Most people delaying doing chores or anything unpleasant, because it isn’t fun. Next time you are resistant to exercise, chores or paid work consider the following. What do you gain my putting off the task? Hint Usually you may incur more stress, if there is a deadline. Who is being hurt by your delayed action?  Hint Dog…

How to have an Intellectually Exciting but Emotionally Unsatisfying Conversatio I.  The Problem Nowadays, it seems as if everyone is a Nazi, fascist or evil. Everywhere you look, people are labeling others as anti-American, racist, sexist, anti-Semitic, homophobic. People are accused of being killers or committing virtual genocide. It might feel emotionally satisfying to label…

What we’re really asking each other for, and what we should seek instead. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we were loved and accepted exactly as we are? Many times during psychotherapy sessions, my clients have uttered some version of, “I just want to be unconditionally loved! I want someone who can accept me with my flaws and…

In a highly competitive market, service-based businesses need to capitalize on any opportunity to set themselves apart from their (often very similar) competitors. Perhaps the best way to distinguish your business is to foster strong client relationships based on the quality of your service.  In reviewing the Imperial research to expand the frontiers of knowledge in…

I statements; statements that begin with the word I  This is a common skill used in treatment of those seeking couples therapy, but why is it so important and how does it work? Using I statements helps you take responsibility for your own feelings and improves communication so your partner doesn’t need to guess how…

Myths about marriage are all around us.  Some come from the media and others from our own families.  One of the most persistent myths that continues is that when you are with “the one” then the relationship should be easy.  Other misconceptions are developed in our family, for instance if you grew up in a…