Self-esteem is in essence a measurement. We rate ourselves against a variety of criteria to come up with a value of our worth. The big problem is that we often rate ourselves against impossible criteria and judge ourselves too harshly and produce an inaccurate picture. I have been offering online therapy for over 10 years. During that…
Over the years as a therapist, I have seen the rise in alcohol abuse among patients and in the environment around them. Many of them can only feel good when they can escape their problems through a drunken haze. Many of them deny they have a problem with drinking and some of them deny that…
Practice observing your thoughts, rather than reacting automatically to them. Think of your thoughts as clouds floating by. Look at which draw you in and which make you want to run away. Is there a way you can untangle yourself and just observe your thoughts, rather than reacting?
Good morning. It may seem perfectly naturally, when you wake to put out a tweet or a post on Facebook to announce to your friends or the world how your week went. Sharing updates about yourself online is a quick and easy way to keep in touch with long distance friends. But in talking about…
Have you ever heard the phrase “I don’t know”, come out of the mouth of a teen or a middle aged man? What feelings does it generate? Does it make you feel angry to hear that? Or do you feel bored and discouraged that a conversation went nowhere? COmmunication is not about the words we…
How to have an Intellectually Exciting but Emotionally Unsatisfying Conversatio I. The Problem Nowadays, it seems as if everyone is a Nazi, fascist or evil. Everywhere you look, people are labeling others as anti-American, racist, sexist, anti-Semitic, homophobic. People are accused of being killers or committing virtual genocide. It might feel emotionally satisfying to label…
Going Rogue! How Individual Teachers Can Improve their Students Behavior and Academics Without Any Support. Introduction Many teachers enter the teaching profession believing that they will fill eager young minds with skills and knowledge that will allow them to be successful in school and life. Sure, they expect a certain degree of misbehavior and missing…
For well over 25 years research has been done of the effectiveness of different types of therapy and counseling. This includes both theories of counseling (i.e. cognitive-behavioral, psycho-dynamic) and therapeutic modalities (i.e. individual, family). Research has consistently shown the effectiveness, broadly speaking, of behavioral, cognitive-behavior and psycho-dynamic theories of counseling, especially in the individual and…
MANAGING TIME-A LIFE SKILL WORTH LEARNING As parents prepare their youth for adulthood they focus on over 25 life skills that their child needs to learn and practice at a mastery level prior to entering into their adult years. Why a mastery level? Because if we allow mediocre work at home and in school and…
Engulfed by a Storm Those who have never been in a domestic violence situation are often perplexed as to how intelligent people become trapped and why they remain with someone who is abusive. In an effort to help provide clarity let us consider the dynamics of the following story: Imagine as if you are…