Practice observing your thoughts, rather than reacting automatically to them. Think of your thoughts as clouds floating by. Look at which draw you in and which make you want to run away. Is there a way you can untangle yourself and just observe your thoughts, rather than reacting?
How to have an Intellectually Exciting but Emotionally Unsatisfying Conversatio I. The Problem Nowadays, it seems as if everyone is a Nazi, fascist or evil. Everywhere you look, people are labeling others as anti-American, racist, sexist, anti-Semitic, homophobic. People are accused of being killers or committing virtual genocide. It might feel emotionally satisfying to label…
Going Rogue! How Individual Teachers Can Improve their Students Behavior and Academics Without Any Support. Introduction Many teachers enter the teaching profession believing that they will fill eager young minds with skills and knowledge that will allow them to be successful in school and life. Sure, they expect a certain degree of misbehavior and missing…
For well over 25 years research has been done of the effectiveness of different types of therapy and counseling. This includes both theories of counseling (i.e. cognitive-behavioral, psycho-dynamic) and therapeutic modalities (i.e. individual, family). Research has consistently shown the effectiveness, broadly speaking, of behavioral, cognitive-behavior and psycho-dynamic theories of counseling, especially in the individual and…
MANAGING TIME-A LIFE SKILL WORTH LEARNING As parents prepare their youth for adulthood they focus on over 25 life skills that their child needs to learn and practice at a mastery level prior to entering into their adult years. Why a mastery level? Because if we allow mediocre work at home and in school and…
Engulfed by a Storm Those who have never been in a domestic violence situation are often perplexed as to how intelligent people become trapped and why they remain with someone who is abusive. In an effort to help provide clarity let us consider the dynamics of the following story: Imagine as if you are…
I recently read an article by Cody Fenwick regarding children and gun violence. His article was so alarming that it inspired me to write this article. Many of us feel because we live in Pleasant Hill, Walnut Creek or Lafayette that our children and teenagers do not have to worry about gangs or gun violence.…
Working with teenagers, I hear very often from parents that they feel their teenager is not responsible and they have concerns about trusting their teenagers. I also hear from teenagers how they are upset with their parents for not trusting them and not allowing them to make decisions. I understand the parents’ concerns, but at…