🐴Horse Barn Related Drama (HBRD) isn’t a formal diagnosis, but the impact is emotionally, financially, and physically draining. It is hard to explain to someone unless they have been there or been in it. Whether it’s the chronic tension of “what now?” in the barn, continual boundary violations, or isolation in high-pressure performance environments, HBRD […]
This is a gentle way to infuse a 🫏B.R.A.Y. of hope into your day. Breathe, Reset, Attune, and You are not Alone. Breathe in and notice expansion. Reset your thoughts for a moment on the expansion you noticed. Attune to the sights, sounds, textures, smells around you. And know that You are NOT Alone in […]
“I maschi non piangono.” Nel mio studio a Londra, dove lavoro da oltre vent’anni come psicoterapeuta, sento questa frase, o una sua variante, tornare spesso, non solo dalle donne italiane con cui lavoro, ma anche dagli uomini stessi, italiani o no, quando provano a spiegare perché hanno imparato a nascondere quello che sentono davvero. Perché […]
In più di vent’anni di lavoro come psicoterapeuta, una sola cliente mi ha mai chiesto di vedere le mie qualifiche. Mi ha chiesto anche di vedere la mia carta d’identità, quasi scusandosi appena l’ha fatto. Quella domanda ha aperto una porta che raramente si apre così presto: nella stessa prima seduta mi ha raccontato di […]
Qualche giorno fa ho chiesto a due amiche se volevano venire con me a una giornata di beneficenza alla stazione dei pompieri qui vicino. Speravo che l’idea le tentasse quanto tentava me: usare l’idrante, bagnarsi, giocare un pomeriggio intero senza pensarci due volte. Tutte e due si sono un po’ imbarazzate. Mi sono accorta che […]
One of the first signs that insecurity is affecting a relationship can sound surprisingly harmless: “It’s easier if I just don’t tell them.” You stop mentioning the coworker who invited you to lunch. You think twice before making plans with friends. You leave out an innocent interaction because you already know it may lead to […]
Trauma doesn’t just live in memories. It lives in nervous systems, in relationship patterns, in how we show up—or shut down—with the people we love. Trauma is passed down generation after generation. More than a personal wound, it becomes culture. Family legacy. Emotional DNA. For anyone with a trauma history, the story that follows may […]
Perfectionism is often seen as a strength. You may be someone who works hard, pays close attention to details, sets high standards, and wants to do things well. But when the need to be perfect becomes tied to your sense of worth, it can become exhausting. You may accomplish something you worked hard for, only […]
Viruses don’t only affect the immune system, they also interact with the brain and nervous system. Research points to several overlapping mechanisms: • Neuroinflammation: The immune response to infection releases inflammatory signals that can temporarily alter brain circuits involved in mood, motivation, and emotional regulation (Dantzer et al., 2008; Miller et al., 2009). • Stress-system […]
Your nervous system is constantly scanning your environment for cues of safety or threat, and sound is one of the fastest ways it does that. This means the background noises in your home can quietly influence stress levels, mood, and sleep, even when you’re not consciously aware of them. White noise vs. low-frequency noise Not […]
