Therapist Blogs for November 2011
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Alcohol and Drug Addiction Stage One
Alcohol and Drug Addiction- Stage One During the initial stage of addiction the addicts' character is permanently altered. T...
So just when you thought you had the whole parenting thing down, you blink and your child is now a tweenager/teenager (cue ho...
Parenting is Climate Control
Parenting is Climate Control Blog posted September 21, 2013 Summer is almost over and the school year has already begun. Mos...
Addiction is a Family Affair
Thirty years ago, I was introduced recovery. It was not long after my 27th birthday. Because I come from generations of famil...
Alcohol and Drug Addiction Stage Two
At this particular stage, the addict's life is breaking down emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally. this situatio...
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Here are a few facts
- · More boys wet their beds than girls· Bedwetting affects:
- 20% of children over 5
- 5% of children over 10
- 1% of children over 15
- Bedwetting often runs in families· Usually it stops by puberty· It does not necessarily mean the child has kidney problems
Bedwetting otherwise known as enuresis is a common problem in children and for many is a normal of growing up. It is normal for a child to develop control over their bladder by about the age of 3 to 4. However, not all children do. The fact that they don’t have full control doesn’t necessarily indicate a problem. Enuresis is probably more of an inconvenience that does not just affect the child. It is common for some kids to have lapses until they’re 7 or 8 if they’re ill or get stressed.
In common with lots of problems the more pressure they’re under to be a big boy, or girl and stop wetting the bed, the more likely they are to fail, thu...
All my games were political games; I was, like Joan of Arc, perpetually being burned at the stake. Indira Gandhi
As we’re nearing one of the major annual festivals and the part of the year where generally people participate more in this activity than any other... Have you ever thought about why we invest so much time and energy in playing games and why they are important?
Throughout their lives all animals learn through play and as such our knowledge and understanding has been tested through interaction, play and understanding. Games have been designed to develop desirable skills such as turn taking, patience, concentration, memory, knowledge, problem solving and various other skills and early learning opportunities that we have learned through play. Games have been played throughout history and have indeed been found in the tombs of the Pharohs.
So what is a game and what makes us play them? Broken down to a basic level a game is a set of social rituals that is repeatedly pla...
Have you ever visited somewhere new and had the feeling you’ve been there before? You’ve confidently found your way around small ancient side-streets, or country lanes and knew that there was something fantastic, but familiar just down there …..? Yes me too. Have you considered that you may have been there before - in a past life.
There are lots of theories about whether we live just the one life or have lived before and many people have strong beliefs which will not be swayed in either direction. I shall discuss an assortment of theories so that you can make up your own mind, if you’ve not already done so.
Inherited memories – (my personal favourite)
It has been proven that DNA has been passed down through the genes from generation to generation, your eye colour, hair colour pre-disposition to suffer from various ailments, such as arthritis, asthma, heart disease, diabetes etc, so why shouldn’t memories also be inherited? Given that where memori...
Well, I have been thinking a lot lately about golf. I mean its taking up a significant part of my life. And it really is more than just a silly game of getting a very small ball into a ridiculously small hole. So this short article is how you can view golf as a metaphor for life. Even if you don’t play the game, I think you will be able to relate to this idea.
And the central idea here is to believe in yourself. I’ve been a practicing psychotherapist for over 17 years, and I have been in the field for over 20 years. I’ve been playing golf for much longer than that and I continue to struggle with the game. Presently, I shoot about 100 which means that I’m an average golfer. Of course, I want to improve and I work on getting better (all the time-ask my wife.) There are many times that I want to give up, throw away my clubs and bag, and never hit a ball again. But, of course, this does not happen. Oh, I have flirted with the idea over the years, taking a short hia...
DEALING WITH TEENAGERS
Are you kidding me? You didn’t do anything for your project and its due tomorrow? What were you thinking?
Nate, please shut off the computer. You have been on it now for the past three hours.
Sally, please turn off your cell phone, lap top, IPod and the TV. How can one person carry on 8 conversations while watching Pretty Little Liars for the fiftieth time?
