Object Relations Theory is a school within psychodynamic thought that focuses on how early relationships, particularly with primary caregivers, shape the psychological and emotional structure of the individual. Unlike Freud’s drive-based model, which focused on internal conflicts between biological urges and constraints in society, this focuses on the internalization of relationships, or “objects,” which are […]
The term “re-parenting” is frequently used to describe the process of turning inward and providing our younger selves with the care and love we may have lacked in early childhood. This internal work is crucial because when our younger parts don’t receive the nurturing they need, we can develop various symptoms—many psychological diagnoses are linked […]
WHATS THE STORY WITH MEMORY Memory tips that can improve my listening skills are, but not limited to, transferring important information from short –term-memory to long-term-memory. My favorite way to do this is to write things down. I keep a note pad handy to write down important information. The simple act of writing transfers from […]
Ego psychology is a branch of psychoanalysis that highlights the role of the ego in managing and organizing mental functions. Unlike classical psychoanalysis, which focuses primarily on unconscious drives and conflicts (often rooted in the id), ego psychology highlights the ego’s capacity to regulate impulses, plan ahead, and interact with the external world. This approach […]
“The Work” is a term I’ve coined. Drawing from the reference Leonard Cohen used to describe his entire body of work as a poet and songwriter, I view the work as also being deeply connected to the inner work we must all undertake. The Work is a choice. The Work is an inevitable experience […]
Fatherhood brings a strong sense of responsibility and emotional strain that can usually go unspoken. As it is true that many fathers embrace the happiness that comes with parenting, they can also experience anxiety, irritability, emotional withdrawal, or a deep sense of pressure to “hold it all together.” Psychodynamic psychotherapy provides a supportive space to […]
For a long time, I wore the therapist mask well.I held space, tracked patterns, responded with wisdom, and kept going—even when I was bone-tired inside.Clients praised my calm presence. Colleagues called me strong. I nodded, smiled, and delivered. And yet, quietly…I was burning out. But not in the way you’d expect. There were no missed […]
You were called to this work for a reason. Not just because you’re good at listening. Not only because people confide in you. But because somewhere along the way, you were wounded—and you turned toward the wound, not away from it. You learned to hold pain with reverence. You made meaning of your suffering. You […]
Am I a High-Functioning Codependent? Here’s How to Know You’re the one who always shows up. The one who remembers the birthdays, juggles the deadlines, fills in the gaps—quietly, competently, and without asking for help. You get things done, hold everyone together, and make it all look effortless. But inside? You’re tired. You’re nervous system […]
Healthy Boundaries Explained: How Knowing Your Limits Can Improve Mental Health, Relationships, and Daily Life. The Surprising Link Between Boundaries and Freedom “Boundaries” and “freedom” might sound like opposites at first. One implies limits. The other feels expansive. But what I’ve come to know, both through my work as a therapist and in my own […]
