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Alcohol and Drug Addiction Stage One
Alcohol and Drug Addiction- Stage One During the initial stage of addiction the addicts' character is permanently altered. T...
Addiction is a Family Affair
Thirty years ago, I was introduced recovery. It was not long after my 27th birthday. Because I come from generations of famil...
Sometimes, something new happens, like a sought after job, relationship, or a new living space. It can feel so exciting.....l...
350 People Die Of Addiction Each Day- Is It Time To Rethink Rehab?
Every year in the U.S., 120,000 people die of addiction. That’s 350 a day. Desperate to save the life of an addict, a ...
Alcohol and Drug Addiction Stage Two
At this particular stage, the addict's life is breaking down emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally. this situatio...
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[From the Downtown Therapy blog]
Short answer: no.
Long answer… If you don’t feel that seeing a therapist yourself (or therapy itself) is bad, then why should it be concerning if your therapist chooses to see someone? Many therapists see their own therapist, and it shouldn’t be surprising. After all, therapists are tasked with working with a wide array of potential concerns from an even wider array of individuals and couples. That’s a lot of emotion and anger, and anxiety to contend with; depending upon what’s going on in that therapist’s life sometimes the therapist-as-therapist and the therapist-as-private-individual divide can become difficult to delineate.
A rough metaphor would be working with a fitness trainer and then one day coming into the gym and seeing your trainer privately working out, perhaps even struggling with her regimen in a way that is proportionate to your own.
This concern speaks to an expectation in some quarters t...
Have you ever had one of those amazing realizations that are earth shattering and sure to change your life forever — only to find that a few days later things are right back to where they were before? Or have you noticed that sometimes after the week from hell life suddenly seems to shift and everything gets easier? If yes, you come well prepared for the emotional journey that can be psychotherapy.
For most people, making the decision to see a psychotherapist is a difficult one. We have learned that we should be strong enough to deal with our feelings and emotions ourselves. Going out and looking for help seems like a sign of weakness. We also have been taught to keep family issues to ourselves and to not speak ill of the dead and those close to us, at least not to strangers. And if none of those outer rules deter us from going into therapy, the fear of drudging up the past, opening old wounds, and dealing with the shadows of our personalities are just enough to make us turn aro...
Short answer: I can’t.
Longer answer: this question has been asked many times and in various forms (exchange “friend” for “wife”, “husband”, “child”), and each time I’ve been unable to accommodate the request. Why? Part of seeing a therapist is the idea of will and choice – the will to investigate something which we feel is bothering us, and the choice of whom to see for this service. If I were to go ahead and contact someone at the behest of a friend or relative, I would be imposing myself upon that choice and that will (symbolically at least).
Even if someone I contacted ended up never-minding my intrusion (and their friend’s intervention) and became a regular client, that initial lack of choice and will would probably linger in the therapeutic space. It could prove disruptive to the extreme, especially as they become more and more attuned to their situation.
So, no, sadly I cannot contact your friend, no matt...
(From the Downtown Therapy blog. Check it out to see more)
I was recently preparing a presentation for men who are training to become registered massage therapists – men being, until recently, a minority in a profession largely staffed by women. The idea was to discuss societal gender stigmas and the myths which arise from them (one, for example, being that “men are better at deep tissue massage than women” – not true).
Here are my thoughts on the matter, when it comes to choosing a psychotherapist:
First: There are always going to be personal preferences. Given the potentially long-term and intimate nature of the profession, if a client seeking a psychotherapist prefers the company of a man or a woman to seek help from, whatever that selection is based on is not mine to judge. From where I stand, for anyone seeking help, the freedom of having that choice is sacred. For some clients, being able to to make that choice is an important first step.
Part one in a three-part series.
The 14 Competencies and Why We Need Them
Whether clients want to address religion and spirituality directly, indirectly, or they are suddenly faced with questions of faith–due to a death, loss, or crisis–during an existing therapy process , clients are bringing the sacred into their sessions. According to research, in general, we the counselors, are not prepared to respond.
