These days we throw the words “narcissist” and “codependent” around like confetti. It is easy to label someone who appears self-centered as the former and one who gives a little bit too much as the latter. Despite the fact that we can easily recognise these traits in people, it is always dangerous to label people…

By Benjamin Marr, M.A., M.B.C. Dedication I dedicate this article to my mother, who always encouraged me to use my assets, although they had their limitations due to my disabilities. She motivated me to use my remaining skills to develop my intellect to an even higher level, never to perceive myself as handicapped (“cap-in-hand”), but…

Can you imagine being locked away with another person for a number of years, isolated from the outside world and seemingly helpless to escape? In the above example, a narcissist would be telling the codependent they are safe with them while trying to find an escape route for themselves! A codependent would be enabling the…

Standing up for yourself conversationally is needed in this day and age if faced with a person of a forceful manner. Invading peoples personal space with upfront aggression is over time a form of bullying.  Bullying in a psychological way or a physical way can also cause harm. If you are in the position of being…

How to have an Intellectually Exciting but Emotionally Unsatisfying Conversatio I.  The Problem Nowadays, it seems as if everyone is a Nazi, fascist or evil. Everywhere you look, people are labeling others as anti-American, racist, sexist, anti-Semitic, homophobic. People are accused of being killers or committing virtual genocide. It might feel emotionally satisfying to label…

Engulfed by a Storm   Those who have never been in a domestic violence situation are often perplexed as to how intelligent people become trapped and why they remain with someone who is abusive. In an effort to help provide clarity let us consider the dynamics of the following story: Imagine as if you are…