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Alcohol and Drug Addiction Stage One
Alcohol and Drug Addiction- Stage One During the initial stage of addiction the addicts' character is permanently altered. T...
Sometimes, something new happens, like a sought after job, relationship, or a new living space. It can feel so exciting.....l...
Alcohol and Drug Addiction Stage Two
At this particular stage, the addict's life is breaking down emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally. this situatio...
350 People Die Of Addiction Each Day- Is It Time To Rethink Rehab?
Every year in the U.S., 120,000 people die of addiction. That’s 350 a day. Desperate to save the life of an addict, a ...
NAVIGATING THE STRESS OF THE HIGH SCHOOL YEARS
NAVIGATING THE STRESS OF THE HIGH SCHOOL YEARS by Carol Sampson, LCSW As the parent of a high school student and a therapis...
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Honesty in our relationships is crucial to their success. Still, there are those who will say that "honesty is the best policy" and then speak in a manner that can be hurtful and damaging. When we love or care about others we must take responsibility for how we communicate with them. How many weddings have you attended where the "love passage" is read? In part, this passage states that "love does not act unbecomingly." While we will all make mistakes in our communication, we can strive to "speak the truth in love." Yes, I am quoting the Bible, and I am also referring to the work of John Gottman, author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.
Gottman points to criticism of our partner as being destructive to our relationship. Will we have complaints? Absolutely! And more importantly, in order to have a healthy relationship or marriage I encourage you to share your frustrations and needs. A skill that can be learned is to turn a criticism into a c...
Cyber Sex Addiction May Be In Your Marriage.
By M. Rivest Ph.D., D.S.T.
Board Certified: Sex Therapy & Counseling (UACCI)
336 760 1780
“We argued that night. I went to bed early. He stayed up. Somewhere about 2AM I noticed he was not in bed. I roamed through the darkness of the house. I found him in his usual spot, his basement office. The blue green glow of the computer made him look diseased. He was looking at porno, again,” reports a counseling client.
The Internet has become the newest, most rapidly growing form of sexual acting out for many sex addicts. The internet fills a need for "more, easier and better." For the cybersex addict, increasing amounts of time are spent "surfing," downloading, creating files, masturbating, reading information posted on sexual bulletin boards, exchanging sexual information live with others in sexual chat rooms or via computer cameras, or directing their own live sex shows on i...
M. Rivest, Ph.D.
Counseling Solutions at SMI
Caught in Adultery, Part 1
Perhaps the death of a mate is more devastating than catching him in adultery. Or perhaps killing him for being an adulterer, but we can’t do that. Darn.
Adultery does emotionally devastate both partners and perhaps the marriage and family. If there is a chance of saving the marriage it must be done immediately. Let us discuss the things
to do. Once again I will recognize that while either gender can be the offender I will use the male reference for this article.
The not to do list:
Do not go "postal."
Yes, you are angry and deserve to be. You also need to show your anger but doing and saying drastic things will not help to recreate your marriage when it comes time to do that. If you want to destroy your marriage that is another thing. While most women might want to destroy the man at this moment they really do not want to destroy the marriage and family. Try to keep perspective. The affair does ...
Saturday, August 25, 2012 10AM to 11AM (PT)Long Beach, CA
Every wonder why some families seem to have it "together" and other families seem to struggle? What are your hopes, dreams and expectations of family life? All families can be strong and healthy.
In 1950, the typical family consisted of a working father, an at-home mother and at least two children. But conditions have changed and so have families. Many still have the picture of the "ideal" family as the kind that existed in the 50s. The look of family changed again in the 90s. Today, there are even more single-parent, two-worker, step-parent and childless families. So what makes a family strong - Is it who makes up the family or how well they work together to accomplish necessary tasks? Learn ways to improve your family foundation.
