Life can be as hectic as can be this time of year with End-of-School and Summer Planning. These stressors create great strain for couples as they juggle the multitude of demands and additional expenses in their homes. There are a few times of year when things get really hairy, and this is one of them…
These days we throw the words “narcissist” and “codependent” around like confetti. It is easy to label someone who appears self-centered as the former and one who gives a little bit too much as the latter. Despite the fact that we can easily recognise these traits in people, it is always dangerous to label people…
Last night, April 24, 2019 I was watching The Seal Team on TV and rather than being entertained, I was very aggravated. It presented a former Seal team member as having PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) and other ailments. The member went with a friend to the local VA to get help. When they went…
A big part of making and keeping friends is doing your part.If some 1gives too much, anger sets in.Friends can expect forgiveness. But the friend who feels used may want to spend less time with the less reliable friend. When determining the relationship’s value ask yourself these things. 1 Is it too much work? 2…
Some folks want to avoid confrontation at all costs. If you need some quick hints on whether or not to bring up a sore subject, continue reading. Is the sore subject my stuff or another’s? Sometimes folks personalize their partner’s complaints and think it is about them. When in doubt, the complaint may be venting…
Have you ever heard the phrase “I don’t know”, come out of the mouth of a teen or a middle aged man? What feelings does it generate? Does it make you feel angry to hear that? Or do you feel bored and discouraged that a conversation went nowhere? COmmunication is not about the words we…
Remaining a traditionalist into adulthood is your choice. Many young Latinas get pregnant quickly and the rest of their lives are delayed. Perhaps they never learned that education was equally important as marriage and family. A job and education will prepare you for a financial loss or the death of the primary breadwinner. When you…
When considering hiring a therapist to help you resolve your problems here are some tips on selecting one. HOw do you want to pay? Are you ready for your insurance to request your records? If you want increased privacy you may want to pay cash. Consider what you can afford. Is therapy on a short…
Chuck Lorre produced a TV show called Dharma and Greg. I video taped (remember VCR’s?) the first episode. At the end of the show, I saw a blip on the screen and wondered what kind of subliminal message was just zapped into my brain. Freeze framing the blip, I saw Chuck’s first “Vanity Card.” The…
Do you have a meaningful life? Prove it! I. Logotherapy Viktor Frankl, the founder of logotherapy, believed that people have a “will to meaning”, a drive to find purpose in life. Many people find a life without meaning and purpose to be empty and unsatisfying. However, if you ask most people whether they feel they…