Marriage And Family Counseling Category
Find a Therapist
This Holiday Give Yourself and Your Partner the Gift of your Presence
So much of the holidays can be taken up with the busy stuff of gift buying, travel plans, and food and festivity preparations...
Sex, Drugs, Rock n Roll....And A Little Gambling. GET $300 OFF TO SPEND IN VEGAS
Get Certified and Have fun in VEGAS all at once. Cali Estes, The Addictions Academy is offering Certification courses in Reco...
Be Gentle With Yourself
Do you believe that unless you constantly drive yourself, you will end up becoming fat, lazy and a bump on a log? If you are ...
Have a Moody, Oversensitive Teenager? What to Do When You’re Tired of “Walking on Eggshells”
“Julia is so sensitive I can’t say anything to her without it causing a big blow-up!” exclaimed Julia&rsquo...
Yelling at Your Teen: A Big Disrespect
It’s a sad day in America when we need a study to tell us that yelling at teenagers to discipline them makes them more ...
- August 2011
- September 2011
- October 2011
- November 2011
- December 2011
- January 2012
- February 2012
- March 2012
- April 2012
- May 2012
- June 2012
- July 2012
- August 2012
- September 2012
- October 2012
- November 2012
- December 2012
- January 2013
- February 2013
- March 2013
- April 2013
- May 2013
- June 2013
- July 2013
- August 2013
- September 2013
- October 2013
- November 2013
- December 2013
"A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we're pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we're safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life." - Richard Bach
I find it incredibly exciting and rewarding to offer Premarital Counselling as well as Wedding Ceremonies to my clients. I truly believe that bringing together Soulmates is a sacred responsibility, and I take my work very seriously. In my private life, I have been married for 15 years to my very own Soulmate, and we have been blessed with a wonderful life. I would consider it an honour to share my years of experience with you in preparation for your blessed event. I believe that every couple who desires to marry h...
[From the Downtown Therapy blog]
I would be lying if years ago, upon hearing that a couple were considering relationship counselling, I didn’t hear a voice in the back of my head cry out: “Dead man walking!”. In other words, it seemed that couples therapy was the beginning of the end.
This is a bit of fatalism which is not helped by a dearth of positive examples in TV and film. North American society has lived under an implicit rule that admitting you need help is a sign of an underlying weakness of character. The reality is that, increasingly, couples are realizing that talking openly about their differences with a qualified therapist is in fact a marvellous way to discharge tension in the relationship.
When we enter a serious relationship, we bring our own ideas with us; ideas about money, sexual intimacy, communication, privacy. Many of these ideas are influenced by previous relationships. And sometimes, while individually each partner’s influences...
I have read that we remember and hold on to negative comments and experiences much more readily than we do to positive ones. We need to build up a reservoir of positive feelings to combat the destructive power of negative experiences. And of course, this holds especially true in our relationships. The zinger delivered to us by our partner can really sting and hurt. Therefore, I am going to make a strong attempt to say at least five positive things to my spouse before I utter a negative comment. I am going to take note as to how this works in our life together. I will do this for the next three weeks and observe how it plays out in our relationship. I believe at a minimum, it can do no harm, and I have a feeling that it could have a beneficial effect. We shall see.
We all know the script so well from all the movies and TV shows. Girl (or guy) sees girl (or guy) from across a crowded room. Their eyes meet and lock. Their lips quiver. Their knees begin to shake. Slowly, one or both of them crosses the room towards the other.
Maybe they act nonchalant; maybe there is small talk, awkward introductions, or a flimsy attempt at social engagement. But before the night is through, the camera pans to the inevitable scene of a passionate embrace, either clothed or not, and we know their fates are sealed for an indeterminate amount of time.
You can add supernaturally sparkly skin, take us backwards or forwards in time, but essentially the plot is the same. You meet, you ‘know’, and you’re just killing time until you get to lean in for that first kiss.
Lots of us try to re-create this scenario in our dating lives, and lots of us get our hearts broken. One of the (many) reasons for relationships breaking down can be found in the fo...
