People who are new to therapy often have the expectation as if the therapist has a manual to step 1, 2, 3 to teach the client what to do to “get rid of my depression, sadness, or anxiety”. However, the process of therapy is not as clearly laid out with manuals that therapists were taught…
Self care is the ultimate buzz word in therapy. We are bombarded with reminders to practice self care as a coping skill, to decrease stress, to recharge our batteries. But what actually constitutes self care? Visions of spa days and yoga classes come to mind, but seem out of reach for a typical day as…
Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, you can have trouble getting yourself to turn your mind, and to be open. You want to do it, but your mind is stuck. It’s not turning. Or you want to do it, but you find yourself feeling willful. Willfullness is when we dig our heels in or…
Do you ever wonder what a real vacation looks like? Have you ever taken the kind of vacation that you really need? Well, I sometime wonder why our time away has to look like what we see on television or what we hear our co- workers say as they make their Disney reservations for the…
Do you ever wonder what a real vacation looks like? Have you ever taken the kind of vacation that you really need? Well, I sometime wonder why our time away has to look like what we see on television or what we hear our co- workers say as they make their Disney reservations for the…
Historically, marriages were based on economic factors and roles were assigned to individuals within that institution. Roles gave men and women clear guidelines for interacting and thus clear expectations of each other. When romanticism developed, the beloved served the function of a creative muse. He or she was never expected to be part of a…
Many spiritual tradition caution against judgement. It is certainly not consistent with being loving, much less unconditionally loving. In a way it suggests that we know what something or someone should be or do—and we never have the whole context of what God’s plan is or what anyone else’s process and evolution is. Judgement goes beyond evaluation in…
Hello! Hi! And all the greetings! Welcome to Light Post Quarterly, previously Light Post Monthly, the blog that is all about body inclusivity and healing our relationship with food and our bodies. **Please note that in this edition, I share some of my experiences regarding the harmful impacts of diet culture. These topics may be…
Hello – Thank you for taking time to read my blog. This is going to give you some insight to what is a Food-Sobriety program? I have talked about quite a bit on my YouTube Channel talk show Most Things Hypnosis (find Central Valley Hypnotherapy) – Taking the word “Sobriety” meaning ‘ to abstain’ –…
A lot of us have heard the airline safety instruction ‘put on your own oxygen mask before putting on your child’s’. This same instruction has been used to provide imagery for helping our children with their dysregulated emotions while at the same time our own emotions are dysregulated. Let’s break down how this can be…