Finding out that a partner has been using pornography in secret, or more than you realised, can bring up a surprising mix of feelings: hurt, anger, embarrassment, self-doubt and confusion about whether you are “allowed” to be upset. Some people feel it as a betrayal close to an affair. Others feel unsure what they even […]
We live in a world where we are constantly bombarded with images and messages about sex, yet when it comes to our own personal lives, many of us struggle in silence. We wonder if our libido is too high or too low, if our physical responses are “right,” or if the challenges we face in […]
If you and your partner have different sex drives, welcome to the club. Seriously. This is one of the most common issues couples bring into sex therapy. Usually one person is thinking: “Why am I always the one initiating?” And the other is thinking: “Why does it feel like every cuddle is about to turn […]
“How can I last longer in bed?” It is a question that is asked most often by men. Because men want to perform well and be good lovers. They worry if they’re doing enough to satisfy their lover. Anxiety, worry and pressure are the likely causes of a lot of difficulty experienced in the bedroom. […]
Infidelity, often seen as a breach of trust and a betrayal within a relationship, is a complex issue with roots that run deep within the dynamics of a partnership. While it’s easy to point fingers at one party, it’s essential to recognize that infidelity is frequently a result of actions and interactions involving both individuals […]
Behind the shame and secrecy surrounding out-of-control sexual behavior, sex and pornography addiction—clinically referred to as Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder (CSBD)—is rarely about lust. It is primarily about emotional regulation. Understanding why this compulsion develops, its deep connection to early childhood trauma, and how specialized therapy works can break the silence surrounding this mental health struggle. Why […]
En consulta veo con frecuencia parejas que hablan constantemente y sienten que hace años no se comunican. Coordinan horarios, se cuentan el día, resuelven quién busca a los chicos o qué se cocina esta noche. Palabras van y vienen, sin pausa. Y aun así, cuando les pregunto de qué hablaron por última vez que realmente […]
Algo empieza a sentirse bien, y un segundo después aparece otra voz. No pregunta si está pasando algo agradable. Pregunta si eso está permitido. Si está bien sentirlo así, con esa intensidad, en ese momento, de esa manera. Y ahí, justo ahí, el placer se interrumpe, aunque el cuerpo siga en la misma posición. Esa […]
Se puede nombrar el cansancio. La rutina. El estrés, los hijos, el trabajo, la falta de tiempo. Son explicaciones cómodas, y en parte son ciertas. Pero debajo de esas explicaciones suele haber algo más difícil de decir en voz alta: hace tiempo que el deseo no aparece como antes, y no queda del todo claro […]
If you’ve started looking into recovery, you’ve probably come across the term sexual sobriety. At first glance, it sounds straightforward. Stop watching pornography. Stop acting out. Problem solved. But if you’ve been struggling for any length of time, you already know it’s not that simple. Sexual sobriety isn’t about eliminating sexuality from your life. It’s about […]