Sometimes couples come in to therapy with separation or divorce already an option that’s been laid on the table. As a therapist, this is one of the most painful situations to watch my clients go through. That’s especially true when one partner is still trying to save the relationship and the other isn’t sure whether they are willing to give it a shot. Couple’s therapy usually isn’t very helpful in these cases, because it’s almost impossible to help both people feel ‘heard’, as though their needs are being respected, when they're in such opposite corners. In any given moment, either the person on their way out feels like they’re being pressured to stay, or the person who’s still committed to the relationship feels like they’re being abandoned. It’s really raw.
In response to this, The University of Minnesota has developed Discernment Counselling, which is essentially a way to work with both partners to help them ma...
Have you ever been so overwhelmed with emotion that you have difficulty communicating? Perhaps your words come out in an explosion and then immediately after you feel regret and shame? This experience has been called, "emotional hijacking" by theorists such as Brent Atkinson (Pragmatic-Experiential Therapy for Couples), Pat Ogden (Sensorimotor Psychotherapy) and Daniel Seigle (Interpersonal Neurobiology). When we feel threatened, our lower brain, sometimes called the reptilian brain, comes online and "hijacks" our ability to reason and make decisions. Our bodies think we are in danger and our brains make us believe that the best way out of danger is to fight, run away or simply freeze.
Becoming aware of the building sensations of fear, anger, hurt, and anxiety allows you to taking a time out from the discussion and calm your nervous system. It is also important to taking care of your relationship by giving a timeframe for when you will return to th...
Horse whisperer Buck Brannaman has lessons for therapists, parents and partners! I am watching a workshop on a gorgeous Saturday. Buck is talking about how riders often ask their horses to do things without knowing whether the horse was picking up the rear right or left leg thereby causing the horse to lose balance much of the time. In other words, riders often do not cooperate with the needs of the horse and that creates resistance. This blew the minds of most people in the audience and the people taking the lesson.
We often do this with our children our partners and our clients. It points to the importance of timing and attentiontion to the rhythms of the other. Classic examples of problems in this area include: trying to have sex when the other person is tired, trying to have a conversation in the middle of a major football game; not making up before going to bed; failing to hug and kiss upon coming home.
Part of what blew everyone's mind was that Buck ...
You know, I’ll bet that if you gathered all my couples counseling clients in a room and made them contestants in some Trivial Pursuit of marriage data contest, they would blow the other team away. They might do it groaning about how they never want to hear the words “Gottman” or “Research Says” again, but they would kick serious behind. And that is because I’m a big ol’ geek. If you’re sitting down with me to work on your relationship, you’re going to learn more than a little bit about how scientists figure out what makes joyful couples tick.
Don’t get me wrong here–couples are emotional units that have their own rules of governance–many of which are spiritual, emotional and pretty abstract. However, as couples therapists, we are invested in doing more of stuff that is helpful and less of stuff that isn’t. So, people like scientist John Gottman spend an awful lot of time trying to figure out what kinds of th...
The Women's Sexual Addiction Screening Test (W-SAST) is designed to assist in the assessment of sexually compulsive behavior. This test is a screening instrument, meant to be used in the context of a therapeutic interview. By itself, the W-SAST does not provide a diagnosis. Answer each question yes or no, then count how many "yes" answers you have. Depending on the particular pattern of symptoms:3 – 4 "yes" responses may indicate an area of concern and should be openly discussed with a friend or family member.5 - 7 positive answers suggests a need for further assessment of the problem behavior, including the consideration of attending a 12-Step support program such as Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous.More than 7 "yes" responses indicates a serious struggle with addictive sexual issues with potentially self- abusive and/or dangerous consequences. Should seriously consider professional treatment.------------------------------------------------------------------------
Were you sexua...
Finding out that your loved one has been unfaithful is absolutely gut-wrenching and can cause you to feel lost, devastated, disillusioned and resentful. While the initial shock and anger might leave you wanting your other half to rot in hell, you really need to make a decision as to whether or not you can, or want, to move past it; and if your relationship is important enough to try to work through the broken trust and issues that have arisen.
Some people consider infidelity to be a total deal breaker that there is no coming back from. But if you’re not ready to throw it all away and you really want to rebuild the love and trust in your relationship, it is possible if both parties are committed.
There are a few steps that you can take as a couple to start mending the damage that has been done.
Honesty is crucial when it comes to regaining trust. Talk openly about the details of the indiscretions but leave out the unnecessary gruesome details that really don’t m...
|Found 124 records:||Showing page 1 of 13 pages|