Something that is amazingly striking is how vulnerable we are in all aspects of our humanness. And, how hard we can be on ourselves (and with others!) to top it off! In the stories I hear through the work, and also in plain old conversations with people, I hear the constant criticism, lack mentality, negativity,…
Communication is the backbone of every relationship. Without communication there would be no relationship and it is usually the first thing to breakdown when a relationship starts to go south. In the beginning everything is great. You and your partner would talk for hours about everything and anything. Long talks over dinner about your day…
Self-esteem is in essence a measurement. We rate ourselves against a variety of criteria to come up with a value of our worth. The big problem is that we often rate ourselves against impossible criteria and judge ourselves too harshly and produce an inaccurate picture. I have been offering online therapy for over 10 years. During that…
We all have unresolved issues from our past, some conscious and some that we are not aware of. These issues, if not dealt with can have a huge effect on our relationship with our own children and subsequently moves the issue from one generation to the next. I have been offering online therapy for over 10 years.…
First, if you are a Mom, sending you lots of love and appreciation for all you do and endure as a Mom… Second, if you are not a Mom, I’m sure there is a Mom in your life that you can Celebrate… And, third, we all have a Mother inside us to whatever extent. It’s…
“I used to love running, but I gave it up when my depression got too bad.”. Such a sad statement, and one I hear often from psychotherapy clients: its often just at the moment #fitness would do someone the most good that its most difficult to start or continue. Fitness really does boost your mood…
Finding a partner online can really bite! Am I right? I remember meeting my husband and all the guys who came before him. There were times that I accidentally mislead others or felt mislead myself. So to that guy I met that told me I was larger than expected because one of those pesky check…
These days we throw the words “narcissist” and “codependent” around like confetti. It is easy to label someone who appears self-centered as the former and one who gives a little bit too much as the latter. Despite the fact that we can easily recognise these traits in people, it is always dangerous to label people…
By Benjamin Marr, M.A., M.B.C. Dedication I dedicate this article to my mother, who always encouraged me to use my assets, although they had their limitations due to my disabilities. She motivated me to use my remaining skills to develop my intellect to an even higher level, never to perceive myself as handicapped (“cap-in-hand”), but…
Have you noticed that whatever you are dealing with, more of it shows up in your life? It can even start to feel like the universe is playing a joke on you. Have you had that experience? Of course, it’s awesome when this applies to good stuff in our lives. Not so much when the…