There’s a particular kind of discomfort that comes when you’re growing — and you can’t quite name it. You’re doing everything right on the outside. You’re showing up, performing, achieving. But something inside is restless. Something is asking: Is this really who I am? That discomfort isn’t a problem to fix. It’s an invitation. It’s […]
When your partner says that thing in that tone—and you feel the urge to shut down, snap, or launch a well-rehearsed monologue—there’s one move that can change everything: curiosity. Curiosity in conflict is a game changer. It slows down reactivity. It invites understanding. And it builds connection right where disconnection usually takes root. Asking yourself questions like “What […]
Choosing a Particular Trauma Relief Therapy If your life was disrupted by an unexpected experience and you cannot stop the cycles of self-doubt, sorrow or frustration, help is available in many forms. Anxiety, trauma, PTSD and complex trauma can be cured. Receiving compassionate and effective help after a life shock is very important. However, Choosing […]
Are you feeling heart-ached, broken and full of sorrow over communication? The good news is this is probably much easier to solve than it feels! By utilizing the following practices first with a loved one, second with yourself, and third (if you like) with God, you will become happier, grateful and relieved pretty quickly! Anyone […]
Waiting for an apology can keep you emotionally tied to someone who may never have the capacity to give you the closure you’re seeking. One of the most heartbreaking things I witness in therapy isn’t conflict. It’s hope. Hope that this time your parent, sibling, or family member will finally understand. Hope they’ll acknowledge what […]
Few experiences are as painful as discovering that someone you love has been unfaithful. Whether the affair was emotional, physical, or occurred online, infidelity often leaves both partners questioning everything they believed about their relationship. One of the first questions I hear in therapy is, “Can we ever get past this?” The answer is: Yes—but […]
Many people come to therapy saying, “I have anger issues.” What often follows is a story of feeling misunderstood, values undermined, boundaries pushed, overwhelmed, dismissed, hurt, exhausted, or pushed beyond their limits. The truth is that anger is one of the most misunderstood emotions. We are often taught that anger is bad, dangerous, disrespectful, or […]
In a world that feels uncertain and scary, people can develop more rigid thinking to regain a sense of control or safety. Unfortunately, this can lead to broken relationships, loneliness, and isolation. Below, I address common thinking pitfalls related to relationships and how to manage them. Black and white thinking (also known as “all-or-nothing thinking”)- […]
Certain conversations sound simple until you actually have them. This is one of them. People throw around words like sympathy, empathy, and validation as if they all mean the same thing. They don’t. And if we confuse them, we can end up doing something very dangerous in relationships: we can believe we are helping someone […]
Life can feel like an endless to-do list. Between errands, chasing kids around, demanding work schedules, and maintaining a household, it’s easy to let your relationship take a backseat. Date nights might occasionally break up the routine, but lasting relationships require something deeper—a long-term glue that holds you together beyond just the next evening […]
