Automatic thoughts are mental functions that occur without conscious judgment, deeply affecting our actions and emotions. These thoughts, which occur depending on the events in the environment, originate from our more stable beliefs and schemas. These thoughts are considered by the person to be true. Negative automatic thoughts that lead to dysfunctional and unresolved moods…

Has losing your temper caused problems in relationships, at work or school, with your neighbors, or on the road? Maybe you’ve been arrested, lost custody of your children, or been served with divorce papers. When rage is severe or interrupts your life, anger management counseling may be in order. But there are some things you…

More and more people seem to be burdened with some sort of mental illness or condition.  The medical industry, where much of the psychotherapy is conducted, seems hooked on palliative ‘solutions’ such as medication and curtailed programs of manualized ‘sausage-machine’-style psychotherapy which assume that every patient is the average patient.  There’s no time to actually…

It’s Valentine’s Weekend and a major issue for many teenagers is if they have a boyfriend or girlfriend.  Having a girlfriend or boyfriend is very important to many teenagers.  Often teenagers feel defective if they do not have a girlfriend or boyfriend.  Many people are familiar with this line, “you complete me,” from the movie,…

Engulfed by a Storm   Those who have never been in a domestic violence situation are often perplexed as to how intelligent people become trapped and why they remain with someone who is abusive. In an effort to help provide clarity let us consider the dynamics of the following story: Imagine as if you are…

As a psychotherapist, I often meet individuals, couples and families who at first describe the relationships that matter the most in their lives as ‘very close’, ‘tight’, and supportive. But later, after understanding the issues that brought them to my office, I view them more as insular systems that nurture – or even demand –…

“You Complete Me” Many people are familiar with this line from the movie, Jerry McGuire, starring Tom Cruise. A deaf couple signs this message to each other in an elevator and Tom Cruise’s character assumes they must really be in love. However, this may not be the reality. In reality it may be an unhealthy…

Many kids, despite what they say, really enjoy school. They like seeing their friends, their teacher and learning. However, some kids are not as excited and even worried about going to school. Many of these kids were bullied last year and they are afraid of being bullied again this year. Often when a child is…