B is a fictional character based  my client’s experiences. All events depicted here actually happened in someone’s life (or a group of people) in the last week. Permission was sought to use life events but no names have been revealed…… I have been offering online therapy for over 10 years. During that time, I have built up…

These days we throw the words “narcissist” and “codependent” around like confetti. It is easy to label someone who appears self-centered as the former and one who gives a little bit too much as the latter. Despite the fact that we can easily recognise these traits in people, it is always dangerous to label people…

Can you imagine being locked away with another person for a number of years, isolated from the outside world and seemingly helpless to escape? In the above example, a narcissist would be telling the codependent they are safe with them while trying to find an escape route for themselves! A codependent would be enabling the…

I recently had a deep and rather philosophical conversation with a client concerning how much we can truly exercise free will in our lives. Him, going through a difficult period in his life, preferred to believe that we have limited free will and most things that happen to us were predetermined in some shape or…

How to have an Intellectually Exciting but Emotionally Unsatisfying Conversatio I.  The Problem Nowadays, it seems as if everyone is a Nazi, fascist or evil. Everywhere you look, people are labeling others as anti-American, racist, sexist, anti-Semitic, homophobic. People are accused of being killers or committing virtual genocide. It might feel emotionally satisfying to label…

By Glyndora Condon MS MFT LPC   Meaning in life seems to provide nurturing according to studies that measured health and life behaviors (Health Psychology Review, Vol. 11, Nov. 4, 2017), and over 90 percent of Americans appear to believe that their lives are meaningful according to several reviews provided by the University of Virginia,…

Going Rogue! How Individual Teachers Can Improve their Students Behavior and Academics Without Any Support. Introduction Many teachers enter the teaching profession believing that they will fill eager young minds with skills and knowledge that will allow them to be successful in school and life. Sure, they expect a certain degree of misbehavior and missing…

For well over 25 years research has been done of the effectiveness of different types of therapy and counseling. This includes both theories of counseling (i.e. cognitive-behavioral, psycho-dynamic) and therapeutic modalities (i.e. individual, family).  Research has consistently shown the effectiveness, broadly speaking, of behavioral, cognitive-behavior and psycho-dynamic theories of counseling, especially in the individual and…

People self-harm because they are in extreme mental and emotional pain. The mental and emotional pain is so excruciating with seemingly no escape, the individual needs some form of relief, thus the need/reason to create a distraction by cutting oneself. Furthermore, since mental and emotional pain is invisible and difficult to explain, the sufferer attempts…