As a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, I help individuals find their way through the devastation of betrayal and abandonment. Normal responses to discovering extramarital acting out include rage, depression, panic and anxiety, shame, and isolation. You don't want to go to family and friends with this burden. The humiliation and embarrassment of admitting such a painful reality prevents you from receiving comfort and support. Keeping such an awful secret and trying to cope on your own can seem like too much to bear.
I offer understanding with compassion and comfort, when it seems like you can't endure the dark despair much longer. Initially just pouring out the pain gives some relief from stoically holding it all together. I recommend lots of resources initially to begin understanding your reality. We assess levels of depression, anxiety, and trauma. We will then map out a plan to begin feeling more resourced and able to cope on a daily basis. I provide a lot of education on what works best to begin a healing process. I guide and support each step of the way. We will develop healthy boundaries and consequences for violations. I will coach you through the necessary decisions of whether to separate or stay and repair the relationship. You will learn to clarify and negotiate your needs, including your non-negotiables. You will learn to speak your truth, with authority and assertiveness. You will act with the belief that you deserve to be treated well, with kindness.
I have been facilitating change and growth in individuals, couples and families for 40 years. I integrate Dr. Carnes' Task Centered Model for Tx of Sex Addiction, mindfulness-based Hakomi, Internal Family Systems, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, EMDR, Transpersonal psychotherapies and 12 Step recovery principles to create a wholistic approach to healing.
I focus on empowering women who are involved in codependent, destructive relationships with men or women (partner or family member) who are absent or abusive due to addiction, sexual compulsivity, mental illness, anger or emotional immaturity. Learn to set boundaries from a place of strength and resilience.
I offer videoconference sessions in the states of MN, OH, and CO.
Saturday appointments available.