addiction, crime and a plethora of social ills.
Naturally, there was a strong backlash against this self-esteem movement. As an example of its opposite, China is often cited as a nation of high-achieving children who were verbally abused by their parents to motivate them to succeed.
The truth of the matter is that true self-esteem comes from within and results from the recognition of our unique strengths and abilities, while also acknowledging our weaknesses. It is part of building a strong, healthy sense of self in the world. Real self-esteem and acceptance of ourselves cannot be shaken by life’s hardships and obstacles and may actually help foster resiliency. And with each obstacle we overco...
Are you living a balanced life?What does the word balance mean to you anyway? Do you conjure up an image of a tight rope walker at the circus when you hear it?
Balance is certainly tough to find in our hectic modern lifestyle.Traditionally, balance is divided into 3 areas: Mental Balance, Physical balance and Spiritual Balance. I’d like to add a 3A: Moral Balance-all right it could be part of Spiritual-but hey, I’m trying to impress you here!
Mental Balance is basically challenging your mind. Many of us get this at work-maybe too much! For those of us who don’t there’s sodoku, crossword puzzles, reading and games. Not head games-board games, cards, stuff like that. I play them with my twin girls all the time. The best part is-because its fun, they don’t know that they are getting smarter just by doing it!
Physical Balance is challenging yourself physically everyday with activity. You don’t have to run a marathon-just ...
As a hypnotherapist, I have been infuenced by my studies in psychology and counseling in my approach to the client-therapist relationship. Carl Rogers believed that a therapist who demonstrated positive, unconditional acceptance and regard of the client, expressed empathy and active listening, and who was unafraid to show himself as a fallible human being, laid the groundwork for a fulfilling and ultimately a healing relationship.
Like Carl Rogers, I do not set myself up as the expert in the field of my client's wellbeing. i am simply the guide towards my client's subconscious, which some say is the home of the best as well as the scariest, emotional and spiritual material. For the most part, I prefer to focus on helping the client to bring to the surface the most empowering subconscious material in order to make it manifest in his or her daily life. Sometimes, the subconscious guides us to an event or an emotional feeling from childhood, where we will try to identify and alleviate th...
The ways in which hypnosis can help are almost limitless.
Anxiety, Depression, Recurring Negative Thoughts
Each one of us experiences challenges in our daily lives. Some of these challenges can be triggered by life's events and our reactions to them. Some of them are deeply embedded in our inner emotional landscape. When in a hypnotic state, we can be made more aware of our subconscious beliefs and how they affect our thoughts and behaviors.
In our daily lives, we develop coping mechanisms in response to our stresses and emotional states. It can be smoking, nervous tics (nail biting, foot tapping etc.), overeating, or other self-defeating and unhealthy behaviors. Hypnosis can help by uncovering what triggers these behaviors at the source.
Soul or spirit
Some people believe that we came into our present bodies to bring spiritual light and vibrations to this denser, material reality. Hypnosis can help yus connect to your Higher Self and to learn to recognize its ...
The power of hypnosis is incredibly subtle and quiet. Following a hypnosis session, changes began to happen at a level just below awareness because they are taking place in the subconscious mind. In my experience, clients forget that the changes started happening while in the hypnotic session and believe that they are occurring randomly.
The greatest satisfaction for me is to witness the clarity of recognition in clients as they become aware that our work began when the client decided to contact me to schedule an appointment. From that point onward, we became a team and the power of two people working towards a common goal using the power of the subconscious mind can be extremely strong.
I believe that each one of us has within us an immense store of possibilities and capacities, way beyond our imagination. By tapping into that well, we unleash powerful forces for change and for spiritual and emotional transformation. In general, most clients I've met have low self esteem, which tend...
The flow of our life is a lot like that of a river. It ebbs and flows. It can be icy and rigid or smooth and flowing. Sometimes it is wild and windy, other times it is clear and calm. When the latter happens, that river must have had a sense of equilibrium. By definition, equilibrium means "the condition of a system in which all competing influences are balanced, in a wide variety of contexts." The key word here is balanced! Similar to a river, A person's life must be balanced to achieve equilibrium or what the Chinese call Yin and Yang. It is no coincidence that we are so much like water as our bodies are made up of 70% water (and the earth's surface is the same). Water and electricity are also very similar. Both are made up of currents (energy) and both seek the easiest route -this is why rivers flood and why people get shocks (I was going to say electrocuted but I want to keep this blog positive). Just like water what we are always seeking is that perfect equilibrium or balance in o...
Are you a person who lives a stressed out life? Do you just seem to drown in your own misery-and enjoy doing it? Like the old expression says, “Your attitude is the only card you have to play." The beauty of it is that your attitude is controlled by your subconscious mind. So if you are choosing to be 'stressed,' then your subconscious mind must get some benefit from this. Or else you would not do it (habits work the same way btw). So if you choose to see life as a “high stress,” you can easily get stuck in this vicious cycle. The question is how do you get out of it? It is really easy. Go out the exact way that you came in-through the power of your mind (thoughts). To really succeed at this, it is so important to utilize healing therapies like EFT, Reiki and Hypnosis-the latter especially works on opening up your mind to the possibility of a harmonious (stress free) life. And once your subconscious mind is opened up to the possibility of this, then what follows is, n...
I get contacted by people who ask me to help them with habits like smoking, overeating, stress and pain. It is so important to realize that these habits are merely symptoms of a larger issue. While the client and I may recognize the symptoms (habits), we do not really spend a lot of time or energy on them. There is something causing the "symptoms" to manifest -that is the real issue that we work on. For example, the bad habits that are associated with overeating may be caused by the stress of a bad relationship (for example a job, a place they live or another person). If this is the case, then we work together to change the "bad" relationship.-This can mean changing the way the client perceives the relationship to potentially eliminating that relationship from their life or anything in between! And, need I say it? We use EFT Hypnosis and Reiki to work on the real issue. Focusing not on symptoms, but on what is causing them (the real issue) is truly the only way to rid anyone of habits ...
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