Christian Counseling Category
Rebuilding The Family Foundation
Saturday, August 25, 2012 10AM to 11AM (PT)Long Beach, CA
Every wonder why some families seem to have it "together" and other families seem to struggle? What are your hopes, dreams and expectations of family life? All families can be strong and healthy.
In 1950, the typical family consisted of a working father, an at-home mother and at least two children. But conditions have changed and so have families. Many still have the picture of the "ideal" family as the kind that existed in the 50s. The look of family changed again in the 90s. Today, there are even more single-parent, two-worker, step-parent and childless families. So what makes a family strong - Is it who makes up the family or how well they work together to accomplish necessary tasks? Learn ways to improve your family foundation.
The Power of a Homemaker
Saturday, August 18, 2012 10 AM to 11AM (PT) Long Beach
The word "homemaker" in today’s society is considered passé. It brings about connotations of the 1950s June Cleaver in Leave It to Beaver. Today's mom are known as a "stay-at-home mom," " a "domestic engineer," but rarely as a "homemaker." However, before we completely throw this word out, I think we need to consider how appropriate and important it really is. The word "homemaking" when understood correctly, is a powerful word. Not to be confused with a woman who simply wants to sleep-in, a true homemaker describes "a person who makes a home."
As women, we are all appointed to be keepers of the home. Someday you may be called to love a husband and bring up children and make a home for them. Or as a single woman, you may be entrusted with a home from which you extend hospitality and vital service to your church and community. While you may pursue many other God-honoring tasks or occupations throughout you...
Order From Chaos - Healing From Divorce (Class)
Saturday, June 16, 2012 from 10AM to 11AM (PT) Long Beach
Divorce, or the breakup of a serious relationship, can be a devastating ordeal, resulting in a roller coaster of emotions. Healing will take time, and for some, it may seem as if they never recover. Others, may carry the pain with them for years, even fearing new relationships. There are things you can do to make the healing process more manageable and helpful to you.
Divorce is painful, but the wounds will heal. Let us show you how.
Daddy's Home -- Adjusting to Life After Deployment (Webinar)
Wednesday, June 13, 2012 from 1:00 PM to 2:00 PM (PT)
Couples who have been separated by military deployment often look forward to a service member's return as a time of happiness, a chance to get back to "normal" life. Children look forward to having a missing parent back at home. The absent service member looks forward to a joyful reunion and the comforts of home. After a dangerous deployment, families are relieved that the service member is returning home safely.
When you’ve been away from each other for a period of time because a spouse has been deployed, it’s difficult to imagine that the reunion and the time you will have after the return home will be anything but wonderful, but that’s not always (and usually isn’t) the case.
Reunions are wonderful, but you can also find a different war zone that can begin between you if you don’t do what it takes to make your transition time together easier than just coming together and working things out on a &ldquo...
What Happened to My Marriage? How Children Can Affect A Relationship (Teleconference)
Wednesday, May 16, 2012 from 11:00 AM to 12:00 PM (PT)
Children are a blessing. What a great addition to the family.
But what do you do when your bundle of joy brings unhappiness between you and your husband? Maybe someone said - things would change after the baby comes - but they didnt tell you what. Find out the top 5 things that can bring your relationship to a stand still.
Understand what can happen or what has happened and how to fix it. Knowing is the key to getting your family on track and being the happy folks you once were.
Arguing Badly
M. Rivest, Ph.D.
Counseling Solutions at SMI
www.MarrriageCounseling.org
336 760 1780
Arguing Badly
A student in my class on Creating an Effective Argument said that she had enrolled for the purpose of learning how to win arguments with her 14 year old daughter.
A number of thoughts rushed through my mind. Why argue with a person whose brain is not yet developed? My other thoughts got worse. You don’t really want to hear them.
Adults and children alike use many tactics to “win” arguments by avoiding the question, or argument, entirely. Here are several logical fallacies not to use.
