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Alcohol and Drug Addiction Stage One
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Alcohol and Drug Addiction Stage Two
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[From the Downtown Therapy blog]
A common issue many men face is that they often have few examples in their life of being vulnerable – and having that be ok (i.e. not criticized). By vulnerable, I mean sticking your neck out and opening yourself up emotionally to others, even if that means taking a risk of embarrassment or having what you share not accepted as readily as you would like. Risk. But not the sort of risk that men are traditionally expected to aspire to (you know, the testosterone-hued kinds we read about in magazines or see in films: climbing treacherous mountains, bare knuckle fighting in a basement). Vulnerability is a different sort of risk-taking. It means extending yourself outward, sometimes a little beyond your day-to-day comfort level.
Many men find themselves fighting against a dichotomy: the self-sufficient, emotionally stoic man vs. the weak, needy child. What kind of a choice is that? Sheesh. And yet, this perspective is prevalent and infused in...
You may be dealing with fear and anxiety or their ugly step-sibling, depression. If so, I hope you will find some helpful words or, at least, an occasional smile on my blog.
You can find my blog at www.almondhead.wordpress.com.
See my book Are You Wishing Your Life Away; From Anxiety to Enthusiasm avialable on Amazon.com and at BarnesandNoble.com.
(From the Downtown Therapy blog. Check it out to see more)
I found myself on vacation recently. My partner and I went to France. It was equal parts charming and idyllic. It was also curiously stressful.
You see, in Toronto – at the best of times – when I go out I will inevitably have a selection of personalities to encounter: the barista making my americano, the TTC operator at the front of the streetcar, the person operating the cash register at the local grocery store. Ideally, in this sequence of events, even if I’m not consciously aware of it, I’ll be seen, heard, and understood.
These are three very important things to experience in day-to-day life: it feels good to be recognized, to be listened to, and to feel that the person on the other side of our dealings-with acknowledges our existence. Sadly, this doesn’t always come to be. The barista may get my order wrong, the TTC operator might be a bit gruff, the person operating the cash might...
(From the Downtown Therapy blog. Check it out to see more)
I bumped into an old acquaintance the other day. We had both worked for a rather chaotic company years earlier. The so-called “survivors” met for dinner once a year to catch-up and share stories of our time in that company. He asked why I couldn’t attend the most recent dinner. I guessed that, because I’d changed my email address a while back, the invitations were being sent to an account that was no longer in service.
When I asked him how it went, he shrugged and smiled. He said: “Oh, you know, (x) is still high-strung. (y) is still gloomy. (z) still acts like everyone’s Mom.”
“People don’t change.” he said, shaking his head. It felt like a definitive statement for him.
We parted ways and his words echoed with me. After all, what’s my purpose as a therapist if that statement were true? I believe in change: I’ve experienced it myself and have seen it s...
I think women are fascinating!! Now don't get me wrong I think that men are awesome and great people to have in our lives. For some women though men become their world, their universe, what they hang alll their dreams on. One of the things that I have noticed in my counseling though is the dynamics that we have as women and then the dynamic relationships we have with the women around us. So often I hear young women say, "I don't like girls-they are too much drama!" No! What happens is that the different relationships we have with women go sour. When you break up with your most recent partner who is there for you? You best friend? your sister? your grandma? It is so infrequently that we as women turn to men to help us and support us with our emotional needs.
I'm going to make a quick reference back to a book I read some time ago. It was Kelly Cutrone's book If You Have to Cry Go Outside: and other things your mother never told you. True there is some gritty parts of her book as well as...
How group therapy can help you improve with others:
Safety and comfort in commonality
Increased speed of healing breakthroughs
Support of othersInvolvement in positive change for others
Group counseling is a very powerful and effective way to engage in personal change. While some people are initially hesitant to share their struggles or concerns with a group of strangers, participants in group counseling soon understand that the group is intentionally set up so that all members of the group are accountable to being respectful and keeping all information confidential. This allows members to quickly become comfortable within the safety of the group, and therefore gain tremendous benefit from the support of not just a therapist but an entire group of people. Common benefits of group therapy include the speed with which breakthroughs and change can happen, the knowledge for each member that he/she is not alone in their struggles, the growth that comes from being able to receive support ...
You can feel great at time, even for long stretches, but then, often after a difficult encounter with someone, you feel sad or anxious. The sadness or anxiety is like background music, always there, though sometimes at a low level. Where most depressed people have insomnia, you LOVE sleep. Where most people with depression can't eat, you can't stop eating, especially carbs. And you struggle with your weight.
I call this "anxi-pression," or emotional eating. The clinical name for it is Atypical Depression. The full list of symptoms includes:
- Feelings of sadness, emptiness or feeling tearful
- Loss of interest or pleasure in normal activities
- Increased appetite
- Unintentional weight gain
- Increased desire to sleep
- Heavy, leaden feeling in the arms and legs
- Sensitivity to rejection or criticism that interferes with your social life or job
- Fear of rejection that leads to avoiding relationships
- Having depression that temporarily lifts with good news or positive events but returns la...
It is so nice to connect with people. I try to make connections with people every day. It's so easy to do if you just smile and if you are always 'yourself.' This means treating people as you'd want to be treated. It's easy, It's fun and it's effective!
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