Facing the loss of a loved family member or friend can be one of the hardest experiences to go through. Grief is a natural response to loss. It is the suffering that you feel when you have lost someone you love. You can experience all different kinds of emotions such as shock, anger, disbelief, guilt, and extreme sadness. There really is no right or wrong way to deal with the grief, but there are healthy ways to aid in the grieving process.
The Grieving Process and How to Handle it
According to helpguide.org:
In 1969, psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross introduced what became known as the “five stages of grief.” These stages of grief were based on her studies of the feelings of patients facing terminal illness, but many people have generalized them to other types of negative life changes and losses, such as the death of a loved one or a break-up.
The five stages of grief include:
It is important to remember if you are feeling any of these emotions after a loss, it is completely normal and that time will help you heal. However, not everyone who deals with the loss of a loved one goes through all these stages, and you do not have to go through all of them in order to heal. Our grieving process is as individual as each person.
Grieving after a loss is inevitable in life, but there are healthy ways to cope with the pain of loss and eventually find your way back and move on with your life.
- Accept your pain
- Accept that grief can trigger a lot of different and unexpected emotions
- Understand that the way you handle loss is unique to you
- Seek out support from people who care about you
- Support yourself emotionally and physically
- Understand and recognize the difference between grief and depression
The pain of losing a loved one can often cause a person to withdraw from others around them. But having face-to-face contact and support from others is vitally important to healing from the pain of loss. It is important to express your feelings to others, even if you normally wouldn’t. Sharing the loss with other loved ones can often make the burden easier to carry and if the other person has experienced something similar, it can make you feel as though you aren’t alone in this.
Grief and Loss Therapy
Dealing with loss can feel very lonely. Joining a support group so you can share your loss and sorrow with others who have experienced the same thing as you can make the pain lessen. Feeling as though you aren’t alone is very important.
Another great option to help deal with the loss of a loved one is to talk to a mental health professional. An experienced therapist can help you work through the emotions and overcome any obstacles you might face during your grieving process. In our grief counseling sessions, we understand how hard it is to deal with loss on your own. Whether it be the loss or death of a family member or friend or a loss associated with changing circumstances in life, adapting can be painful and even scary. You might find yourself to be emotionally, mentally, and even physically exhausted.
You Don’t Have to Go It Alone
The people around you can sympathize with your loss and may be able to offer suggestions or just a shoulder to lean on, but professional guidance and support from a Delray Beach psychotherapist can help you more than you can imagine. Our lead therapist and director, Irving Schattner, LCSW, has over 25 years of experience helping clients through major life changes with a caring, supportive, and solution-focused approach. Now is the time to call and get the help you need to deal with the loss of a loved one.