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Alcohol and Drug Addiction Stage One
Alcohol and Drug Addiction- Stage One During the initial stage of addiction the addicts' character is permanently altered. T...
So just when you thought you had the whole parenting thing down, you blink and your child is now a tweenager/teenager (cue ho...
Parenting is Climate Control
Parenting is Climate Control Blog posted September 21, 2013 Summer is almost over and the school year has already begun. Mos...
Addiction is a Family Affair
Thirty years ago, I was introduced recovery. It was not long after my 27th birthday. Because I come from generations of famil...
Sunday Morning Meditation
"If every eight year old in the world is taught meditation, we will eliminate violence from the world within one generation."...
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Sometimes, something new happens, like a sought after job, relationship, or a new living space. It can feel so exciting.....like a fresh start. Maybe you make a resolution to be the person you want to be and never again feel or behave in certain ways. Some common things that people wish would disappear with a fresh start are….getting angry, depressed, eating too much, drinking, being dishonest in some way, etc…..the list goes on. The things that keep occurring even though we want them to go away are often REACTIONS to something. External things can feel easier to change than our old internal reactions.
At one time our reactions to others made a lot of sense. Shutting down, getting angry, self-soothing with food or substances might have been the best options available to us at that time. What was a reasonable reaction at one time may no longer be. It might actually be damaging current healthy relationships and opportunities. Learning how to recognize reactions that are no...
Although it is nicknamed the season of joy, many people can get a bit 'down' this time of year. Maybe it is the weather or the lack of light. Maybe it's loneliness, lack of money or the loathing of a situation (job, home, relationship). The fact is that the joy always exists whether we choose to participate in it or not. Not participating in joy even if you want to-that would be known in the healing world as a 'blockage.' A (mental, spiritual) blockage just means that your energy is not flowing as it should be-rememeber our energy system, just like water or electricity needs to be in constant motion. When it stops flowing is exactly the time that mental/physical/spiritual problems develop (btw Modern Medicine is just starting to catch on to this). The solution is to simply get your energy flowing again. How do you do this? Well certainly any healing art such as self hypnosis, meditation, yoga, tai chi, EFT or Reiki would help. Even easier, simply move. That's right, move. This can be men...
I am probably not that different than many people that are my age. I often have difficulty sleeping through the night. Maybe it is aches and pains. Maybe it is something on my mind. Or maybe some combination of the two. The last two nights have been different. I slept through the night on both occasions. So what was different ? Well I went to bed at about the same time each night. I read a self hypnosis script and then a novel for a short time. I made a conscious effort to reduce the amount of liquid I drank before 8PM. While these were all good and important physical steps, I think one thing I did made the most difference. I merely decided that I would sleep well-that's right-I convinced myself that everything would be all right (my mantra) and by God it was. Of all the habits that I have formed before I sleep, maybe that is the one that needs to be adhered to more than any!!
Miley Cyrus Smokes A Joint On Stage At The EMAs
Miley Cyrus kept her MTV Europe Music Awards performances pretty tame, but we're guessing she knew she'd get people talking with her EMAs acceptance speech.
All eyes were on the 20-year-old singer as she went to collect the award for Best Video for "Wrecking Ball," telling the crowd she didn't think she would be able to fit the award in her purse as she put the trophy on the ground.
Cyrus went on to thank her fans for making the award happen, before she started digging through her bag and pulled out what appeared to be a joint. "I couldn't fit this award in my bag, but I did find this," she said holding up the joint before sparking it up.
Cyrus isn't shy about her love of marijuana. In September she told Rolling Stone, "I think weed is the best drug on earth," and since she's been in Amsterdam for the EMAs, she's reportedly been hitting up the city's famous coffee shops that allow patrons to enjoy all the weed they want.
Though it's ...
