“My friends are going out Saturday. Am I allowed to go?” It sounds like a simple question. But after infidelity, it can turn into an argument that lasts all weekend. Maybe your partner had an affair with someone from work. Maybe it started during happy hour. Maybe a close friend knew what was happening and […]
Vicino alla porta di casa di mio nonno restava un ceppo d’albero, lasciato lì apposta per sedersi. Ogni volta che da bambina mi sentivo giù, o sola, o non vista, senza saperne dare un nome, andavo a cercare quel posto, sull’altro ceppo accanto al suo. Lui non parlava molto. Bastava la sua presenza quieta, e […]
You know you need to say no. Maybe you’re exhausted, overwhelmed, or simply don’t want to do what someone is asking of you. You finally work up the courage to set a boundary—and then the guilt hits. Was I too harsh?Are they upset with me?Am I being selfish?Maybe I should just say yes. Before you […]
Sometimes people come to therapy not because one terrible thing has happened, but because too many things have begun to pile up from carrying too much for too long. They have continued working, caring for other people, making decisions, managing relationships and doing what needs to be done. From the outside, life may even look […]
You ask: “Why did you tell me you were at work when you weren’t?” Your partner answers: “Because every time I tell you anything, you interrogate me.” And suddenly you’re no longer talking about the lie. You’re defending yourself. Do I interrogate them? Have I been too suspicious? Did I make this worse? That’s what […]
The Stereotype Showdown You’ve probably heard it—or maybe even said it:“She just loves to splurge.”Or maybe:“He’s such a tightwad.” But what if arguments about money aren’t really about money at all—but about power, priorities, and feeling seen? A friend recently suggested that women overspend while men think more economically. It’s a common belief—but is it […]
I’ve been reflecting lately on my own journey and the journey’s other individuals share with me related to their bariatric journey. We go through the surgery or start the GLP-1’s and begin to lose the weight. We begin feeling a renewed confidence in ourselves that we haven’t felt for decades or maybe ever; then it […]
1. You’re feeling like you “should” be happier. Ah, the old “shoulding on yourself.” Maybe you had expected surgery to bring relief, confidence, or a fresh start, however, you’re feeling sad, anxious, irritable, overwhelmed, or emotionally flat. There can be a lot of pressure to feel grateful after surgery, which can make it harder to […]
The Surgeon General’s Office for the United States has issued a statement that loneliness is an epidemic in America. They note it started around 2010 prior to the pandemic and that it has significantly increased during the pandemic. 2010 is when Smatphones started to become popular and people started using their phones more than physically […]
When couples discover infidelity, many reach for the first therapist they can find. That instinct makes sense. The pain is urgent, and any help feels better than none. But affair recovery is not ordinary couples therapy. It is crisis work on the foundation of a relationship, and the choice of therapist can shape whether a […]
