Working With A Counselor To Set Boundaries
- Do you need help setting boundaries?
I think most of us can benefit from counseling when it comes to learning what boundaries are and how we can set them.
Having boundaries in your life can support you with:
- Improving the quality of life.
- Aligning you with your values.
- Removing toxic spaces and people from your life.
- Developing healthy relationships with others.
- Developing a healthy relationship with yourself.
A boundary is what you set for yourself and not for others.
For instance, if you want space from others because you feel that your space is being violated somehow. You can set the boundary of moving to a different space or leaving the situation.
Once more, the boundary is what you set for yourself.
Below is a second example of a boundary:
- You can share “I need to create a system in my life focused on giving myself more breaks.”
- “You need to respect my boundary and stop bothering me.”
When you start with “I”, there is a direct focus on accountability.
What To Focus On When Setting Boundaries
A key area connected to boundaries is taking time to reflect on how boundaries interact with settings. A clear example of this is seen in physical boundaries.
You may, for instance, have a healthy boundary with members of your family focused on feeling comfortable with hugs during greetings.
This comfort can be connected to your culture. Yet, at work, it’s important to take a moment to reflect on the appropriateness of the boundary when it comes to physical boundaries. For instance, you may not want to receive a hug from a co-worker in the same manner as you would from a family member.
Take time to reflect on your boundaries and their appropriateness to specific settings.
Reach out to me today to start counseling.