“I know they’re bad for me, so why can’t I let go?” It is one of the most painful questions people bring to counselling. You may be able to list every hurtful thing that happened, and still feel a pull towards the person who hurt you that seems stronger than reason. Friends may not understand. […]
Originally published at True Health Counselling. I know how hard you’ve been trying. You’ve rewritten your website. You’ve posted more. You’ve written the articles, taken the marketing course, maybe paid someone to “fix” your business. And some months it works. Other months, nothing you do seems to move anything, and you can’t figure out why. […]
Perfectionism often wears a socially acceptable mask. It can look like ambition, high standards, or a strong work ethic. From the outside, perfectionists are often praised—reliable, driven, detail-oriented. But beneath that surface is often a constant pressure: Do more. Be better. Don’t mess this up. And no matter how much is accomplished, it rarely feels […]
Starting therapy can feel like a big step. Maybe you’ve been thinking about reaching out for a while. Maybe you know something in your life needs to change, but you’re not quite sure where to begin. Or maybe you’ve already scheduled your first appointment and are wondering, What am I supposed to talk about? What […]
Originally published at True Health Counselling. I know the ache of loving someone for who they could become. I know the nights you replay the moments that felt like pure love. The ones that felt like home, like touching something holy. And I know how those moments made it possible to tolerate a daily reality […]
Jealousy is a common human emotion that can arise in romantic relationships, friendships, family dynamics, and even the workplace. While jealousy can feel overwhelming, it doesn’t mean something is wrong with you or your relationship. Often, it signals an underlying fear, unmet emotional need, or concern about losing something important. The goal isn’t to eliminate […]
Infidelity, often seen as a breach of trust and a betrayal within a relationship, is a complex issue with roots that run deep within the dynamics of a partnership. While it’s easy to point fingers at one party, it’s essential to recognize that infidelity is frequently a result of actions and interactions involving both individuals […]
There’s a certain kind of exhaustion that comes from always being “the nice one.” The reliable one. The person who says yes, smooths things over, avoids conflict, and keeps everyone else comfortable—even at the expense of their own needs. This pattern, often called people pleasing, can look admirable on the outside. But internally, it’s often […]
Many of us know the feeling. A look, tone or single word can suddenly send a conversation down a familiar path. We may have had the same argument so many times that we can almost predict what happens next. One person pushes for connection or change. The other becomes defensive, overwhelmed or shuts down. The […]
Sometimes an argument reaches a point where talking stops feeling productive. The heart rate rises. Breathing changes. The body becomes tense or restless, or perhaps everything begins to feel distant and numb. The urge to explain, defend, pursue or withdraw becomes stronger. At that point, it can be surprisingly difficult to access the qualities we […]
