What are you striving for when you are in the pursuit of Balance in your life? Do you have a visual of a scale perfectly balanced in the middle? Are you looking to work 9-5 and then you are OFF? Are you looking to break down your day into thirds: sleep, work, live? What is…
When I first started my career I worked with a lot of teenagers and I began to develop this metaphor of being your own brownie. I heard from these lovely young girls (usually, but not always- teenagers identifying as non-binary and boys all expressed this) over and over the extreme focus, emphasis they were putting…
This is one of my favorite quotes and I use it often when talking with my clients about relationships. Not only their intimate relationships but also their relationship with themselves. Think back to when you fell, fell into that love you hold tightest to your heart. What did you fall for first? Their eyes? Smile?…
Perceptions. A couple walks into my office and I point to a wall tapestry that is rich in colors (reds, orange, greens, yellows, tans and browns), I ask them to come back the following week with a pillow to match the tapestry. The following week they return with different colors; one green the other red.…
Relationships. They can have so many moments of ups, downs and in-betweens. During the last six months the impact of your intimate relationships on your ability to navigate life has become more clear than ever. Pandemic, protests, elections, killer bees, feast or famine…who we lean on in uncertainty is the essence of our stress response…
Does your boss nit-pick EVERYTHING you do? Do you come home crying from your mother-in-law’s because of her CONSTANT criticism? Do you have coworkers or friends who always find fault and just won’t accept you for who you are? Watch this short video for 4 techniques you can use right away to defuse them all!…
To share or not to share? That’s definitely the question! While most couples share everything with each other, there’s always a percentage of thoughts and feelings that aren’t fully expressed. That’s natural – you’re the only person living in your mind, so you can’t possibly key your loved one in on every passing thought. That’s…
Have you decided how you want the rest of the year to go yet? Yes, this is a decision… Regardless of what the world is doing out there you still have control over your mind, your feelings, your actions, your home, your work and the rest of it… This is a hard concept for some…
Marriage expert and founder of the Gottman Institute, John Gottman discovered that small or seemingly insignificant things can lead to couples fighting. Not to say that couples don’t fight, but the fight isn’t necessarily about the topic that started it. Typically, couples are arguing because someone is feeling hurt or neglected. Bidding for Your Partner…
The time has come to decide who you really are, who you are meant to become, what kind of relationship you want and what kind of life you want. This is it! Do you want an extraordinary life? Have you noticed that more and more systems are breaking down and revamping (deconstructing and reconstructing…)? We…