A relationship rarely falls apart because of one problem. More often, they begin to struggle when one or more foundational pillars become unstable. When couples come into my office, they usually know what feels broken. The affair. The lack of intimacy. The constant arguments. The addiction. The finances. They naturally focus on the crisis that’s […]
Few experiences are as painful as discovering that someone you love has been unfaithful. Whether the affair was emotional, physical, or occurred online, infidelity often leaves both partners questioning everything they believed about their relationship. One of the first questions I hear in therapy is, “Can we ever get past this?” The answer is: Yes—but […]
Fights Are Rarely About What You’re Fighting About Fights are normal. Most couples come into therapy convinced they know why they argue. The dishes. The money. The children. The in-laws. The lack of intimacy. The text message that wasn’t answered. Those may be the topics of the argument, but they’re rarely the reason the argument […]
You and your partner may be having difficulty “talking things out.” Perhaps you go in circles, hit a brick wall, or end up at a stalemate. It’s frustrating and exhausting — and it’s easy to conclude that if you could just communicate better, everything would improve. But here’s what I’ve found after more than a […]
Londra siamo tutte italiane. Poi qualcuna se ne va. C’è un pranzo che si ripete, ogni volta che qualcuna se ne va. Non abbiamo mai una casa abbastanza grande per ospitare tutti. Qui gli affitti non lasciano spazio per tavoli da dodici. Allora ci si trova in un parco. Ognuna porta quello che ha […]
Relationships rarely fall apart in one dramatic moment. Most of the time, they change quietly, in the small spaces between busy days and tired nights. Two people who once felt completely in sync suddenly realise they’re speaking different emotional languages, even though they’re living under the same roof. It can feel confusing, lonely, and sometimes […]
You’re not overreacting. And you’re not “too sensitive,” “too emotional,” or “too much.” But sometimes it might feel like that’s the story you’re telling yourself after a reaction you didn’t fully understand—an argument that escalated quickly, a sudden shutdown, a wave of anxiety when someone pulls away, or that intense urge to fix, explain, or […]
Many people come to therapy saying, “I have anger issues.” What often follows is a story of feeling misunderstood, values undermined, boundaries pushed, overwhelmed, dismissed, hurt, exhausted, or pushed beyond their limits. The truth is that anger is one of the most misunderstood emotions. We are often taught that anger is bad, dangerous, disrespectful, or […]
Have you ever looked around and wondered how everyone else seems to be managing while you are barely keeping your head above water? Many of us have learned to survive difficult experiences by pushing through, staying busy, taking care of everyone else, or telling ourselves to “just get over it.” or “I am strong.” We […]
I was talking with a friend the other day, and he was wondering out loud: Why do women so often say men don’t understand them? It struck me as a fair question. I get a lot of business due to couples having problems communicating with – understanding – each other. No matter how we define or construe […]
