Therapist Blogs for August 2011
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Counselling in the Community
When people ask me:” at what point shall I seek counseling?” I tell them: “if you feel like you are not as ...
Establishing Healthy LGBT Relationships
There is a stereotype that LGBT persons don't desire long-term, meaningful relationships‑that we would rather experience an...
The Molecular Weight of Secrets...
May 9, 2013 It is a beautiful Spring day in Portland, Oregon. I turn in my chair to look out the big skylight in my office. ...
Are You Procrastinating Again?
We all do it, we set goals, create actions to take, say we are going to do something but somewhere along the way we lose sigh...
Should your beliefs or values matter when choosing a therapist?
In today’s society everyone is looking for a way to ‘fix’ their problems. However, the role of the therapis...
Many people are attracted to individuals with ADD for their zany sense of humor, imagination, creativity, charm and “out of the box” thinking. But for many couples those attractive qualities can sometimes fade in the light of untreated ADD. I receive hundreds of calls and e mails from frustrated partners of individuals with ADD (POADD’s) asking if I could please work with their partner in assisting with the various aspects of ADD that are affecting the quality of their lives and relationships. Sadly, untreated ADD is a large factor in many divorces and break ups between couples. The following is a list of some of the most common problems affecting these couples:
Rage and/or uncontrollable anger: Many individuals with ADD have difficulty controlling their anger and (what’s more) can provoke their partner’s anger as well. The POADD’s are often overwhelmed and exhausted with all the fighting and feel badly that they are unable to control their temper....
Is your teen depressed, withdrawn, and isolating from friends and you?? You have every right to be concerned and frustrated when you care about your teen and you may feel helpless not knowing what to do. Every time you try to connect with them, they seem to shut you out.
You may remember what it was like back then, not being able to let your parents know how you really felt. For so many reasons, maybe pride, fear of vulnerability, or the uncertainty that it would feel any better- These might have kept you from connecting with your parents, and may effect your teen.
What your teen needs is to really know that your are going to listen and really hear them without judgement, or blame. They are begging to be understood, and when they don't feel understood they crawl into their shell even more. By really listening to them and showing them that they matter enought to sit down and look them in the eye like you would another friend, you begin to build a space of respect and this will i...
A Relationship Education Group for Couples - Couples are invited to join 8 weekly sessions from
September 1, 2011 to October 20, 2011 (Thursdays from 6:00 pm to 8:00 pm).
Based on the book: Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Dr. Sue Johnson (www.holdmetight.com).
Registration Fee: $640 per couple (for 16 total hours)
**** This group is limited to 5 couples, so please contact us for information and to register for this workshop! Couples must be registered to attend.
"A 90 Second Trick For Dealing With Anxiety And Stress" (I didn't make this up! Honest!)
Feelings of anxiety and stress are caused by the mind contemplating fearful outcomes. Of course much of this cognition is outside of our awareness - our Sub-Conscious.
One of the ways of dealing with anxiety and stress is to switch brain hemispheres. According to Neuroanatomists, whenever we are in states of fear, most of our brain activity is occurring in the left hemisphere
So if you do something that gets your right brain functioning, it means you are going to reduce the anxiety and stress.
This can be surprisingly simple once you know how...
Recently I heard an excellent interview with Genie Z. Laborde who has been involved with Neuro-Linguistic Programming over three decades and wrote the best selling NLP book, "Influencing With Integrity."
I discovered the following technique from listening to Genie and it really is simple! She has tested it with hundreds of clients and it has taught th...
A phobia (from the Greek phobos, meaning “fear”) is defined as “an irrational, obsessive, and intense fear that is focused on a specific circumstance, idea, or thing.” Phobic disorders, according to modern classification, are a subcategory of anxiety disorders. Some common phobias involve the fear of: public places, heights, flying, closed spaces, social situations, death, the dark, animals, foreigners or other groups of people, meteorological events, and electricity. One of the most widespread phobias is that of “public speaking.” Phobia sufferers may experience a variety of symptoms, including dizziness, heart palpitations, nausea, and immobilization.
A number of theories have been advanced about the causes of phobias:
- that phobias result from conditioning that stems from a single frightening encounter with the thing feared (the behaviorist perspective);
- that phobias mask anxieties dating from childhood (the psychoanalytic interpretation); tha...
Last week, I co-led a five-day retreat w/Claes Lilja (founder of Brotherhood Retreats) for HIV positive gay men from around the globe. Having previously facilitated numerous retreats, this one had some special ingredients that I am still happily digesting.
My contributions to the group were primarily in the areas of Disease Transformation (click to read article) and Sexuality & Sacred Sex. For the latter, we approached healing the obstruction many find between their sexual and love energies by shifting what we know about sex. We explored it through the lens of S.E.X. (Soul Energy eXchange), agreeing on a definition of “soul” and defining the four primary energies exchanged: Love, Pleasure, Lingam (active), and Yoni (receptive).
In a process of healing touch (with clothes on) led by Claes we experienced the restorative circle of love energy that is present when lingam and yoni are consciously exchanged. This reframing of sex was fascinating to the participants, and I wa...
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