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Men’s Mental Health and Societal Pressures: How Counselling Helps

Michelle Collier

Mental health challenges affect everyone, yet men often face unique barriers in seeking support. While the alarming reality of domestic violence against women has rightly gained significant attention, domestic violence toward men remains largely unspoken. As a society, we must create space for all voices to be heard, addressing these complex issues with empathy and understanding.

The Silent Struggle of Men’s Mental Health

Societal expectations often place men in a position where vulnerability is seen as a weakness. From a young age, many men are taught to “tough it out” or “keep their emotions in check,” creating a culture where seeking help feels like a last resort.

This silence can have devastating consequences. Men are statistically less likely to seek mental health support, yet they are disproportionately affected by suicide. According to the Australian Bureau of Statistics, men account for 75% of suicides in Australia, highlighting the urgent need to address these barriers.

Domestic Violence Against Men – A Hidden Reality

The narrative surrounding domestic violence often focuses on women’s experiences, and for good reason. The rates of violence against women are deeply concerning, and continued advocacy and action are essential. However, it is equally important to recognise that men can also be victims of domestic violence, often in ways that are silent and dismissed.

Societal stigma compounds the difficulty for men to speak out. They may fear judgment, disbelief, or ridicule, and systemic biases can sometimes lead to their experiences being minimised or ignored. From my own lived experience, I have witnessed how these challenges play out.

Through my family’s experience, I have seen how challenging it can be for men to speak out and feel validated when facing domestic violence. Societal biases and systemic hurdles can often leave men feeling unheard or unfairly judged. This is not just my family’s story—it’s a story that countless men live silently every day. By sharing this, I hope to amplify the importance of listening, validating, and supporting everyone, regardless of gender, who faces these challenges.

Barriers to Seeking Help

There are several reasons men may avoid seeking support. Societal norms often discourage men from expressing vulnerability, leading to internalized shame or the belief that asking for help is a sign of failure. Additionally, a lack of resources tailored to men’s needs can make it harder for them to find spaces where they feel understood and accepted.

In cases of domestic violence, men may face added layers of stigma. Fear of not being believed, losing access to their children, or being further victimised by the system can prevent them from speaking out. These barriers highlight the need for greater awareness and accessible support systems that are inclusive of all genders.

Creating Inclusive Support Systems

Supporting men’s mental health and addressing domestic violence toward men is not about diminishing the experiences of women—it is about fostering a society where everyone feels heard and supported. Inclusivity means acknowledging that mental health and family violence are complex, multifaceted issues that affect people of all genders.

To create real change, we need to:

  • Break Down Stigma: Challenge societal norms that discourage men from seeking help and validate their experiences without judgment.

  • Provide Tailored Resources: Develop programs and spaces specifically designed for men, where they can share their stories and access support comfortably.

  • Foster Empathy and Awareness: Encourage conversations that promote understanding and compassion for all individuals affected by mental health challenges and domestic violence.

Counselling: A Step Toward Healing, Growth, and Clarity

Counselling offers more than a listening ear—it’s a proactive step to navigate challenges, find balance, and grow. Here’s how it can support you:

A Safe, Confidential Space Counselling provides a judgment-free environment to openly share your thoughts and emotions. For many men, this is a rare chance to unpack experiences without fear of being dismissed.

Practical Tools and Strategies From managing stress to navigating co-parenting or handling difficult emotions, counselling equips you with practical strategies tailored to your life.
 
Strengthening Relationships Whether facing family conflict, divorce, or estrangement, counselling helps improve communication, establish healthy boundaries, and rebuild meaningful connections.
 
Navigating Life Transitions Big changes like separation, career shifts, or adjusting to single parenting can feel overwhelming. Counselling offers clarity and guidance to move forward with purpose.
 
Validation and Empowerment Your experiences are real, your strengths are unique, and counselling helps you build on these foundations to enhance your mental well-being.

Challenging Stigma By seeking support, you’re not just helping yourself—you’re reshaping the narrative around men’s mental health and inspiring others to do the same.

Moving Forward Counselling meets you with understanding, compassion, and practical solutions. It’s about discovering your resilience and building the life you want.

Note: While this post focuses on supporting men, I honour the experiences of women, especially those who have faced domestic violence. Counselling is a space for everyone to find healing and empowerment.

Moving Forward with Empathy

By breaking down societal expectations and creating spaces where everyone feels heard, we can make progress in supporting mental health and addressing family violence for all. From my own experience, I have seen the profound impact that validation and support can have on someone who feels silenced.

Let’s work toward a society where no one feels dismissed, judged, or alone. Together, we can ensure that every individual—man or woman—has the opportunity to heal, grow, and thrive.

If you or someone you know is experiencing challenges, please reach out for support. No one should face these struggles alone.

Support Services:

  • Lifeline Australia: 13 11 14 (Available 24/7)

  • MensLine Australia: 1300 78 99 78 (Support for men, 24/7)

  • 1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732 (Support for those affected by domestic or family violence, 24/7)