Dr. Bolgar considers herself an Attachment Analyst who attempts to capture the uniqueness of each individual based on their early relational experiences. She focuses on integrating what is known from empirical research in attachment studies into practice. She researched extensively how the neuro-bio-psycho-social experiences of early attachment relationships influences individual’s perception and emotional reactions.
In essence Dr. Bolgar utilizes an attachment focused psychology that is more than simply using techniques. It is an understanding to a way of perceiving life, correcting biases, repairing ruptures, and forming a profound connection to the self and others, which installs a greater sense of security.
Modern psychotherapy, based on both neurophysiology and neurobiology, has been increasingly oriented towards the creation of a therapeutic relationship where the therapist has a mindful attitude to his/her patient, while the latter can make new experiences, which are able to change his/her neural patterns of functioning and to make them healthier.
Dr. Bolgar approaches each client with curiosity and a desire to understand their unique creative ways of coping with stress. Drawing upon her experience Dr. Bolgar guides her patients in a gentle, empathic and respectful style, maintaining the equality of the relationship and jointly searching for insight and knowledge. Clarity, making sense of one’s emotions, perceptions and behavioral reaction results better choices, and behavioral response. Dr. Bolgar believes that people have the natural ability to heal under the right circumstances.
“When people come to Counselling/psychotherapy they usually experience distress in their relationship, work or other areas of their lives that impact their mental, emotional and physical well-being. It takes a lot of courage to uncover your broken heart, suffering mind, and share your fears in hope that you will find solutions for your problems. The relationship you establish with your therapist is the most important predictor for change. The trust you develop allows you to be vulnerable, to explore your deepest feelings, to know that there is someone holding your hand as you are standing at the edge of desperation, on your journey of self-discovery. Therapy is hard work that you the patient must do with your therapist in order to create the change you desire.” Dr. Ellie Bolgar
Dr. Bolgar has received her National Mediation, and Parental Coordination certificate from the Alternative Dispute Resolution Institute of Canada.
Unlike traditional methods of dealing with conflict or marital separation, mediation is less expensive than litigation or other approach to dispute resolution.
Dr. Bolgar has extensive experience working with high conflict families and understands the challenge they often face during the separation process. Although conflicts are uncomfortable for many people and they often bring up emotions, Dr. Bolgar believes that mediation can provide a positive, healing experience for all parties involved.. She helps families and couples resolve their issue, preserve existing relationships and make a collaborative decision.