We will only be able to authentically love ourselves if or when we choose to change or transform how we think about our value and worth as a human being. Our ability to authentically love ourselves is determined completely by our self image, by what we think about ourselves in life. If we continue to think and believe that we are not good enough, that we are inadequate in some way, we will be unable to love ourselves or even another. If we do not love ourselves we can not love another.
If we do not take the time to explore and alter our perception of ourselves we will stay the same and most likely continue to use drugs and alcohol, continuing to create the conditions for our self imposed death. If we do not change or transform our self image, if we do not come to authentically love ourselves, we will continue to treat ourselves with little if any respect, acceptance, approval or love. It is your choice to do the work to change and transform or to stay the same and continue to use.
The only solution to drug and alcohol addiction is to change your thinking, your thinking about yourself. Many, if not most, treatment programs will not assist you in this work. Our society and the treatment industry does not believe that your thinking about yourself is the cause of and determining factor in your addiction to drugs and alcohol. Most programs are based on the 12 step model and will not help you resolve the problem of the “egomaniac with an inferiority complex.”