Our primary job as parents is to teach our children healthy habits of self-discipline and self-regulation.  I wholeheartedly believe the most successful way to do this is by connecting to our children in a calm, safe, attuned, and curious manner.  When children feel safe, they have the freedom to explore, take risks and develop in…

I start almost every parenting blog with the statement “parenting is hard; really really hard”, and that’s because every time I sit down to reflect on parenting issues, that is the first thought that pops into my mind.  I am a professional licensed counselor, and I too mess this parenting thing up… often…. maybe almost…

Many spiritual tradition caution against judgement.  It is certainly not consistent with being loving, much less unconditionally loving.  In a way it suggests that we know what something or someone should be or do—and  we never have the whole context of what God’s plan is or what anyone else’s process and evolution is. Judgement goes beyond evaluation in…

By Robin Gardner, CDC, CPC                                                                                                                             Certified Divorce Coach                          …

     Who among us has not experienced closing off and shutting down our loving when something happens that we judge or find hurtful or upsetting.  We withdraw loving somehow thinking that to keep experiencing it would somehow indicate approval for something that we disagree with or see as not caring or even humane.  We also can mistakenly view…

When I’m particularly overwhelmed or drowning in negative emotions, I close my eyes, take a deep breath and remind myself that life is like an ocean. Like the ocean, life is a vast, mysterious, unpredictable force much bigger than any one person. Sometimes it’s beautiful and freeing and joyous. Other times, it’s terrifying and rough…