Bringing your relationship back to equilibrium after a major fight is a challenging task. No matter you both have concluded, but arguments can put a damper on various things. When it comes to recovering from a bad fight, it has two significant sides. Firstly, personal healing which requires a reflective approach to your beliefs and…

Multi-level intimacy, reciprocity and mutual meaning and purpose are three things you can do to create love on purpose in your relationship. There are also some things you can stop doing that will tremendously increase your chances of having a good relationship! While these three things build good relationships there are five practices that can…

See more recent blog entries on my website featuring Trauma, Coping with Stress, Why We Cry, and more…   Is your partner “screwing around” on the Internet? February 21, 2012 It’s important for therapists to keep up to date. The trouble is, one indicator of the vast literature on “couple therapy” produced over 300,000 hits today.…

Aside from my wonderful family, therapy is my great love. Seriously, I can’t imagine myself doing anything else all day. (Though, I did really want to be a flight attendant for a long time; I would love all that travel.) So, when potential clients call me up to inquire about my services, I can barely…

Though I do lots of different kinds of counseling–from hypnotherapy to depression–the bulk of my day is spent in couples work. I have always heard that your clients will tell you what you’re best at doing, and that someday you’ll take a look around and recognize that the constituency of your practice is skewed in…

As I have noted before, NC, the home of my youth is a weird place. It’s a place I love–the place I belong. But, it’s strange nonetheless. For instance, I have yet to understand the rabid, yet tender romance between NC, hipsters and craft beer. I’m a martini girl myself. And no, I don’t consider…

Couples therapists probably have an interesting view on what’s normal. We spend our lives as invited guests on the insides of other people’s relationships. Starting couples therapy is kind of like inviting someone over when you haven’t cleaned up your house and you’re still sitting around in your PJs. It’s your personal space–one in which…