“Practice self-care” is common advice—especially when life feels overwhelming. But not everything we call self-care is actually care. Sometimes it’s self-soothing: a quick way to calm discomfort in the moment. Both self-care and self-soothing have a place in emotional wellness. The key is knowing which one you’re using—and whether it’s helping you heal or simply […]
Have you ever had people say “you’re so sensitive” or wonder why others’ emotions impact you so deeply? Me too! I am a proud HSP – Highly Sensitive Person – and specialize in working with fellow HSPs, particularly parents and those going through life transitions. A Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) is someone whose brain and […]
Preteens today are navigating increasingly complex emotional landscapes. Anxiety, overwhelm, sensitivity, and self-doubt often begin to emerge during these years, sometimes without the language or tools needed to make sense of what they’re experiencing. For many children, emotions can feel sudden, intense, and confusing. They may not yet have the ability to clearly express what’s […]
He came to me as a complete skeptic. Therapy, hypnotherapy, breathwork—it all sounded a bit “out there” to him. It was a family member who suggested he book a call with me. His main struggles were anxiety, constant self-consciousness, and a relentless inner critic that made him feel like he wasn’t good enough. He constantly […]
“I can’t do anything right. There’s something wrong with me.” My daughter said these words quietly, almost as if she didn’t want me to hear them. But I did. And the moment I did, something in my chest cracked open. I knew that feeling. I’d carried it my entire childhood. I thought I’d escaped. I’d […]
Most couples don’t begin marriage expecting their childhood to influence their disagreements. Yet many partners eventually notice that arguments about money, intimacy, communication, or parenting can feel bigger than the issue itself—almost like the relationship is on the line. That’s often because marriage doesn’t just join two people. It brings together two nervous systems, two […]
To the outside world, you are the picture of resilience. You are the high-achieving professional, the reliable community leader, and the person everyone turns to when a problem needs solving. You meet your deadlines, maintain your commitments, and appear to have everything under control. But behind the scenes, there is a different story. For […]
I’ve been working with couples who have weathered deep, painful conflicts and are trying to rebuild connection, trust, and intimacy. The wounds have been treated, but they’re still tender. They want to reconnect but find themselves hesitant—after so much tension and pain, it’s hard to open up again, to be vulnerable. One of the most […]
What Do Couples Argue About? www.bastiontherapy.com You may have wondered what other couples argue about. And if you reflect on your own arguments, you may have wondered how your arguments relate to how other couples argue and whether couples therapy might be helpful. First, let’s recognize that disagreements among couples is normal, but that conflict […]
In psychotherapy and couples therapy at Bastion Therapy, we can explore tools that can help with couples conflict and conflict in general. www.bastiontherapy.com Have you ever wondered if the way you and your partner communicate during conflict might not be ideal? One potential tool is changing your opening statement in a conflict discussion. In a […]
