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People often ask me how I do the work that I do, and I usually give them some variation of the following answer:
I’ve found, over the past few years, that I’ve learned to dig deep for my own sense of hopefulness. I’ve learned to trust that everyone sitting across from me is doing the absolutely utmost that they can be doing at any given moment, and that their inherent impulse towards growth and change will guide them to seek health, to seek new ways of handling life, and to move towards a greater sense of well-being.
The trouble is, there are moments when I don’t believe that. They are fleeting, but they sneak up on me when things are feeling so stuck, so impassable, for my clients (or myself), that I begin to feel as though we’re sitting in tar. This is what deep depression feels like. This is what chronic pain feels like, and unresolved trauma, and systemic oppressions like racism and rape culture, and never seeming to get a break no matter how hard yo...
The possible dangers of establishing an online courtship have garnered massive media attention. “Catfishing”, as it’s been dubbed in the social media world, is the art of engaging an unsuspecting person in a romantic online courtship with an individual that is falsified by another person seeking attention. With online dating quickly rising as a way for people to meet, connect and start relationships, it is important to know the warning signs and protect yourself emotionally and physically from those who are utilizing a deceitful online persona.
Choose Your Sites Wisely
If you’re choosing the online dating route, make sure to align yourself with verified and reputable dating sites such as Match.com. Using a site not geared to dating, like Facebook to start a relationship (unless reconnecting with someone you’ve met before in person) can increase your chances of meeting someone who is using a fake profile and picture to meet others.
Use technology to...
Back in the 1980’s, while living in New York City, I saw a therapist, named Dr. Isabella Bick for a couple of years who really made a difference for me. It was not her great therapeutic skills, necessarily, although I am sure she was skilled enough, but for me it was this warm, consistent, non-judgmental, supportive, presence that listened to me with care. I don’t remember most of our sessions over the couple of years that I saw her, except for one that made all the difference for me. I have since thought of that session many times because it was the one session that sticks out in my mind as having had an impact on how I proceeded with my life.
The session that I am referring to, was one in which we were exploring my struggles around making my way in the world independent of my family. I was living alone in NYC with my dog, Picasso and working in the art business. I had started my own art consulting company, and was having a lot of difficulty managing my time, being on foc...
Horse whisperer Buck Brannaman has lessons for therapists, parents and partners! I am watching a workshop on a gorgeous Saturday. Buck is talking about how riders often ask their horses to do things without knowing whether the horse was picking up the rear right or left leg thereby causing the horse to lose balance much of the time. In other words, riders often do not cooperate with the needs of the horse and that creates resistance. This blew the minds of most people in the audience and the people taking the lesson.
We often do this with our children our partners and our clients. It points to the importance of timing and attentiontion to the rhythms of the other. Classic examples of problems in this area include: trying to have sex when the other person is tired, trying to have a conversation in the middle of a major football game; not making up before going to bed; failing to hug and kiss upon coming home.
Part of what blew everyone's mind was that Buck ...
Sometimes our childhood places do not invoke pleasant memories.As an adult, we recognize that memories from our childhood can play out in our adult world in challenging ways.
With a trained therapist, you will be able to break down psychological resistance. This resistance often disguises itself as defense mechanisms. By doing this, you can better understand how your behavior today stems from your childhood memories and experiences.
So how do you do all of this?
Embrace the bad memory. Accept who you are and how your life is today.Muster up the strength so that you can mentally say “This is the feeling that I have dreaded. I have felt it and faced it completely. Now, I can let the feeling go.”Cultivate a positive self-image connecting you to the present rather than the past. Practice mindful breathing. Cleansing your mind and body helps lift your spirits and can eliminate unpleasant associations to memories.Reconnect with the current happenings and people in your life. R...
“Just be yourself.” What would that feel like? Because we have been conditioned since we were born, it is sometimes very difficult to know who WE really are. We grow up observing our parent’s views and beliefs, we model after our friends and family, and then we also have society’s expectations of who we are supposed to be.As we grow up and enter into relationships, we tend to learn certain things about ourselves. Right now, think back at some of your relationships. Were you able to be your true self?
After you get to know someone, you tend to relax, your walls come down, and then you can begin to trust this person. We are now able to be more of ourselves.
Parallel to this idea, when you allow your partner to be themselves, without criticizing or placing judgments, you create a safe place for them to feel comfortable with you.
We tend to trust those who don’t disapprove of us for our thoughts or past experiences. We are close to others that allow us to e...
"If you begin to understand what you are without trying to change it, then what you are undergoes a transformation." -Jiddu Krishnamurti
Whether we welcom change or approach it with trepidation, we know that living in a state of flux is constant. Our world is filled with change. Many of us have experienced change in our environments, our relationships, or our finances. How do we adapt, become malleable, and thrive with so many transitions around us? I so often find my client's sense-of-self lost in these transitions and life changes.
For many of us, change has encompassed leaving our communities, failed relationships, job dissatisfactions, or family issues. These demands may force us to make powerful changes that we may or may not be ready for in our lives.
How can we find clarity in a world that is constantly changing? With all of the external demands of life how do we navigate our way through the world? Do we choose to live our lives as an obser...
I'll bet you know the old saying: There are only two certainties in life; Death and taxes? I would like to add a third certainty and that is, change. Change is an integral part of life. Summer turns to Fall and then to Winter and everywhere except New England, to Spring. Our bodies changes so much that every seven years we physically become an entirely new person. Rivers and oceans change via the tide amongst many other things.The trick to understanding change is to learn to accept it. Is this easy? not always. Is it effective? Yes! In situations where change is slow, we have time to gradually adjust. When change happens quickly, we must adjust faster. But adjust we must. Because change is an unavoidable part of life.
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August 13, 2013
A tear slowly rolled down my cheek as we stood in the airport, at the interface between insecurity and the security zone. The point at which goodbyes are said. The awkward transition between the known and the unknown. Hundreds of people around me were saying goodbye to family...to friends...to business colleagues. I stood awkwardly with my hands in my pockets watching my sixteen year old daughter holding her two year old brother tightly, asking for yet another kiss. The final kiss before daughter put down brother and walked through the security line towards the plane that would take her to South America...to Chile. To a long way away.
She was embarking on an exchange program for one year. She was leaving behind everything she knew, everyone she loved. Off the edge of her earth. She was all smiles...her eyes were brilliantly blue warm orbs of hope. In these eyes, I saw the courage of a young person...undaunted. She looked at me one last time and gave me a hug. He...
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