If you have a partner, sometimes they will want to be with someone else. Don’t worry, they don’t have the same relationship as they do with you, if you are attracted. Its a psychological illusion that your parter appears to be cheating on you! In any relationship there are good days and bad days. It’s…
If there is troubling thoughts on your mind there is a circle time technique to carry out within the family dyad. Here is the method to use specific to my practice. 1- Find an object, such as a teddy bear toy. 2-Arrange to meet together at a certain time 3-At the gathering sit in a…
What we’re really asking each other for, and what we should seek instead. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we were loved and accepted exactly as we are? Many times during psychotherapy sessions, my clients have uttered some version of, “I just want to be unconditionally loved! I want someone who can accept me with my flaws and…
In a highly competitive market, service-based businesses need to capitalize on any opportunity to set themselves apart from their (often very similar) competitors. Perhaps the best way to distinguish your business is to foster strong client relationships based on the quality of your service. In reviewing the Imperial research to expand the frontiers of knowledge in…
I statements; statements that begin with the word I This is a common skill used in treatment of those seeking couples therapy, but why is it so important and how does it work? Using I statements helps you take responsibility for your own feelings and improves communication so your partner doesn’t need to guess how…
Myths about marriage are all around us. Some come from the media and others from our own families. One of the most persistent myths that continues is that when you are with “the one” then the relationship should be easy. Other misconceptions are developed in our family, for instance if you grew up in a…
Body Shaming and The Thief of Joy …
I have been surprised at how many men sit in my office with a baffled look on their face telling me they don’t get women. They love their wife and want her to be happy but they feel like they are in no-man’s land trying to navigate the minefield. One wrong step – BOOM –…
Be Curious. Get to know your friend, it takes time to learn about another person. Don’t be so quick to assume or jump to conclusions. Avoid Attacking or Judging others. Listen and Validate. Friends want to be heard and understood by you. Listen to what the other person is saying. Use those empathy skills to…
Engulfed by a Storm Those who have never been in a domestic violence situation are often perplexed as to how intelligent people become trapped and why they remain with someone who is abusive. In an effort to help provide clarity let us consider the dynamics of the following story: Imagine as if you are…