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Alcohol and Drug Addiction Stage One
Alcohol and Drug Addiction- Stage One During the initial stage of addiction the addicts' character is permanently altered. T...
So just when you thought you had the whole parenting thing down, you blink and your child is now a tweenager/teenager (cue ho...
Parenting is Climate Control
Parenting is Climate Control Blog posted September 21, 2013 Summer is almost over and the school year has already begun. Mos...
HOLIDAYS AND SEX, DRUGS AND ROCK & ROLL
The holidays are upon us, and so is drinking, drugging, and acting crazy. Dinner at Aunt Edna’s where she talks non-sto...
Raising Natural Born Killers? Sheen Twin's Violent Behavior Due to Mom's Abuse of Drugs and Alcohol
Los Angeles, Nov 12 (IANS) Socialite Brooke Mueller has agreed to have her twins Bob and Max tested for "fetal alcohol and dr...
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11:30 PM. Off to bed. Tonight I am going to sleep. I have to. I am just so tired. How will I get all that work done tomorrow if I don't sleep? How can I explain it to people? They will think I am so crazy, never sleeping well. And if I can't work, how can I pay my mortgage? What will I do? I am such a failure! I cannot do anything right...
12:30 AM. Oh no, I am still awake. Who is that talking in my head? Why can I not shut off that voice that keeps worrying and worrying? It is driving me up a wall. TV fix..quick, watch a comedy, that will help.
1:00 AM. OK now I should be able to sleep. I drank some hot milk, relaxed. I will try some deep breathing like the doctor said.
2:30 AM. Was I sleeping? Was that a dream? But I am awake now and my shoulder hurts me. I am so stupid, why can't I sleep? What is wrong with me? I will never sleep. I cannot survive without sleep. My whole body is tingling, my mind is racing, my heart is beating so fast, I cannot breathe. I must be having a ...
People often confuse anger with rage. There are very important differences. Anger management ideally should focus on communication skills, learning how to express your dissatisfaction in a way that will get the results you want. Anger is a healthy emotion when we are treated shabbily, with disrespect, etc. Good communication skills, when we are angry, are very important in order to protect ourselves and get what we want out of life. In rage we lose control, we do feel anger but it is also combined with a strong sense of helplessness. We often describe that feeling as "banging our heads against the wall." Anger management, stressing communication skills, cannot help in the long term with rage. With rage we need to deal with the underlying emotions, often childhood trauma.
Rage tears you apart, you lose control, you say and do thing you never would do otherwise. At that moment you may feel a surge of power, letting go of all the pent-up anger and pain, you want to hurt the people, past ...
Cali is set to kick off her private island retreat this month down in the Bahamas. The Addictions Coach has teamed up with the anonymous property owner in the beautifully secluded outer islands and has put together an ALLSTAR team to work one on one with the program’s clients. This scenario works perfect for the person who is serious about his or her recovery and there is no better place on earth to lay the foundation of a personalized “treatment plan” than this gorgeous stretch of secluded beach. Once on the island the client will be shuttled to the property where you instantly feel at peace in the personalized “resort like” bungalow cabins. The closest neighbor to the North is 7 miles and the closest to the South is 12 miles. The main house is a beautiful 2 story home with a dining room, living/entertainment room, and a large commercial kitchen where a personal chef will prepare all of the clients meals. The outer grounds consist of fire pits, hanging ham...
Sometimes our childhood places do not invoke pleasant memories.As an adult, we recognize that memories from our childhood can play out in our adult world in challenging ways.
With a trained therapist, you will be able to break down psychological resistance. This resistance often disguises itself as defense mechanisms. By doing this, you can better understand how your behavior today stems from your childhood memories and experiences.
So how do you do all of this?
Embrace the bad memory. Accept who you are and how your life is today.Muster up the strength so that you can mentally say “This is the feeling that I have dreaded. I have felt it and faced it completely. Now, I can let the feeling go.”Cultivate a positive self-image connecting you to the present rather than the past. Practice mindful breathing. Cleansing your mind and body helps lift your spirits and can eliminate unpleasant associations to memories.Reconnect with the current happenings and people in your life. R...
Many people think hypnosis is a passive process whereby a person exclaims “I have this problem” and the therapist “takes control” of their mind to solve it. They think it is as simple as a person sitting back in a chair and getting “commanded” to stop overeating, feel comfortable with the opposite sex, or sparkle when public speaking. Nothing could be further from the truth. Commander-and-chief of your brain, the professional therapist is not.
