Your anxiety is not just chemical. Your depression is not just trauma. Underneath, almost always, there is a quiet idolatry no one ever taught you to look for. I am not talking about statues and altars. I am talking about the much more painful kind — the kind that happens when a wounded soul, in […]
You were never broken. You were buried. There is a difference, and the difference is everything. The world tells you to fix yourself. Even a lot of Christian self-help tells you to fix yourself with better verses. But the Father’s invitation is something entirely other. He is not interested in fixing you. He is interested […]
Domestic violence continues to impact individuals and families across Canada regardless of age, culture, education level, income, gender, or profession. At Therapedia Centre, we often meet clients who never imagined they would find themselves in emotionally, psychologically, physically, or financially abusive relationships. Many are educated professionals, parents, healthcare workers, entrepreneurs, or individuals who appear highly […]
A friend recently asked me to revisit a blog post I wrote called Relationships and Power. His takeaway? “Everything in life is a negotiation.” He’s not wrong—relational dynamics do involve give and take. But he went further, suggesting that couples should approach negotiations from a clear-headed, unemotional place to achieve outcomes that are fair to both […]
Many people equate boundaries with being harsh, selfish, or “closing people out.” But healthy boundaries aren’t walls—they’re wise limits that protect love, dignity, and connection. Without boundaries, relationships often slide into resentment, burnout, and confusion. With boundaries, you can be generous without being depleted, honest without being cruel, and loving without losing yourself. If you’ve […]
When a loved one, family member or friend struggles with addiction, the instinct might be to swoop in and try to rescue them. However, there is a fine line between helping and enabling, and crossing it can be devastating for everyone involved. Let’s look a little more closely at the difference between enabling and helping. […]
Healing Deep Wounds with Faith and Evidence-Based Care What Is Complex Trauma? Complex trauma—often referred to in clinical settings as Complex PTSD—develops from prolonged or repeated exposure to emotionally painful or unsafe experiences, often in early life. Unlike single-incident trauma, complex trauma is relational. It can stem from neglect, chronic stress, abandonment, or unstable caregiving. […]
Setting boundaries with a family member who struggles with addiction can be frightening, stressful, and often does not end up with positive results because people set boundaries when they are upset, emotional and have “had enough”. As an Addiction Therapist who, over the past 30+ years, has worked with people affected by addiction (whether it’s […]
When you love someone struggling with addiction (for example, drugs, alcohol, food, porn, gambling), your world often shrinks until it revolves entirely around their choices, their safety, and their moods. You may find yourself trapped in a cycle of “saving” and “rescuing” them, only to watch the same patterns repeat. The hard truth that many […]
What Do Couples Argue About? www.bastiontherapy.com You may have wondered what other couples argue about. And if you reflect on your own arguments, you may have wondered how your arguments relate to how other couples argue and whether couples therapy might be helpful. First, let’s recognize that disagreements among couples is normal, but that conflict […]
