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Addiction is a Family Affair
Thirty years ago, I was introduced recovery. It was not long after my 27th birthday. Because I come from generations of famil...
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Raising Natural Born Killers? Sheen Twin's Violent Behavior Due to Mom's Abuse of Drugs and Alcohol
Los Angeles, Nov 12 (IANS) Socialite Brooke Mueller has agreed to have her twins Bob and Max tested for "fetal alcohol and dr...
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Over the course of 20+ years of working with mixed sexual orientation marriages, I have found their existence to be far more prevalent than the nearly nil amount of professional research about them, or the rare portrayal of them in the mainstream media might lead one to conclude. My awareness of their marginalization was recently reinforced at the Baltimore and Capital Pride Festivals when I had the pleasure of meeting several of you. There, a handout about my work included the term, "mixed orientation marriages." This prompted one question, repeatedly: "What is that?"
Mixed orientation marriages, or MOMs, are "traditional" Carol and Mike Brady heterosexual marriages in which one spouse is, or learns that she/he is, non-hetero (for any readers under the age of 30, Google "The Brady Bunch" if you don't know Carol and Mike). MOMs are an important part of the hetero and non-hetero communities, but they are marginalized and hidden, to the extent of near-invisibility. It's not that people w...
There is a stereotype that LGBT persons don't desire long-term, meaningful relationships‑that we would rather experience an endless series of hookups and friends-with-benefits with nothing more. This couldn’t be further from the truth. However, finding someone who is compatible and who is willing to work together through the bad times as well as the good isn't easy.
When you first meet someone there can be a real mutual attraction. You might share interests, enjoy each other’s company and believe the relationship has real potential. They may ask to see you again. All signs seem positive, you feel hopeful, and you might even let yourself fanaticize about a future together.
Over the next few days or weeks, you keep in touch frequently: texting, calling, Skyping or emailing. Then suddenly you hit the brick wall. No callbacks, no texts, no emails, they “unfriend” you on Facebook, and you never hear from them again. There is no way to find out why they disappeare...
Ever feel that you aren't complete unless you are in a relationship with someone? Ever find yourself in an endless pursuit of "the perfect person," the one who will bring a greater sense of "okayness" to yourself? Share
- Listen to understand and appreciate not to refute
- Express gratitude several times a day
- Find your spouse upon leaving or arriving and give a big hug
- Call “time outs” before you say things you will regret
- Reconnect when you have cooled down and repair any hurt
- Have a daily check in, a weekly marital review and a quarterly goal sharing
- Spend one evening without kids and feel alive together again
- Plan a week-end without kids at least once a quarter.
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Ever heard the saying "practice makes perfect"? I wonder why we don't think to apply that idea to our sexuality.
To be good at pretty much anything in life, first we need the proper training. We have to learn how to ride a bike, how to swim, how to drive a car, the proper way to raise kids, and the list can go on and on. Rarely, if ever, do we do something perfectly the first time we attempt it. This is why we need to practice! The more we practice, the more comfortable we will become with the task. As our comfort increases, so does our confidence and our enjoyment of the activity.
Not only does practice allow us the time to hone our skills, but it is also the time for us to learn where are strengths and weakness show up. Let's use baseball as an example. Each position on the field requires a different skills set. The person playing short-stop may need to be quick on their feet and able to cover a large area in a short amount of time. Where as the person playing first base may not ne...
Even children and adolescents who have parents who do a lot of "right" things for their children can struggle with "issues." (Although the word "issues" is not a favorite one, it helps to describe struggles that many of us face.) It is very easy as a society to point to any child who is acting out, making poor choices, or behaving aggressively and place the blame squarely on the parents' shoulders. While it is true that parents have a significant impact on their children and the choices that the children make and the parent's role cannot be ignored or downplayed, it is also equally true that children are autonomous and have their own thoughts and feelings.
Children and adolescents have a lot of influences to sort through and navigate in today's society. We have to remember that media and social networking are huge factors, as are peer relationships, school environments, body chemistry (teen hormones!), and changes in their lives such as moving, parents divorcing, death of a loved one,...
Creating Boundaries When you are in a Relationship with a Sex Addict:
What are boundaries? They are a dividing line between you and anyone else. These lines represent physical, emotional, and spiritual limits that other people in your life may not violate. It may help to envision a psychological fence that separates you from others in your life. You may have different boundaries for loved ones, friends, acquaintances, and strangers, depending on the area of focus and the situation. Boundaries are meant to protect you from physical danger, anger, hurt, fear, or any other painful emotions that you would experience if someone violated these limits. They keep us from agreeing to things that we really don’t want to do and then feeling resentful. They help to regulate the personal space in relationships. With good boundaries, you’ll feel more empowered and less like a victim.
Boundaries help to keep you safe and communicate your expectations to others. They are one way that you...
Understanding Binge Eating In Teens:
Getting Help: If after reading this, you are convinced you or your teen may be suffering from Binge Eating Disorder, seek help of a professional who has had success in treating Binge Eating Disorder. Orlando Residents: Feel free to call me for a free over the phone consultation……
If you gorged yourself on chocolate during Halloween or ate so much of your grandma's pumpkin pie at Thanksgiving that you had to wear elastic-waist pants afterward, you know what it feels like to overeat. It's not unusual to overeat from time to time — most people do.
During our teens, the body demands extra nutrients to support growth of muscle and bone. So if you go through phases where you feel like eating more sometimes, that's usually why.
But binge eating is different from normal appetite increases or overeating over the holidays. People with a binge eating problem eat unusually large amounts of food on a regular basis. They often eat quickly,...
Your marriage/relationship is not hopeless after an affair, it is possible to survive infidelity and heal your relationship.
When you first find out about the affair, you will probably feel shock, rage, anger, disbelief, deep sadness and disillusionment. There will probably be lots of tears and wildly fluctuating emotions. It’s important for you to talk to your partner about your feelings, your hurt and your pain. You also need to decide if you really want to hear the details of the affair. On one hand the truth might not be as bad as you imagine it to be; on the other hand, hearing the details might haunt you for a long time to come.
The spouse who has had the affair probably just wants to shut the door on the past and not talk about it, but he/she needs to understand that you are not ready to ‘let it go’ and you need to work on it. It is most likely very hard to listen to your partner without attacking him/her, but that is the best place to start.
What are the Under...
Aside from my wonderful family, therapy is my great love. Seriously, I can’t imagine myself doing anything else all day. (Though, I did really want to be a flight attendant for a long time; I would love all that travel.) So, when potential clients call me up to inquire about my services, I can barely contain myself. I want to tell you everything right away. I have books to offer and pointers to share. I want to explain how cool my new office is, and brag on the many folks who have turned their lives around through the hard work they have done in the therapy room. But mostly, folks aren’t ready to hear that yet. When they’re in distress, all they want to know is if I have any experience working with their particular brand of trouble. I think that’s reasonable, actually. I mean, why would you want to bring your heart and your relationship to someone who hasn’t got the foggiest idea where to start?
So, let’s get down to brass tacks, as my grandmama use...
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