For some, childhood is a time of wonder and adventure; a time when all needs are met and comfort is merely a whimper away. For most of us, however, we experienced “they did the best they could” parenting at best and blatant abuse, neglect and abandonment at worst. My path as a therapist and individual…
The word narcissism has been around since 1898 and was identified as a mental disorder defined by pathological self-absorption. There are many additional symptoms of narcissism including a lack of empathy, difficulty with attachment, excessive need for admiration, and a strong need for centralized power. Narcissism lives in systems everywhere within society: families, friends workplaces,…
In today’s world, the term “spin cycle” carries much more weight than it did in the days of our parents and their parents before that. While most of the time we think a spin cycle is a washing machine setting or the name of a cycling class, a spin cycle is also the nickname for…
Part of the support I received during my high conflict divorce with a partner diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, included training in mindfulness and emotional regulation. One of the key learnings for me was prioritizing one of 3 areas in any interpersonal exchange: The goal or outcome of the encounter Preserving the relationship with…
The Importance of Core Values I’ve never been intentional about digging into my top core values and using them to guide my decisions and actions. But that’s why values exist, and it has been one of the best questions I’ve asked myself while healing from narcissistic abuse. It seemed like clearly defining my values was…
More and more people seem to be burdened with some sort of mental illness or condition. The medical industry, where much of the psychotherapy is conducted, seems hooked on palliative ‘solutions’ such as medication and curtailed programs of manualized ‘sausage-machine’-style psychotherapy which assume that every patient is the average patient. There’s no time to actually…
The KEY to heal insecure attachment in relating First of all what is insecure attachment ? It is when there is a difficulty of hardship around feeling safe, stable, at ease and at peace in the area of intimacy and relationships. This can show up as being stuck in a pattern of sabotaging relationships ,…
Do you have a desire to not play out the same story or relational patterns your parents had? Do you feel like you are here to create a new and better future for yourself and future generations? Well you are probably right ,often people who are drawn to me are those who are on the…
Difference between a Holistic Counsellor and a Counsellor The word holistic means reaching a state of wellbeing within the mind, body and spirit. In holistic counselling , clients get to experience transpersonal therapy. This is a form of therapy that goes beyond the mind. Not only are psychological methodologies applied to help the client…
BREAKING CODEPENDENCY When it comes to relationships… what a profound and empowering time we live in . With the internet ,abundance of information and resources we now have the power to become deeply integrated in ourselves. We have the power and choice to do the work and become whole in ourselves so we can attract…