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I have had so many couples come in to complain about everything that is going wrong in their relationship! I ask a few simple questions;
1. Do you tell your partner how you feel when...?
2. What strategies have you used from our last session to help deal with...?
3. Do you have time established to sit down with your partner and discuss your issues?
4. When do you spend time together just having fun?
5. Do you tell your partner when he or she is doing something right?
The answers I get are No and We don't! It is SO important to be consistent in your relationship to keep it healthy and functioning. Being consistent with inconsistency will not help you maintain a long lasting relationship.
I recommend weekly relationship check ins. Set a time and stick to it every week. Discuss your thoughts and feelings and establish a plan to address the issues. Have some "Us Time." This is quality time that you and your partner can spend together either alone or with friends, but the time is to connect! Have some basic fun...whatever that means for your relationship.
Just be consistent and present in your relationship.
~You are ABLE to stay connected.
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