You may have heard the expression, "Keep it simple?" Oh so true. I just mentioned this to my children the other day: "The simpler the solution, the better." How about in your own life? Is it as simple as it can possibly be? What would it take for you to make it as simple as it could be? And are you taking those steps to do that? (PS Hypnosis, meditation, Reiki and EFT can help!!). The absolute smartest and happiest people I know have learned to live simply-great advice for you clutter bugs out there!! What exactly is the mindset of simple living? It mainly involves separating your needs from your wants. What parts of your life do you really need? What parts do you just want but could do without? And are you able to separate them? Remember when we unclutter our physical lives, we uncluttter our minds. And that is what I call living simply!
Meditation is quality control in the manner of a chef’s cooking techniques – consistently practiced, it allows a constant quality of “dishes.” It’s the psychological equivalent of a ballet dancer rehearsing movements on the barre or a tennis player volleying before a match to hone the timing and rhythm of her hand-eye coordination. In short, meditation is a daily best practice – a warm-up for self-awareness and self-discipline, leading eventually to being present in an emotionally intelligent manner.
We drop anchor in the present moment by slowing and deepening our breathing. It’s about finding the balance between your self that experiences and your self that observes, or, on a neurophysiological level, the balance between the right and left hemispheres of the brain. Or about finding the balance between the intelligence that lives in your brain and the intelligence that lives distributed throughout your body (psychotherapists often ask patient...
Human beings have shown themselves capable of adapting to a great variety of circumstances, not all of them healthy. Do you doubt it? Think of people you know who are really stressed out, and then consider the nature of your interactions with them: do they always arrive late, speak rapidly in incomplete sentences, or frequently interrupt the conversation with, “Sorry; I’ve got to take this”? Maybe they seem to have difficulty staying on topic, and they demonstrate very little genuine interest in you.
Let’s imagine that, being a caring person, you try to point out the danger of constant stress. You may tell your friends that human beings were designed to respond effectively to intermittent stress, but that chronic stress overwhelms, and ultimately breaks down, the organism’s defense systems. Most likely you’ll get a response of, “Yes, I know. But this is what my job demands. I plan to slow down once the kids leave home [say, in fifteen years], ...
One of the definitions Merriam Webster uses to define “perspective” is “the capacity to view things in their true relations or relative importance” (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/perspective). A simpler definition may just be “the way we view something or someone in relation to ourselves”. So many aspects of our lives are affected by our perspective that I believe it to be impossible to ignore. Gaining perspective to make life more pleasurable has long been the subject of common social sayings like making lemonade from lemons and positive attitudes changing everything. Losing perspective could lead to the loss of a job, close relationship or worse, sense of self. It seems generally accepted that having the “right” or “best” perspective on an issue or relationship can have a huge impact on its success.
So what is the right perspective to have? Is there really a “right” or “wrong” one for every i...
How many of us have said, “I need to, or I need this or I need that…?”
Many individuals “set themselves up” for failure by their thoughts and emotional patterns of “wants” and “can’t” versus “choices.”
Consider the following statements:
“I need to lose weight, but I can’t”
“I need to stop smoking but I can’t
“I need to stop drinking, but I can’t”
“I need money, but I can’t”
“I need a better job, but I can’t”
“I need to end my relationship, but I can’t”
“I need to end the abuse I receive, but I can’t”
“I need to find a career, but I can’t”
“I need to go back to school, but I can’t”
“I need to change my life, but I can’t”
“I need to get out of this rut I’m in, but I can’t”
There isn’t anything wrong ex...
February is notorious for the month of love. On Valentine’s Day, there are marriage/relationship proposals, marriages/commitment ceremonies, and the exchange of cards and gifts.
For some, Valentine’s Day is considered a dreaded day, and a reminder of a love gone badly or remembering a lost love. For some individuals, they feel disappointed and disillusioned on the reality of love, and yet, they desperately seek it. Occasionally individuals may actually feel angry, envious or jealous that others have the found their “one true love” and “soul mate” while they themselves continue to search for it.
Others may experience a sense of emptiness and grief. This is especially true when one’s significant other, died, or is seriously ill, or when the current love relationship is not working. It is common to reflect on better days while struggling to find meaning in the present moment.
The reality is Valentine’s Day is NOT a magical day whereby Cupid...
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