Infidelity creates a trauma in the relationship that subsequently creates a form of PTSD in the injured partner. I use the Gottman Method for Infidelity as the process for helping couples heal from the devastation of infidelity. As painful as infidelity is, I have seen many many couples heal and create a relationship that is stronger and more mutually satisfying after they have done the hard work of accountability, trust building and relationship repair.
I can help the partners in a situation of infidelity work through the pain and confusion. Most couples I work with stay together after infidelity. Helping each partner is essential in re-energizing and reconnecting the marriage.
“Very often we don't go elsewhere because we are looking for another person. We go elsewhere because we are looking for another self. It isn't so much that we want to leave the person we are with as we want to leave the person we have become.” (Esther Perel) Infidelity is a uniquely painful experience in a committed relationship, that can often feel hopeless. But, there is hope in healing from an affair. I work with my couples to heal and recover from both the trauma, broken trust and betrayal of the affair and the pain the individuals and the relationship was experiencing before the infidelity.
I work with clients who struggle with Infidelity and Relationship issues. Infidelity can be damaging in the context of relationships and can cause much trauma and trust issues. We will work to restore trust and treat the trauma. During our sessions, we will collaborate to create a plan for addressing them that helps you resolve such issues in a meaningful manner to restore functioning enabling and empowering you to move beyond your past. I practice from a Holistic perspective and commonly employ EMDR and other effective modalities with helping clients achieve balance and purpose in their lives and creative solutions to their problems. This includes exploring past issues and trauma that may be a factor presently.