An Open Letter to the Ones Who Feel It in Their Bodies I’m not going to pretend this is fine. When the U.S. escalates into another war, it does something to people. It’s destabilizing. It’s enraging. It’s exhausting. And for a lot of us—especially those who already know what it’s like to feel unprotected by […]
Why Do Relationships Trigger Me So Much? (And What It Actually Means) If you’ve ever found yourself thinking: 💠 Why do I get so overwhelmed in relationships? 💠 Why do small things feel like a big deal? 💠 Why do I either shut down or spiral? You’re not dramatic.You’re not “too much.” And you’re definitely not broken. — A lot […]
When Trauma Doesn’t Look Like Trauma: Signs of Complex PTSD (CPTSD) A lot of people think trauma has to look dramatic to count.Like one big, obvious, life-altering moment.Something everyone would immediately agree was traumatic. And yes—those experiences absolutely exist. But a lot of trauma doesn’t look like that at all. Sometimes it looks like what you had […]
What Are Emotional Flashbacks? (And Why Do They Feel So Intense?) You know that moment where something small happens— and suddenly it doesn’t feel real small anymore? Yeah. That. — If you read my last two posts and felt called out a little? Well then, this is the post that explains why your reactions feel so intense […]
Trans people existing shouldn’t be controversial. And yet… here the fuck we are. International Transgender Day of Visibility isn’t about asking for permission to exist—it’s about refusing to disappear. 🤍 It started in 2009—not as a reaction to tragedy, but as a deliberate shift toward celebration. Toward visibility that isn’t rooted in grief or loss, but in presence. In aliveness. In […]
She looked at me like I’d suggested she try flapping her arms and flying home. I’d floated the idea of being a little kinder to herself — nothing dramatic — and her response was immediate. Almost allergic. “That feels fake.” Then, quieter: “I don’t think I can do that.” I’ve had this conversation more times […]
Searching for a trauma therapist is a lot to ask of someone who’s already running low. You scroll through bios that all sound the same and try to figure out who might actually be a good fit for the specific, complicated, very human things you’re carrying. One thing worth knowing first: trauma doesn’t always look […]
Setting boundaries with a family member who struggles with addiction can be frightening, stressful, and often does not end up with positive results because people set boundaries when they are upset, emotional and have “had enough”. As an Addiction Therapist who, over the past 30+ years, has worked with people affected by addiction (whether it’s […]
Many people with ADHD struggle with more than just attention or organization. They may also experience emotional overwhelm, chronic stress, or patterns that feel rooted in past experiences. This often leads to an important question:Is this ADHD, trauma, or both? The answer is often both. ADHD and trauma frequently overlap, and when they do, symptoms […]
We love the idea of newness. A fresh start. A clean slate. A sudden burst of motivation that finally makes everything in our lives line up. In faith spaces, “newness” can sound even more immediate—like once you pray the right prayer, choose the right habits, or “let it go,” you should feel different right away. […]