You have been influencing your mind for how many years already… 30, 40, 50? Paradoxically, rather than taking control away from an individual, Hypnosis is a transformative tool that teaches a person how-to develop greater self-control. In fact, in those contexts where our mind just seems to “take over,” like feeling hopeless after a break-up, freezing up at a job interview or bingeing on cookies, hypnosis leads a person to “resourceful” states of mind. A sense of Inner Secur...
When I first became a hypnotist, I was offered the 'fast track to becoming successful.' I did not then do do I now have any interest in this. I am a strong believer in enjoying and learning from the process. For one thing the details of the 'process' is what makes up your life. For another thing, you get so much more from learning about what you did right and what you did not. This is ownership. Seems so many people are in such a hurry to cross the 'finish line.' Sorry folks there is no finish line (except of course maybe death). If you rush through every experience then that's just what it will feel like: like you rushed through it to get to the next thing. Maybe it's time to ask yourself a question: what is the next thing that you are rushing to?
I have 2 jobs and in both jobs I am contracted to keep secrets, the purpose of this secret keeping is to protect those I work for.
The question that occurred to me when reflecting on this is about the nature of secrets, what are their benefits and drawbacks? I stated at the beginning of this that in my professional life they protect those I work for, though this is not the entire story. They also serve to provide a safe and trusting environment for those I work for, enabling them to be open and speak freely without having to worry that anything they say would go outside of those four walls. It is rather ironic to my mind that they are such a powerful enabler in that situation yet in many others they can be destructive, burdensome and be a catalyst or cause of distrust.
Within relationships with loved ones we are often taught that we should be open and honest and not keep secrets, yet in so many instances secrets are kept in order to not hurt peoples feelings or protect people, yet if...
Finding out that your loved one has been unfaithful is absolutely gut-wrenching and can cause you to feel lost, devastated, disillusioned and resentful. While the initial shock and anger might leave you wanting your other half to rot in hell, you really need to make a decision as to whether or not you can, or want, to move past it; and if your relationship is important enough to try to work through the broken trust and issues that have arisen.
Some people consider infidelity to be a total deal breaker that there is no coming back from. But if you’re not ready to throw it all away and you really want to rebuild the love and trust in your relationship, it is possible if both parties are committed.
There are a few steps that you can take as a couple to start mending the damage that has been done.
Honesty is crucial when it comes to regaining trust. Talk openly about the details of the indiscretions but leave out the unnecessary gruesome details that really don’t m...
Taking yourself to see a counsellor can be an extremely frightening ordeal. Aside from what you may actually experience in session with your counsellor, just making the initial phone call or sending that first email can make you feel anxious, afraid or inadequate.
A colleague of mine once told me that the average person makes contact with her office seven times before booking his or her first consultation. I took it as a confirmation that taking your time to consider coming to counselling and choosing the right therapist is normal.
This post is about the possible reasons for your trepidation contacting a counsellor.
Why you may want to see a counsellor
You may consider coming to therapy for a number of reasons. Perhaps you feel your life is missing something, but you can’t put your finger on what it is. Or maybe you recognize that your responses to life circumstances are out of balance.
You may have a hard time relating to people, or you may feel depressed or anxious. You maybe cr...
Daily meditation. Visualize you are in a calm place. Take ten slow deep breaths. Tighten, then relax muscle groups from head to toes for deeper relaxation. Get plenty of sleep. Use lavender oil on your pillow for a deep sleep. Drink a glass of water. Reduce caffeine and sugar. Have a cup of chamomile tea. Exercise at least 30 minutes 3 times/week. Take a brisk walk. Change the scenery. Yoga Stretching Give yourself a foot massage with St. John’s Wort Oil. Indulge in a massage. Cup your hands over you eyes and open them in complete darkness. Share your worries with someone. Write your thoughts in a journal. Watch a funny movie ->LAUGH!!! Schedule leisure time. Take reasonable breaks from work. Take a relaxing bath. Put on soothing music. Socialize with friends. Abandon television for a week. Skip the news. Cultivate happy, loving thoughts. Practice affirmations: “I am relaxed. I am relaxation.” “I am calm. I am calmness.” “I am peaceful. I a...
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