Relationship Counseling Category
Is My Relationship Emotionally Abusive?
Having words for what is being experienced in an emotionally abusive relationship is inherently empowering and validating. Many people in emotionally abusive relationships have the experience of trying to explain what is happening to them and not feeling understood because they do not have words that encompass the concepts that adequately describe what is happening. In addition, the degree to which they are being emotionally abused is so far above what is normal that they may appear as if they are exaggerating when they are not.
To assist others in identifying Emotional abuse and communicating what they are experiencing, I have compiled a list of Types of Verbal and Emotional Abuse. Notice that the word cloud of Emotionally Abusive Terms looks like a bruise. Verbal Abuse Hurts.
Discovering words for what has happened to you infers that someone else has experienced the same thing and that alone brings relief. You are not making this up. Having a name for your experience of e...
You May Be The Victim Of Domestic Violence And Not Even Know It
Domestic Violence (Non-Physical Type)
Many victims of domestic violence don't realize they are being victimized because they believe that the word "violence" indicates something physical, such as punching, choking, hitting, kicking or beating. Just because your partner doesn't engage in these behaviors doesn't mean you aren't being abused. If you are feeling powerless in your relationship, consider the following.
Does your partner constantly criticize, mock, yell at, and interrupt you? Do they make humiliating remarks, call you names, interrupt, yell and swear at you? Do your trusted loved ones encourage you to leave? Your partner may dismiss all of their concerns, telling you to listen only to her/him. This process can be insidious, occurring slowly without you realizing what is happening. It isn't your fault.
Controlling Behaviors
Abusers typically make it hard for the victim to see friends and relatives. They often monitor phone calls, text messages and/or emails, and want to know...
Establishing Healthy LGBT Relationships
There is a stereotype that LGBT persons don't desire long-term, meaningful relationships‑that we would rather experience an endless series of hookups and friends-with-benefits with nothing more. This couldn’t be further from the truth. However, finding someone who is compatible and who is willing to work together through the bad times as well as the good isn't easy.
When you first meet someone there can be a real mutual attraction. You might share interests, enjoy each other’s company and believe the relationship has real potential. They may ask to see you again. All signs seem positive, you feel hopeful, and you might even let yourself fanaticize about a future together.
Over the next few days or weeks, you keep in touch frequently: texting, calling, Skyping or emailing. Then suddenly you hit the brick wall. No callbacks, no texts, no emails, they “unfriend” you on Facebook, and you never hear from them again. There is no way to find out why they disappeare...
Building Healthy Relationships
When we entertain this subject, there are so many different types of relationships in life. We encounter relationships at work and home, with family, peers, children and friends. Healthy relationships allow for individuality, bring out the best in people, and invite personal growth.
Developing meaningful relationships is a concern for all of us. Getting close to others, sharing our joys, sorrows, needs, wants, affections, and excitements is risky business. What is it that interferes with us getting close to each other? Often it is one or more of these common fears:
Fear of becoming known as we really are. Opening ourselves to others and their reactions is not only difficult for us, but is puts a demand on others to be likewise.
Fear of pain and disappointment. Mass media and advertisers have tried to convince us that we should be 100% happy 24 hours a day. Hurt, pain, disappointment, and loneliness are not comfortable feelings, but they are human. Without the risk of experiencing them...
Couples Therapy
It is sad to see the statistics showing that most couples will divorce (two-thirds) before without even seeking couples therapy to see if the relationship can be saved. Is it pride? Is it the inability to look at ones self and admit they could have done something different? Do they feel like a failure when they have to discuss private and personal information. The fact of the matter is that relationships are hard work but many think that if you simply fall "in love", it should be easy. If both partners are willing to give therapy an honest effort before divorcing or splitting then I think they would be surprised at the positive results. Often what leads couples to seperate is a lack of communication that has been going on for so long that either partner is unaware of these patterns and they lead to feelings of frustration and resentment. By learning to speak a new language, letting go of expectations that are unreasonable and admitting your wrong at times, is a great place to start whe...
