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Get your Self Esteem on.
Wait. Now that you are a grown up person, who is making the rules for your life? Who is telling you what to do?&n...
Healing Grief: Help For Grief Online
Grief is an overwhelmingly painful experience when you've lost someone you love through separation or death. The bond of love...
What to Do About Your Little Boy Husband
By Matt W. Sandford, LMHCI don’t mean to stereotype (too much), but do you think that husbands or boyfriends come in &l...
Feeling Behind in Life: The Myth of the Self Made Man(Person)
By Matt W. Sandford, LMHCI often talk with people who are struggling because they feel that they are behind in life in some w...
Sexual Trauma and Men - A Path to Thriving
Talking about sexual assault, sexual abuse, and rape is difficult for anyone. For men, it has it’s own unique challenge...
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The day starts well; the woman is cheerful, optimistic. Then her husband (daughter, son, etc) comes home, doesn't smile and instead snaps at her. She tries to cheer him up; he tells her that she is too negative, a nag, on and on the insults fly and then he leaves. Her mind spins. "What did I do wrong? Why did I say that? I always say the wrong thing. I can never be right. It has always been this way. He hates me and will never talk to me again. I cannot live without him, I would be miserable. Who does he think he is anyway! He cannot speak to me like that. I don't need anyone. I will live alone. No one has ever cared about me anyway. I hate my life." Those thoughts may sound contradictory but once our minds go off on a spin, it can lead to stray paths. These thoughts are usually quick, semi conscious and often based on false premises. For example: what if her husband comes home 30 minutes later and told her that he lost his job and apologizes for taking out his frustrations on he...
Did you ever notice that most books are written in past tense? The present moment is so precious partly due to the fact that it is so fleeting. And the future, well, that is unpredictable. If the past is gone and the the future is unknowable, then all we really have is the present. This is my focus. Is it yours? Look at small children, dogs and cats. That's all they do!! Do you find yourself lamenting something you did or could have done in the past? Do you stay up nights worrying about what may or may not be coming? The answer to that question is, who doesn't? The difference though, between the "worrying/lamenting" and true happiness is simple. You have to train your mind to be present as much as possible. One of the best ways to "train" is meditation : self hypnosis, Yoga, Thai, Chi. Or, more simply get in the habit of living presently whenever you are able.
How do you sleep at night? Do you have things that keep you awake like physical pain or worrying? Almost any adult I talk to would answer 'not so well' to first question and 'yes' to the second one. The good news is that there is a method to help you. Everyone dreams when they sleep. Many adults go to bed anxious and therefore their dreams have an anxious effect on them. By using mediation and visualization before sleep to put yourself in a relaxed state, your dreams can actually have a calming effect on you.This can be carried over once you wake. So instead of a vicious circle you have a healing one. As I tell my clients, all the tools I utilize (Hypnosis Reiki and EFT) can also help to reinforce this calming effect. Instead of having anxiety at night, why not have our sleep work for us?
When an individual within a family is diagnosed with a serious mental illness, (i.e.
Schizophrenia or Bipolar Disorder), the foundation within the family is often shaken
to its core. The news is devastating, and the diagnosed family member, due to the
illness,is not be able to function in the same way as before. This individual will more
than likely require daily medication, and a great deal of support. The illness usually
strikes in the early to mid-twenties, at one's prime of life, which makes the situation
that much more difficult. Children may also be diagnosed with these disorders as
well, and their prognosis usually is not as good. Families are often at a loss
regarding how to cope with the situation, and what is best for the diagnosed
individual. Many families bring their son or daughter back home to live. Many
families end up having to keep their loved one at home, in order to care for them.
After some time, the caregivers can understandably feel overwhelmed, and
hopefully, will find suppo...
(From the Downtown Therapy blog. Check it out to see more)
One of the quiet, yet pernicious, ways which serve to steer people away from seeking the assistance that psychotherapy can bring is the idea that, somehow, seeking assistance is a sign of weakness.
I think part of this comes from movies and TV (though their depictions are getting better), which have historically portrayed individuals seeking therapeutic help as hopelessly neurotic.
Let me be frank: anyone seeking the help of a therapist soon discovers that the opposite is true. Seeking increased self-awareness (an inevitable part of psychotherapy) is an act of will. It is you, saying that you can feel better, be better. It is saying that you deserve to understand yourself better than you currently do. It is to say that keeping things the way they are is not good enough.
Self-improvement is not the admission of weakness of character, but the admission of strength of mind.
What is Adult Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD)?
Adult ADD is what we call any of several syndromes that interfere with adults' psychological functions such as planning, managing time and tasks, and making decisions. People with this problem may experience difficulty in the following activities:
remembering and organizing information and things
starting and finishing tasks
being on time
set and ordering priorities
acting and speaking out inappropriately
What to do if You Think You Have ADD.
ADD is believed to be associated with abnormalities in various parts of the brain, especially the frontal lobes. At the present time, there is no definitive test for the disorder. The diagnosis is based on a thorough assessment of a person's present and past functioning and, if possible, the observations of a friend or relative who has observed the individual's daily behavior. The severity of the symptoms and their impact on the patient's life are important factors to consider in...
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