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Miley Cyrus Smokes A Joint On Stage At The EMAs
Miley Cyrus kept her MTV Europe Music Awards performances pretty tame, but we're guessing she knew she'd get people talking with her EMAs acceptance speech.
All eyes were on the 20-year-old singer as she went to collect the award for Best Video for "Wrecking Ball," telling the crowd she didn't think she would be able to fit the award in her purse as she put the trophy on the ground.
Cyrus went on to thank her fans for making the award happen, before she started digging through her bag and pulled out what appeared to be a joint. "I couldn't fit this award in my bag, but I did find this," she said holding up the joint before sparking it up.
Cyrus isn't shy about her love of marijuana. In September she told Rolling Stone, "I think weed is the best drug on earth," and since she's been in Amsterdam for the EMAs, she's reportedly been hitting up the city's famous coffee shops that allow patrons to enjoy all the weed they want.
Though it's ...
How many of us have said, “I need to, or I need this or I need that…?”
Many individuals “set themselves up” for failure by their thoughts and emotional patterns of “wants” and “can’t” versus “choices.”
Consider the following statements:
“I need to lose weight, but I can’t”
“I need to stop smoking but I can’t
“I need to stop drinking, but I can’t”
“I need money, but I can’t”
“I need a better job, but I can’t”
“I need to end my relationship, but I can’t”
“I need to end the abuse I receive, but I can’t”
“I need to find a career, but I can’t”
“I need to go back to school, but I can’t”
“I need to change my life, but I can’t”
“I need to get out of this rut I’m in, but I can’t”
There isn’t anything wrong ex...
Insecurity comes from many different sources. Sometimes, we didn't get the necessary reassurance in formative years that help build a solid foundation to weather all the ups, downs, and unknowns that come with life. For some people, a significant event occurs resulting in dramatic distrust and hyper-vigilance in life, oneself, and distrust in others. This can look like trouble feeling confident, intense self-criticism, general anxiety, distrust in others, and always expecting the worst case scenario.
Below is one example of working with insecurity as something external from yourself. This is a technique known as Externalization. In this case it's a letter to the insecurity that you wish would go away. This is an example of acknowledging "what is" even if you don't like it at all. This technique can be helpful with any unwanted emotion or behavior.
Now that I'm able to separate myself from you a little bit......and when you rise up it doesn't completely engulf me, pa...
Ever meet someone who just seems to wallow in their own self pity? Some people just seem to drown in their own misery-and sort of enjoy doing it! In rewality, our attitude is the "only card we have to play." Our attitude is controlled by our subconscious mind. So if we are choosing to be 'down,' then our subconscious mind must get some benefit from this. Or else we would not do it (habits work the same way btw). So those of us who choose to see life as a struggle can easily get stuck in this vicious cycle. The question is how do they get out of it? It is really easy. The first step is a conscious one-repeatedly Saying out loud what it is they want to make their life easy (aka not a struggle). The next step is utilizing healing therapies like EFT, Reiki and Hypnosis-the latter especially works on the subconscious thought process. And the last step is to open their mind to the possibility of happiness (this can take looking at things 180 degrees differently than you normally would). Soun...
Back in the 1980’s, while living in New York City, I saw a therapist, named Dr. Isabella Bick for a couple of years who really made a difference for me. It was not her great therapeutic skills, necessarily, although I am sure she was skilled enough, but for me it was this warm, consistent, non-judgmental, supportive, presence that listened to me with care. I don’t remember most of our sessions over the couple of years that I saw her, except for one that made all the difference for me. I have since thought of that session many times because it was the one session that sticks out in my mind as having had an impact on how I proceeded with my life.
The session that I am referring to, was one in which we were exploring my struggles around making my way in the world independent of my family. I was living alone in NYC with my dog, Picasso and working in the art business. I had started my own art consulting company, and was having a lot of difficulty managing my time, being on foc...
Stable Meadows and Stable Wellness Center WHOA© Method
Addressing triggers, a step towards recovery Stable Meadows and Stable Wellness Center
WHOA means to cease or slow a course of action or a line of thought: pause to consider or reconsider —often used to express a strong reaction. It also means to ‘hold your horses or to slow down’ before you are on a runaway horse. To take time to collect yourself and your horse before things become too fast of a pace that you and your horse are comfortable at.
At Stable Meadows we focus on incorporating more ‘whoa’ in your life in order to focus on providing self-care and self-awareness in everyday life. The ‘WHOA’ method focuses on addressing your basic needs before you react
“W” defines the Worry, what is the trigger right now, what do I need to do to slow down, focus on my breathing, address the cause.
“H” How am I feel right now am I hungry, do my physical needs have t...
-I am not sure why I called you. My doctor suggested it.
-No, nothing happened. My life keeps going on and on. I feel empty inside. No energy. No motivation. I sleep a lot. Cry often. I can not make a decision, double guess myself all the time. I am a weak person. I shouldn't have come, I don't see how you can help me.
-History of depression? No, I had a good childhood. Well, there were some problems but not as bad as other people.
-I am not comparing myself but basically I had good parents. I have no reason to complain.
-I was the youngest child of three. I was quite spoiled but I hated being the youngest. I never could win any arguments.
-I would not say I was bullied but my brother was ....
-I don't know why I am crying. They use to call me a cry baby. I cry so easily, how can anyone respect me?
-My brother? What he did? You think that... that memory is making me cry? Maybe. He use to take my toys away and ....this is hard to talk about. When I watched TV in the evenin...
Clients often tell me that they lack self esteem. We use words easily without analyzing what they really mean to us. When I ask, they usually state that they don't like themselves, they are not good enough, they are not attractive enough, not smart enough, etc. The common thread is the phase not enough. Not enough is incomplete, not enough at what? Compared to what standard? I can say I have not studied enough to go to college, or even, I am not smart enough to study Chinese but not good enough, or not smart enough is too vague, with no focus. Self esteem is about how we see ourselves. All too often how we see ourselves is based on how we think we should be in oder to receive love and approval from other people.
If in childhood we are criticized or/and bullied at home or school, children will ask what is wrong with themselves. They will internalize the criticism and problems of the people around them. What is supposedly wrong may simply be that their parents drink or are unhappy ...
“Just be yourself.” What would that feel like? Because we have been conditioned since we were born, it is sometimes very difficult to know who WE really are. We grow up observing our parent’s views and beliefs, we model after our friends and family, and then we also have society’s expectations of who we are supposed to be.As we grow up and enter into relationships, we tend to learn certain things about ourselves. Right now, think back at some of your relationships. Were you able to be your true self?
After you get to know someone, you tend to relax, your walls come down, and then you can begin to trust this person. We are now able to be more of ourselves.
Parallel to this idea, when you allow your partner to be themselves, without criticizing or placing judgments, you create a safe place for them to feel comfortable with you.
We tend to trust those who don’t disapprove of us for our thoughts or past experiences. We are close to others that allow us to e...
"If you begin to understand what you are without trying to change it, then what you are undergoes a transformation." -Jiddu Krishnamurti
Whether we welcom change or approach it with trepidation, we know that living in a state of flux is constant. Our world is filled with change. Many of us have experienced change in our environments, our relationships, or our finances. How do we adapt, become malleable, and thrive with so many transitions around us? I so often find my client's sense-of-self lost in these transitions and life changes.
For many of us, change has encompassed leaving our communities, failed relationships, job dissatisfactions, or family issues. These demands may force us to make powerful changes that we may or may not be ready for in our lives.
How can we find clarity in a world that is constantly changing? With all of the external demands of life how do we navigate our way through the world? Do we choose to live our lives as an obser...
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