Self Care Category

When Polyamory Isn't for You

There’s been an interesting shift in a segment of society. Many people who are liberal and open minded have come to see polyamory as a more enlightened form of relationship – somehow more evolved than monogamy. They often think that it takes more work, requires better communication, and demands more self-awareness than monogamy. I don’t think there’s any scientific basis for this statement, though, to be sure, polyamory is quite different than monogamy in practice and relationship dynamics. I have nothing against polyamory – or monogamy. My stance is that people need to be in relationships that are right for them. However, this belief that polyamory is more enlightened can cause psychic pain to the person who’s not wired to be poly.

I have seen multiple couples where, later in the relationship, one of the partners finally understands themselves differently and feels safe enough to tell their partner that they’d like to open up the relationship...

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Relationships: Start Strong and Stay Strong

Relationships – Start Strong and Stay Strong Relationships can be resilient and enduring. It’s important to go in with your eyes wide open and to do ‘your part’ to nurture the relationship. Know yourself and what you want out of the relationship. When you get right with yourself, it opens up the door to opportunities that directly relate to developing a strong union. Contentment and happiness come from inside and are major contributions to ‘doing your part’ in your relationship. Enter a relationship with realistic expectations. Don’t expect your spouse to support his/her needs and all of yours too. You are ultimately responsible to support yourself emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually. Work on thinking positively. Search for the meaning in your life. Continue to learn. These are opportunities to develop your self for a richer, more satisfying life. ***

While complete independence is neither possible nor desirable, by standing on your ow...

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Psychopath vs. Sociopath

Psychopath vs. Sociopath

Retired FBI profiler Mary Ellen O’Toole, Ph.D. poses the question, “Think you know how to spot a psychopath?” She then warns, “Think again.” Dr. O’Toole suggests not trusting your gut when it comes to strangers or those you don’t know well. Behaviors like normalizing or rationalizing or simply not wanting to appear overdramatic will prevent us from taking (or not taking) actions based on our judgments. Our creative minds can draw up worst-case scenarios and have us questioning what we think and feel. While instincts are important, when it comes to your safety and well being you can increase it and decrease stranger-danger. Most people are confused about the differences in a Psychopath vs. Sociopath. Having the ability to recognize someone’s behavior as questionable can help you to get a baseline feel for those with whom you or your family interacts. *

Commonly thought of as interchangeable are the terms “...

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Three Reasons to Start Therapy in the Summer

When is the best time to seek help through therapy? It is easy to find reasons not to go to therapy or to put it off for a better time of year. Here are some reasons why summer is an excellent time to try therapy.

1) When engaging in therapy it is very important to balance the hard work you will do in sessions with relaxing enjoyable activities. Summer is the perfect time to find this balance because the days are warm and sunlight abundant. There are many opportunities to get outside and engage in relaxing activities after a session.

The time you spend sitting outside, talking a walk around the neighborhood, swimming or traveling allows your unconscious mind to process the issues you work on in therapy. As a result you may make considerably more progress in the summer than other times of year.

2) Therapy is effective when you are ready and willing to try something new and make some changes in your life. Often summer is already a time of changed routines.

If you are a parent, teache...

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Free Guided Meditation for Healing and Overcoming Adversity

Join Rev. Tracy Cox, B. Msc., IMM for a healing meditation, designed to relax your body, mind and spirit to allow true healing on all levels. Also, part of the meditation will be to help deal with the stress of overcoming adversity, as life has been quite stressful for many people recently. Rev. Tracy is an Ontario Licensed Wedding Officiant, as well as a pastoral and spiritual care provider, available in her Aurora Ontario office, or worldwide by phone. For more information, please go to





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Taking Child's Pose

Have you ever taken a yoga class? If so, then you are surely aware of one of the most basic poses – Child’s Pose. When taking this pose, you are folded over your knees, forehead of the ground and arms and hands either flat by your sides or stretched out in front of you. I understand it to be a resting pose – used when you need to take a break from the current flow of the class. You might be too tired, you might have noticed a pain somewhere in your body, you might simply not want to do the current pose that the rest of the class is doing. So you opt out and take Child’s Pose.

Child’s Pose is a legitimate asana – or body position. Every yoga teacher I know speaks of Child’s Pose as a fantastic option. They often will direct me and my other classmates to ‘take Child’s Pose.’ But they also point out that this position is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength, intuition, and self-care. Knowing when you’ve pushed yo...

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New Guided Meditation for Healthy Weight Loss

Join Rev. Tracy L. Cox, B. Msc., IMM, CIMM for a guided meditation designed to assist you in healthy weight loss. Guided meditation can bring incredible benefits to everyone by helping us control our behaviors on a subconscious level. Please enjoy this free meditation, and for more information on Rev. Tracy's pastoral and spiritual caregiving services, please see her website at .


Free recorded meditation here:


Have a fantastic week!


Rev. Tracy Cox

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Grounding and Finding Your Center: 4 Ways to Step into Spirit, Ground Out, & Find Your Inner Balance

Many times we hear about finding our center, grounding ourselves, reaching balance in areas of our lives. In this blog I want to share with you my personal journey that led me to grounding, as well as 4 simple ways you can learn to ground in your own life.

For many years, I dealt with anxiety and had been diagnosed with panic disorder. I lived disconnected from my body and excluded from the world. My anxiety peaked in my undergraduate years of college at rapid speed. I sought therapist after therapist to help me with this unique phobia. As I grew older, my spirituality started to grow with me. I tried various alternative therapies, as well as psychotherapy to help me get this anxiety and panic under control. I was tired of it ruling my life. I avoided people, places, and things that would trigger me. Nothing seemed to help long enough and I would go back to having panic attacks. After many therapists, I found a therapist who helped me reach some level of control. She encouraged techni...

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Guided Meditation Gathering at Hillary House, Aurora Ont. Mar. 20th, 7:30pm

Please join us at Historic Hillary House in Aurora Ontario on Thursday, March 20th at 7:30 pm for a guided healing meditation, designed to correct your energy and allow you to manifest true health and prosperity on deep metaphysical levels. The program will be accompanied by relaxing meditation music, and will be presented from a Metaphysical Science Wellness approach. Everyone will benefit from the healing energy, no matter what their belief systems.

In this session, we will focus on the energy of the Spring Equinox, with its infinite potential for renewal and new beginnings. We will begin the session with a quick lesson on meditation, and finish with a question and answer period.

Please join meditation facilitator Tracy L. Cox, B. Msc., IMM, CIMM and tap into this energy at Hillary House, 15372 Yonge St. Aurora, Ontario.

Tickets: 20.00 per person

To purchase a ticket please email , or cash at the door. Please see our website at http://www.d...

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Booker T. Washington & Chocolate Cake: Real World Advice on Coping with Depression & Loneliness

Coping with depression, loneliness, and feelings of hopelessness can feel like a solitary activity. When we feel these ways, we often have the impression that we’re on our own. I recently asked my Facebook friends how they get through difficult times – an effort of mine to get more ideas as a therapist and to also help people feel more connected at a time when it’s hard to feel love from others. I received many replies and have published portions of each one. Following are the final comments I received from my friends. I hope you find these as meaningful as I have.

One friend commented on living long-term with depression: As a PTSD sufferer, depression is a constant companion. Honestly, I struggle each time something comes up and it’s always fresh and new, so I have to learn each time. Bouts from PTSD can last two days to 6 months. Sometimes it’s just about being calm and quiet and resting more than seems normal. Other times I need to exercise and burn of...

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