Have You experienced Date Violence?
Have you experienced Dating Violence? Has your Teen experienced Dating Violence? Teens and parents are often unaware that teens do experience dating violence. It's not talked about and difficult to bring up.
Unfortuantley about 1 in 5 women and nearly 1 in 7 men have experienced rape, physical violence, and or stalking by an intimate partner. Even even sadder to imagine that some youth have experienced dating violence as young as 11 years of age.
Teens who are psychologically or physically assaulted can experience long term mental health and physically risks. Teens who experience a partner who insulted or disrespected the them in front of others, cursed at them, threatened them with violence, shoved them, or threw objects at them are more likely to exhibit antisocial behaviours, have suicidal ideation, binge drink, be depressed, think about suicide, smoke or smoke marijuana at the 5-year follow-up mark.
Both female and male participants who experienced some form of dating violence f...
Should your beliefs or values matter when choosing a therapist?
In today’s society everyone is looking for a way to ‘fix’ their problems. However, the role of the therapist isn’t like that of a surgeon, who carries out a routine procedure to correct a problem. The active ingredient in successful therapy is the relationship you develop with your therapist. The better this relationship is, the more effective your therapy will be. That said, it might be easier to develop a strong connection with a therapist who shares some of the beliefs and values that you do.
A common reality is that many therapists have been taught to keep an objective distance or to show a neutral face. This is often taught for the betterment of the client, so that they never impose their own thoughts, beliefs, views or intentions on the client.
Another possible reality is that the therapist’s views may clash with the client’s. For example, a counselor may not believe in monogamy or accept the teachings of the Bible, whereas the client is a Ch...
Help Your Partner Meet Your Relationship Needs
Do you get into arguments with your partner because you feel they don’t understand you when you tell them about a problem? May be, they try to fix your problem in the way they’d deal with it as if it was happening to them?
Without realizing, we often give what we need to receive ourselves.
So here’s a little experiment you can try the next time a misunderstanding comes up.
To really connect to your partner simply ask them – What do they need right now.
This shows them you genuinely care for them as an individual and respect their needs. This helps them feel loved, secure and safe.
Also it means on a more practical level, you’ll be able to give them what they need – whether that’s silence, or listening, or a foot rub it doesn’t matter…
So when your partner is in a tizzy over something – use these 6 words to decrease any misunderstandings and increase your relationship satisfaction – What Do You Need Right Now?
Breakfast
Many modern workplaces are set up in the "nose to the grindstone" mode. This is done so that employees are as productive as they can possible be. Is it time to change this outdated concept? The way things are now, many employees are overtired on a constant basis. However, The way our minds (and bodies) work best is to constantly recharge them. The idea of "just being productive," is counterproductive at best and damaging at worst. If we are fully recharged, fully rested and properly stimulated then we can do almost anything! This is why sleep,meditation and constant short breaks are so important. Schools still have recess-and workplaces should all have "break" rooms where employees can recharge. Another way of thinking of this is, in order to adopt a fresh perspective on any any type of problem solving, we must be able to step away from it-To distance ourselves! And the best way to do this is by constant mental and physical "breaking." In the past breaks were looked at as a form of laz...
Pornography Addiction: Crack Cocaine to the Brain
Pornography addiction usually starts out with casual viewing and progresses to an out-of-control addiction that destroys relationships, careers, families, and leads to extreme despair for the addict. The addict needs more frequent and intense pornography to achieve the same level of satisfaction as before. Even though the addict desires to stop, there are recurrent failures to curb and resist the impulses. The addict finds him/herself limiting social, occupational or recreational activities in order to engage in the addiction. Stopping pornography use will cause irritability, restlessness, depression, anxiety, headaches, and possible body aches.Women who suspect their husband’s porn addiction report a feeling of loneliness and a lack of emotional connection with their spouse. These women may feel they are not sexy or pretty enough and go to extremes to make themselves more sexually attractive or available. Many times this will include engaging in sexual acts they find degrading an...
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