Relationship and Marriage Counseling therapists in Twentynine Palms, California CA
Relationship and Marriage Counseling
Ilah Brock - Central Valley Hypnotherapy
Hypnotherapist, C.Ht
I cannot counsel couples but I can educate anyone on relationship strategies and why some people behave one way or another. How many reading have said to themselves, "If he/she would only just do what I need them to do and not buck me, we'd get along just fine" or "If she/he would only change that behavior I do not like - How can I make that happen?"
Of course you cannot change anyone to do anything - But you can change you and how you react to your partner.
This concept is quite effective helping people understand their own relationship habits and patterns. Learn and then be ready to have the most amazing relationship you could ever imagine! It really does work!
7 Years Experience
Relationship and Marriage Counseling
Adam Luke M.A. LMFT
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT
I have never heard a pick-up line that focused on, “Hey, I don’t suppose you’d want to come spend the best part of your life with me as we argue, resent, and slowly hate each other until one of us dies, do you?”
How the heck did we get here? Where it feels like as a couple, we have grown farther and farther apart. Before the communication felt free and lite. But now, whenever I do communicate with my significant other, it’s like I am giving a PowerPoint presentation at a board meeting?
Where did the courtship go? The fun? The spontaneity?
The truth is we fight so hard to build something, to nurture this relationship between us, and then our passions, goals and focuses slowly change. Before, you would drive an hour to see your significant other for 15 minutes. The passion and intimacy in your relationship were present, consistent, and prioritized.
Now? You are lucky to high five before you turn the lights out at night.
Here is what I know about couples: You started off infatuated with each other, pursuing each other. Then life stepped into the gap. We check off boxes in the “where we should be in this relationship” list, and we forget that WE are never done growing in a relationship. Through therapy, we will revisit what it is like to date each other, be nurturing to each other, and find positive ways of communicating with each other and cherishing each other.
Let me be honest; this work is going to be challenging. Our therapy will require commitment to continuing to pursue our spouse. Our work together is going to look like stealing time back for yourselves. It’s going to be prioritizing your mutual happiness over social obligations. It’s going to be *SHOCKER* putting your relationship above those kids you share.
This sounds selfish…
But is it? Is it selfish to have a healthy marriage that blesses your kids? A safe home where you model better communication patterns to the little ears in the house? Is it selfish to have a healthy relationship that encourages others around you to be more intentional about prioritizing those they love in their life?
I hope you know you both deserve to be heard, to be seen, and to be LOVED. Let’s sit down and find that new way forward.
10 Years Experience
Relationship and Marriage Counseling
Dr. Joan Druckman
Psychologist
I am a certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist and work toward understanding and changing the negative behavior patterns that cause conflict or disconnection. I also work toward building greater security and safety within your relationship and help to repair relationship injuries that may have occurred.
40 Years Experience
Relationship and Marriage Counseling
Dr. Linda Haack, Ph.D.
Psychologist
With several years of family/relationship work behind her, Dr. Linda Haack., has the expertise to listen to couples navigating difficult times. She will work with both clients to understand problems and talk solutions.
33 Years Experience
Relationship and Marriage Counseling
Dr. Ingrid Solano
Psychologist, PhD
I have over a decade of expertise in conceptualizing and treating struggling interpersonal and intimate relationships. Through a honed lens of social constructionism, I focus on understanding and meeting the unique needs, meanings, and values of each relationship. Every relationship is unlike any other. This stance promotes authentic curiosity and explores how we make meaning together. Meaning and action are closely interwoven in our relationships, and each member of the relational context influences the culture and landscape of the interpersonal experiences within. In therapy, we collaborate in creating a new way of relating that allows the rediscovery of empathy for each other in these contexts, and resolves troubling patterns of communication and differences in expectations that negatively impact understanding, connection, and value...
I believe relationships and context matter. Research shows that relationship distress causes problems in mental health, work, children, and even your own physical health. Yet, healthy relationships protect you from stress and help you thrive.
I believe in using relationship therapy that works. I practice evidence-based therapy, which means I use therapeutic practices that have been studied and supported by empirical research studies.
I work with clients to improve their interpersonal functioning both within relational contexts (i.e., couples, families), as well as with individuals who would like to focus on their past, present, and future interpersonal interactions. Clients explore the relational impacts of experiences such as rejection sensitivity, feelings of codependency, attachment concerns, life transitions, divorce, trust, shame, self-esteem, assertiveness, and the impact of dating in the digital-age (i.e., feeling ignored, insecure, ghosting, text communications).
Unfortunately, most people don't have access to effective help for their relationships nor have they been taught what healthy relationships and communication look like. Because of this, I also prioritize increasing access to couple therapy by offering telehealth, evening and weekend scheduling, and lower-cost options that are tailored to Client needs and resources.
I strive to understand your goals, help you communicate and form these goals explicitly, and reach them effectively. I have worked with couples, families, parents, Veterans, adolescents, and individuals on strengthening their relationships and interpersonal skills. I have expertise in working with LGBTQIA+ relationships, sex therapy, and increasing physical and emotional intimacy between partners who seek nonjudgmental therapeutic space and openness to non-traditional relationships (i.e., polyamory, open relationships, play partners, swingers, friends with benefits (FWBs), BDSM etc.). I work with couples/relationships and individuals addressing pornography consumption, kink, and all manner of consensual play. (See additional relational competencies in the ‘diversity’ sections and relationship based ‘services.’) I often employ a mixture of Integrative Behavioral Couples Therapy and Emotion Focused Couples Therapy when working with intimate partners. I have an extensive background in Family Systems modalities as well, including Gottman Method, Structural Family Therapy, Narrative Therapy, Family Systems, and others.
There are several forms of relational therapy you can engage in:
Couple Therapy and Therapy with Romantic Partners
Family Therapy
Therapy for Friends or Coworkers
Relationship Therapy for Individuals (just you!)
Relationship Education
Relationship Coaching (for just you or you and your partner(s))
Premarital Coaching
13 Years Experience