Dad, can I go to Florida for spring break with 10 of my closest buddies? Everybody is going. I promise to be responsible.
Mom, I need to go the mall with my friends to buy new clothes. Also, I need at least $200.
I am not going to High Holiday services. They are so boring.
Do these scenarios sound familiar? Teens today have an explosion of stimuli to deal with. And we have to deal with them. We want our kids to have positive experiences to help them become well rounded, emotionally and physically healthy people. And we also want them to develop into happy, independent, young adults.
How can we ta...
Most of us start off feeling we have met the most wonderful person in the world and can't wait to see them or talk to them again. It seems everything about them is fantastic and they often feel the same way about us. This infatuation is exhilarating and the mutual admiration is better than drugs.Then as time goes on we come back down to earth and life gets back to normal. At some point the relationship starts to experience conflicts, misunderstandings, disappointments and even disillusionment. Some couples work through this and preserve the specialness and others don't fare as well. Others plateau and may become so-so, even co-existent.
What do you think keeps couples from improving their relationships?
Over the years, in working with couples in which one partner has ADD, it seems apparent that there are unique characteristics as well as pervasive patterns of difficulty that present themselves. It is not surprising that the divorce rate among couples in which one partner has ADD, is almost double compared to the general population in the United States. So in an attempt to focus on finding some helpful answers to these difficulties, I am devoting my next few articles to this important subject. One thing that is certain, if one person in a family has ADD, the entire family system is affected by it. The following article outlines some important to assist in alleviating some of the problems that are common in these relationships.
Identifying the problem areas in ones’ relationship is relatively easy, but the difficult part is ferreting out effective mechanisms to bridge the communication gap that often occurs when one’s partner has ADD. Therefore knowledge, patience, and empa...
Is the thought of getting ready for the holidays causing you stress or overwhelm? Are you feeling like you don’t know where to start? Keeping your home clutter-free and organized, especially around holiday time, can help alleviate some of the stress and overwhelm you may be feeling, especially when you have ADD.
I put together a list of 3 important things you can do to keep your home clutter-free for the holidays, as well as all year round;
1. Set up 4 different boxes and label each box with the following labels
• Throw Away- these are items that are no longer needed. This includes trash, but may also include things that are broken (and cannot be repaired) or items that no longer have any worth to you.
• Give Away- these are those items that can be re-cycled to someone that you know might enjoy having them, or donated to your favorite charity.
• Short term storage –these are those items that just need to be put back in their place in your home. They are used o...
How many times have you gone to bed dog tired and desperate to get to sleep? You lay there and sleep just doesn’t come… The harder you try the less able you are to sleep, and so the cycle continues...
There are many reasons that people have difficulty in sleeping. Some are medical, others physiological, others psychological. Most reasons for not sleeping are fairly obvious - changes in your life. Perhaps, your work has become erratic, maybe you’ve lost your job, or are worried about something, or someone.
Maybe your insomnia is a sign of illness; have you had a change of medication, hormonal changes, diet? Perhaps there has been a change of temperature, or climate, or partner?
Many people have coped with a snoring companion… Having lived with not one but two companions who ‘drive em home’ I can empathise. I just wish someone had told be what a racket Boxer dogs make when they sleep, before the first chose me as a companion… For some...
Nothing begins, and nothing ends, that is not paid with moan;
for we are born in others' pain and perish in our own.
-- Francis Thompson
How can a therapist help? My pain is locked in my body, not my mind. A logical thought perhaps. Although pain is felt in the body it can originate in the mind and may be psychosomatic. I’m not suggesting that people suffering from pain or other ailments are hypochondriacs, simply which you can choose to alleviate symptoms by using the power of your mind, if you know how.
First things first – you need to explore.
- Do you know the cause?
- Has the cause been discussed with a physician?
- What was the opinion?
- Are you following their advice?
- Does something trigger an attack?
- What are your triggers?
- Do some things exacerbate it?
- Are you taking prescribed medication?
- Does the medication work?
- Is the medication becoming less effective?
If you have the answers to the questions above and have heeded medical advice and the pain, or medica...
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