Tactic # 1: Use a “Red Herring”
A red herring is a dead fish. Dog trainers used to use red herrings to train their tracking dogs and try to get them off the trail.
A red herring is the introduction of an irrelevant point into an argument.
Politicians are experts with dead fish. And so are children.
In the case of the 14 year old daughter, let’s call her Sally, ...
Infidelity Doesn’t Have to End a Marriage
Counseling Solutions at SMI
by Michael W. Rivest Ph.D., D.S.T.
Counselor, Certified Sex Therapist
www.MarriageCounseling.org
Winston-Salem, NC
336 760 1780
Infidelity Doesn’t Have to End a Marriage
Infidelity is a terrible experience. Often it is a death blow to even the best of marriages. At worst it ends in divorce and broken families, at best it limps along in a life of bitter memories that ruin the best of possibilities.
No matter how strong you think you are, or believe that it will never happen to you, when it comes the “death knell tolls.” Life will never be the same.
Infidelity comes in many packages. Sometimes it is wrapped in the package of the other woman (that bitch), another man (gay creep), or pornography (whores).
And women are furious. They feel isolated. Dreams are lost. They question their own ability to judge, and worst they feel powerless to change either the present or direct the future.
That is the experience of every woman who has suf...
Pre-Marriage Counseling
Pre-Marriage Counseling
by M. Rivest Ph.D., D.S.T.
Counseling Solutions at SMI
336 760 1780
Couples enter marriage with high hopes and wonderful dreams. This is a good thing.
They then find that their first year together is difficult and their third year nearly intolerable and then…50% divorce.
Pre-marriage counseling is great for those marrying for the second, third, and forth times.
Unless we change how we do our relationship business we will repeat our former errors. That is why the success rate for remarriages ranges from 10-30%. If the remarriage is a product of adultery from a former marriage the success rate is 5%. Pre-marriage counseling can help increase the success rate.
The problem, of course, is that we often do our mate selection rather haphazardly. Often we make decisions more on feelings than common sense. No one taught us any differently.
Most of our families, well over 68%, are dysfunctional in some serious ways. So our first teachers, those being our p...
Sure fire ways to ruin your marriage including the “best friend lie”
Sure fire ways to ruin your marriage including the “best friend lie”
by
Dr. M. Rivest, Ph.D., D.S.T.
www.MarriageCounseling.org
336 760 1780
“I love you so much dear. You let me go to the bar with my friends and say nothing when I return at 2 AM. You hardly ask me to do anything around the house, including picking up after myself. You are the greatest.”
I hope that bit of monologue disturbs you as much as it does me. It illustrates four all too popular relationship busters, 1. dishonesty, 2.annoying habits, 3. independent behaviors, and 4.the lack of good conversation.
Dishonesty: Commission, omission, and “little while lies” can kill the greatest of relationships. I once knew a gal who would destroy people with the bluntness and cruelty of her remarks. Then she would say,” Well I was honest!” We did not remain friends for long. Honesty is best served with thoughtful humility coated with mercy and kindness.
Commission is right- ou...
Why we get angry, show anger, and heal anger
Why we get angry, show anger, and heal anger
By
Michael Rivest, Ph.D.
MarriageCounseling.org
336 760 1780
If you ever really want to embarrass yourself tape record or video tape an argument with your spouse (be in agreement on this first). After watching the recording the question will loom. Why do we get angry?
The whole process of getting and staying angry can be very complex. However, simply put, we get afraid then we get angry. Bet you never thought about it that way. We get afraid first then angry.
The bottom line is that we get afraid that we are not being accepted.
Perhaps someone is disagreeing with us or we think things should go differently. Within a fraction of a second we translate that into “I am not being accepted,” “I am not being liked.”
So…by getting angry I hope to act with some kind of power, shown through my anger, that will force you to do something. I want you to accept me. That sounds stupid doesn’t it? I get mad and ...
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