Saturday, August 18, 2012 10 AM to 11AM (PT) Long Beach
The word "homemaker" in today’s society is considered passé. It brings about connotations of the 1950s June Cleaver in Leave It to Beaver. Today's mom are known as a "stay-at-home mom," " a "domestic engineer," but rarely as a "homemaker." However, before we completely throw this word out, I think we need to consider how appropriate and important it really is. The word "homemaking" when understood correctly, is a powerful word. Not to be confused with a woman who simply wants to sleep-in, a true homemaker describes "a person who makes a home."
As women, we are all appointed to be keepers of the home. Someday you may be called to love a husband and bring up children and make a home for them. Or as a single woman, you may be entrusted with a home from which you extend hospitality and vital service to your church and community. While you may pursue many other God-honoring tasks or occupations throughout you...
Saturday, June 16, 2012 from 10AM to 11AM (PT) Long Beach
Divorce, or the breakup of a serious relationship, can be a devastating ordeal, resulting in a roller coaster of emotions. Healing will take time, and for some, it may seem as if they never recover. Others, may carry the pain with them for years, even fearing new relationships. There are things you can do to make the healing process more manageable and helpful to you.
Divorce is painful, but the wounds will heal. Let us show you how.
Wednesday, June 13, 2012 from 1:00 PM to 2:00 PM (PT)
Couples who have been separated by military deployment often look forward to a service member's return as a time of happiness, a chance to get back to "normal" life. Children look forward to having a missing parent back at home. The absent service member looks forward to a joyful reunion and the comforts of home. After a dangerous deployment, families are relieved that the service member is returning home safely.
When you’ve been away from each other for a period of time because a spouse has been deployed, it’s difficult to imagine that the reunion and the time you will have after the return home will be anything but wonderful, but that’s not always (and usually isn’t) the case.
Reunions are wonderful, but you can also find a different war zone that can begin between you if you don’t do what it takes to make your transition time together easier than just coming together and working things out on a &ldquo...
Wednesday, May 16, 2012 from 11:00 AM to 12:00 PM (PT)
Children are a blessing. What a great addition to the family.
But what do you do when your bundle of joy brings unhappiness between you and your husband? Maybe someone said - things would change after the baby comes - but they didnt tell you what. Find out the top 5 things that can bring your relationship to a stand still.
Understand what can happen or what has happened and how to fix it. Knowing is the key to getting your family on track and being the happy folks you once were.
M. Rivest, Ph.D.
Counseling Solutions at SMI
336 760 1780
A student in my class on Creating an Effective Argument said that she had enrolled for the purpose of learning how to win arguments with her 14 year old daughter.
A number of thoughts rushed through my mind. Why argue with a person whose brain is not yet developed? My other thoughts got worse. You don’t really want to hear them.
Adults and children alike use many tactics to “win” arguments by avoiding the question, or argument, entirely. Here are several logical fallacies not to use.
Tactic # 1: Use a “Red Herring”
A red herring is a dead fish. Dog trainers used to use red herrings to train their tracking dogs and try to get them off the trail.
A red herring is the introduction of an irrelevant point into an argument.
Politicians are experts with dead fish. And so are children.
In the case of the 14 year old daughter, let’s call her Sally, ...
Counseling Solutions at SMI
by Michael W. Rivest Ph.D., D.S.T.
Counselor, Certified Sex Therapist
336 760 1780
Infidelity Doesn’t Have to End a Marriage
Infidelity is a terrible experience. Often it is a death blow to even the best of marriages. At worst it ends in divorce and broken families, at best it limps along in a life of bitter memories that ruin the best of possibilities.
No matter how strong you think you are, or believe that it will never happen to you, when it comes the “death knell tolls.” Life will never be the same.
Infidelity comes in many packages. Sometimes it is wrapped in the package of the other woman (that bitch), another man (gay creep), or pornography (whores).
And women are furious. They feel isolated. Dreams are lost. They question their own ability to judge, and worst they feel powerless to change either the present or direct the future.
That is the experience of every woman who has suf...
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