I work with men, women, and couples to resolve their problems, especially those involving
• Anxiety and fear
• Trauma and PTSD
• Sexual dissatisfaction
• Marital conflict
• Parenting issues
• Workplace conflicts
Therapy for Men focuses on unlocking emotions which many men hold in reserve--because that's how they've been taught and socialized. The therapist for men is like the trainer at the gym, training you to use muscles you hadn't used before, or didn't know how to use properly.
Once this inner potential is unlocked, we can work through the issues which trouble you. Whether they're based on high expectations, work-stress, the felt need to be perfect, or loss of spark in your marriage, we can identify the causes of your problems, as well as the ways in which the problem can either go away or be worked around--developing strategies which work is a large part of our process together.
Working especially with men in high-powered or high-stress positions, I understand the ways in which high expectations can create negative feelings which affect job, family, and marital relationships. The goals for therapy include the reduction of conflict in the important places of your life.
Therapy for women focuses on the biological, environmental, and psychosocial dynamics which can lead to negative thinking patterns. These patterns, in turn, can lead to the loss of self-esteem and self-confidence, a rise in anxiety and stress, and even give rise to clinical depression.
Through therapy, we find the right strategies for you to work through or around the issues which cause you pain. While the process itself may also bring out pain, that pain is helpful--because it helps you grow into the person you want to be.
Whether you’re dealing with hormonal changes around childbirth or menopause, issues causes by discrimination or low-self worth (which can be related), or anxiety/depression stemming from other causes, together we can find ways to question and re-create thinking patterns – leading to greater peace of mind.
Couples can be overwhelmed by events and circumstances of life. This can lead to a collapse in communication. You may also feel more like roommates than a couple. Your sex life may be unsatisfying or non-existent.
Relationships can also be stressed by issues from the work place, death of a loved one, or infertility.
People also change, and your relationship must be flexible enough to welcome those changes. You may need to find new ways to communicate with each other. It will take work, together, and with your therapist, to create those new paths of communication.
Therapy can also lead to healing, reconciliation, and reconnecting. Sometimes one partner may act in a way which hurts the other – an affair, letting work take over, harsh words over time. The separating this hurt can be overcome, when we all work together, step-by-step, to help you find a deeper commitment to each other.