However, because we are not prepared by our schools to respond, doesn’t mean we don’t. Many of us, according to surveys, do address the issues. Some of us, with little self-reflection and awareness of how our own beliefs shape the issue, therapeutic relationship, and process of therapy as a whole. And our beliefs do shape, overtly and covertly, the counseling relationship, which is a key indicator in successful outcomes.
Recently, the American Counseling Association endorsed 14 competencies outlined by the the Association for Spiritual, Ethical and Religio...
I have 2 jobs and in both jobs I am contracted to keep secrets, the purpose of this secret keeping is to protect those I work for.
The question that occurred to me when reflecting on this is about the nature of secrets, what are their benefits and drawbacks? I stated at the beginning of this that in my professional life they protect those I work for, though this is not the entire story. They also serve to provide a safe and trusting environment for those I work for, enabling them to be open and speak freely without having to worry that anything they say would go outside of those four walls. It is rather ironic to my mind that they are such a powerful enabler in that situation yet in many others they can be destructive, burdensome and be a catalyst or cause of distrust.
Within relationships with loved ones we are often taught that we should be open and honest and not keep secrets, yet in so many instances secrets are kept in order to not hurt peoples feelings or protect people, yet if...
How do I choose a counselor anyway?
After completing multiple profiles to promote my unique and growing counseling practice, I have become increasingly aware that all therapists are not a good fit for all people. In today’s world, we have the internet at our fingertips, and we can research any professional we are considering working with. This includes doctors, lawyers, teachers, and yes, counselors.
So, what are you looking for in a counselor? Usually this is not something we sit back and consider, as we often start looking for a therapist or counselor during a stressful time or crisis. So we don’t often consider this when things are going smoothly in our lives....
If we are in crisis, we may be hoping to find someone quickly. Concerns that should always be considered: Is the counselor.....
1. Licensed and in good standing
2. Experienced in issues relating to your problem
3. Affordable or reasonably priced
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During a speaking engagement for parents who had adopted internationally, one of the mothers said that when her daughter says that she is adopted, the mother corrects her and says, “No, you were adopted.” It’s an interesting distinction, isn’t it? When she says that, it's as if it was a legal transaction, no the beginning of something amazing. It would be like that mother saying that she had adopted a child, as opposed to being an adoptive parent.
And, really, both are true. It was a transaction, and, yet it becomes a part of who we are, part of how we identify ourselves and see ourselves. I am not ashamed of my adoption status and believe that it is as much a part of me as being a woman and being Asian.
As I have noted before, NC, the home of my youth is a weird place. It’s a place I love–the place I belong. But, it’s strange nonetheless. For instance, I have yet to understand the rabid, yet tender romance between NC, hipsters and craft beer. I’m a martini girl myself. And no, I don’t consider a beer that was probably made in someone’s backyard and named after a book that neither you nor I have read as a good substitute. I don’t care if it has notes of pumpkin, bread or (as an earnest, bespeckled young man told me with much gravitas last week) goat. But to be fair, I have always thought that beer tastes in general like goat. So kudos to him for cornering that market.
A fascinating aspect of my practice here is the tendency for new clients to send me questionnaires as a sort of job interview before getting together for the first time. I think this is, in short, fantastic. I have often railed about the responsibility therapists have for being c...
Recently, I heard of a woman complain that she kept running into the same type of man. She went on saying that each time she goes out looking for the “right” type of man she is often disappointed that she only finds the ones that treat her poorly. Is this you? Do you seem to struggle with the same issue? Are you ready for a relationship that is worthy of your time and energy? Then it is time to stop this cycle and get into the relationships that you desire!
The truth is many of our relationships reflect how we feel internally. For example, if you often experience poor self esteem, you will find relationships where you need constant encouragement to feel good about yourself. Another example is that a person who struggles with insecurity will often chose a person who has a problem with being faithful and has several infidelity issues. The important point to remember is that for you to find the “good” relationship you seek, you may want to consider resol...
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